You will always feel worthless when you go to other people to try to prove that you are good enough. The pat on the back you deserve will never come until you recognize your own worth. When we feel worthless, it’s because we’re expecting others to see what we want them to see in us.

We consider ourselves useless because no one has noticed us. We can free ourselves from the anxiety of worrying about what others think when we realize that the value people place on us is how we have seen ourselves.

As cliché as it may sound, our worth really starts from within, but only when we realize it for ourselves. Imagine looking for your cell phone, hoping that your friend on the other side of the world can help you find it when it’s within reach. This is how you feel when you don’t see your true value and try to find it through other people.

There is no universal metric for defining value, which is why it doesn’t matter what people think about us.

No amount of money or material possessions can determine our worth. The only way to find out where your value lies is to pay attention to what you want to make the most of, without the expectation of getting something in return.

What do you love to do without needing to receive praise from other people?

That’s where your value comes from.

When something is given freely, it has more value because it is sincere, with no strings attached. When price and conditions are placed on what we give, it loses value over time because it becomes limited, fleeting.

When something is priceless, the value increases over time, making it impossible to set a price.

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When something comes from you and you don’t know whether others notice it or not, that’s where your value lies. You become free and infinite in your giving when it is based on what you love about yourself. Your creativity becomes restricted when you look for something outside of yourself when it is already well within you.

There was a time when I thought I was worthless because of what others might think about my job. I didn’t realize what I had to offer until I fell in love with what I had to offer my work, and that’s when I discovered value within myself. That’s when I realized that I was really worth a lot.

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I began to give more, because I knew how it would feel to receive the same from others. It gave me such joy to give money to someone I knew I would never see again. Giving a random stranger a kind word or a hug made me feel like I was on the receiving side.

My value increased because it didn’t matter who noticed or whether they appreciated what I gave or not. So I gave freely, and I gave genuinely.

By nature, people have a mindset of “always wanting more”. More money. More material goods. More achievements. More hours of sleep. More hours during the day.

Almost no one is happy with what they have, because it’s always possible to have more. Almost no one is happy with who they are, because it’s always possible to be more. “More” is about others and what they think about you. “Value” is about you and how you feel no matter what others think and without needing to get something in return.

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When I realized that I was enough and that I had enough, I discovered that I was not useless.

People began to notice what I noticed in myself.

We give and then wonder why people are so unimpressed or ungrateful. We give, and it feels like it’s all for nothing when we don’t get the appreciation or recognition we think we deserve. I’m sure you’ve been through this, me too.

When we do things that seemingly fail because of someone else’s inability to realize what we’ve done, it’s because it was never meant for them. It was for us all along. Value is not measured by the crowd or the recipient.

You will be worthy once you discover your own worth, even if the world hasn’t noticed yet.