Heal the wound of betrayal

Betrayal is one of the most painful experiences we can live. It doesn’t matter if it’s your partner, friends or a family member. Whenever they break our trust A wound opens that takes time to heal and sometimes never heals at all.. Of course, this wound is greater when the person who betrays is someone we trust.

However, not all disappointments can be classified as treason. In reality, all human beings fail others at some point. There are situations in which we are not able to rise to the occasion and we end up causing disappointment to those we love.

However, The betrayal that hurts and that marks is one that is carried out deliberately. In full conscience and for purely selfish reasons. The one that comes from someone who has assured us something and when push comes to shove, behaves in a different way, being aware that he is breaking his word.

The different types of betrayal

There are different types of betrayal. From betrayal of oneself, to that which is the result of a plot hatched and patiently carried out against another. When we talk about this topic, we usually think about love betrayal. However, this is not the only one that exists.

All forms of betrayal have two aspects in common: the break with something established, implicitly or explicitly, previously, on the one hand. And the fraud of trust by the other.

He who is betrayed tastes the bitterest taste of deception . Feels mocked and minimized. Her feelings, thoughts and expectations have been overlooked. He was turned into an object within the purposes of another. That is, he was reified and used for something of which he was not aware. That is why betrayal is so painful and leaves such a strong mark.

Overcome a betrayal

The most harmful effect of a betrayal is to leave a deep mark of distrust in the person who was defrauded, since he may begin to distrust everyone, as a result of his experience. Encountering the double face of another person is a long-lasting impact that, generally, does not heal on its own. Therefore, it is important to find a way to overcome the betrayal. These are some keys to achieve it:

Assess the situation. It is important to clarify the circumstances in which the betrayal occurred. Above all, carefully examine whether there was a deliberate intent to defraud or not. Intentions do count.Don’t blame yourself. Although the betrayed person is the victim, he often falls into the temptation of reproaching himself for what happened. He flagellated himself, repeating over and over again how stupid he was. You should not assume the responsibility that belongs to another. And, above all, it is important to be good to yourself.Accept what happened. Sometimes we also fall into denial or renouncing what happened. This does not allow progress. It is best to accept what happened and examine whether there is a solution for what happened or not.Give yourself time. Betrayal often leaves feelings ruined. It is good to give yourself some time for the initial impact to subside and give way to a more lucid vision of what happened.Take stock. All human beings fail sometimes. We must not forget this. As hard as it may be, it is important to make a balance between what that person has contributed to our lives and the real weight of his betrayal.Seek the path of forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean accepting what happened without consequences. Nor act as if nothing had happened. Rather, it is about reconciling with oneself and learning to leave what happened behind.

Although betrayal is a bitter pill to swallow, it does not always have to result in lifelong trauma. The first obligation of those who are betrayed is to try to regain balance to move forward.. What must be avoided is that someone else’s mistake becomes the mark that marks the rest of our life.

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