Here’s What Happens When You Love Someone More Than They Love You

One thing I’ve learned over the years, through many good and bad relationships, is that one of the most important factors in relationship success (or failure) is balance – compromise balance, desire balance, love balance.

To build a happy relationship, both of you need to be in balance.

So when you love someone more than they love you, it’s time to ask yourself if this is really the kind of relationship you want. Is this person really the perfect fit for you? Or do you deserve more than that?

If this sounds familiar, know that I’ve been there too and I know it sucks. Maybe you’re telling yourself that you love him/her enough for both of you, or that he/she loves you too, but you just need to figure it out.

When it comes to matters of the heart, anything is possible. But is it likely? To answer that and more, I turned to some relationship experts to understand how to be with a partner who loves you less than you love him/her.

I asked if this kind of relationship is healthy and if it is worth fighting for. Here’s what they told me:

Why are we sometimes willing to accept a partner loving us less than we love him/her?

Out of context, it seems ridiculous to think that you would be with someone who doesn’t love you as much as you love them. But life and love are complicatedand sometimes it does, especially after a series of failed relationships.

Relationship expert and author Alexis Nicole White says that when you’ve been hurt in love repeatedly, over time you may start looking for someone you can maintain a long-term relationship with, saying, “You’re more likely to accept the lack of reciprocity for a long time.” say that he/she has someone. Regrettably, you can accept it”

Dr. Lesliebeth Wish, a licensed clinical psychotherapist and founder of the blog LoveVictory.com, has a slightly more hopeful way of thinking about the situation, as what can seem like a situation where one partner loves more than the other it may just be a difference in how each one expresses their feelings.

She says: “for example, one person can buy gifts, while another person can take care of finances, the house and other responsibilities”.

So consider whether this is a possibility before you come to the conclusion that there is a disparity in feelings.

“Don’t make your relationship difficult by getting stuck in the belief that one partner always loves more than the other,” he says. “This belief can destroy your relationship.”

Is this kind of relationship healthy?

While some couples may be able to speak different love languages, the reality is that for some couples it may just be a love imbalance. In such cases, the question is: is this healthy for you?

“No, it’s not healthy or fair because the length of a relationship doesn’t solidify the quality of the relationship,” says Lesliebeth.

“People deserve to be in healthy relationships that are reciprocal and fruitful, not mediocre and stagnant”.

What should I do if I’m in a relationship like this?

And now? Is the relationship automatically a lost cause? Is there nothing else to do but pack your things and leave?

Well, not necessarily. Dr. Wish says that if this is a relationship you really want, and your partner is willing to work with you, there is still hope! There is also the option of counseling.

Before deciding to end your relationship/marriage, seek professional advice to see if your outlook is correct and healthy.

Learn ways to express your feelings about feeling unloved and develop a different understanding of how you and your partner show love.

However, if your partner isn’t willing to invest in the relationship and work alongside you to make things better, the best thing to do is break up to avoid further damage in the future.

It’s never good to accept just the bare minimum from someone. While this may seem brutal at the moment, the truth is that you need to be free to find true love.

You deserve to be loved in the most powerful and passionate way there is. Don’t settle for less than that!

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