How do manipulative people relate?

Without realizing it, we can be immersed in relationships with manipulative people. People who change our way of thinking or acting, only for their own good.

There are different “categories” within manipulators, depending on the control that individual exercises over us. If this pressure is very serious, experts call it: “narcissistic perversity.” and we will talk about it in this article.

Surely you have seen several movies, read books or heard stories about people who manipulate their partners, their children, their friends, etc. This type of personality exists in all families and we are not always aware of the situation. What’s more, we can even be victims of manipulative people right now and not know it.

What are manipulative people like?

Narcissistic perverts, as some psychologists call this profile, They are those who are constantly telling others what to doin a subtle way (or not), but with an effectiveness that is truly frightening, while at the same time restricting your freedom.

These people, in turn, They may have other types of negative behaviorsfor example, emotional excesses of all kinds, aggressive and threatening behavior, continuous lack of respect and contempt.

When we talk about a perverse individual, he is so 24 hours a day, without distinction.. The relationship with his victim has been determined in this way and there is nothing that can change it, unless the one who is suffering from manipulation begins to want to change the situation.

Especially in relationships with a manipulative person, it can take a long time for the victim to realize what is happening. They do not want to listen to what their loved ones tell them, they believe that everyone is wrong, that the other person does it because they love them, that they can make their own decisions, that they are not afraid of them, etc.

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Victim and manipulator

At some point, it is still not clear why, the person suffering from the manipulator’s clutches wakes up.

Beyond saying that the victim of a manipulator has shortcomings or problems, we must indicate that the perverted narcissist is the one who also needs help.

Although in relationships we all complement each other, The one who has the most to lose is the manipulator, not the manipulated.. This is so, since it is “consuming” something that the victim has, such as intellectual capacity, kindness, charisma, solidarity, self-esteem, friendships, work, health, etc.

We always talk about the characteristics of manipulative people and how to realize if someone is controlling us, but we never put into question judgment Why does that person react this way?what you are needing and how you ask for help.

We are not saying with this that he is not responsible or guilty for his actions, however, It would be necessary to analyze what traumas or problems from the past have led him to act in that way or what your deepest needs are. When a narcissistic pervert meets someone easy to control, that is where he can put into practice or deposit all of his traumas.

No intention of offending anyone, a manipulator acts when the victim allows it. This does not always happen on purpose on the part of the manipulated person, and there are even cases in which the perpetrator does not realize it either.

The reason for this perversity

The manipulative person envies what the other has, so he uses his tools to take it. The victim cannot see the maneuvers used against her, she is blind from being so in love, she does not take the other’s actions as something negative, etc.

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But This can influence your mind and emotions., the same thing happens with a drop that falls on a stone, after thousands of years it ends up wearing it down. When a manipulator encounters a self-confident person, who has his own opinions about certain things and has even had something bad happen to him before with a narcissistic pervert, he has more weapons to not allow the spider’s webs to envelop him.

But be careful, No one is 100% immune from this type of personality.since some know perfectly how to do a “fine job” and almost imperceptible, until the other becomes a puppet.

Be very careful with the people you associate with. It is not a question of feeling threatened or persecuted all the time, but of walking on safe paths. Don’t hesitate to do some introspection work to determine, objectively, if you can have a personality that can be easily manipulated.