Gray clouds are also part of beautiful landscapes

The sky, with its interesting mutations, is like the sea in which the face of life is reflectedor at least the canvas on which we can find phenomena, in some way, parallel, similar or comparable.

In both dimensions (earth and sky; heart and emotion), in that of the clouds and in that of everyday life, there are moments, even days, of storms. Depending on the area you live in, also depending in part on the environment that surrounds you. We talk of course about the sun and the gray clouds that rage when there is a storm.

Because a rainy day, in which the sky is filled with gray clouds, is really beautiful when it is a bit cold, you are under a roof that protects you and you have a book at hand in which to get lost… because Sometimes other people’s stories calm our own..

The written words speak to us and we tell them. We tell them through a silent dialogue in which we are free, because there is no character who judges or sells advice, unless it is for a laugh, nor is there anyone who does not listen in his way.

Gray cloud days

Surely you remember more than one day in which you have thought, “what good I would have done by staying in bed today; If I know, I won’t get up.”. And it’s curious, because what we don’t think about is that in order for us to evaluate a green traffic light, a red one must exist.

What’s more, it has to exist and we have to encounter it sometime. It may seem paradoxical, but many times it is our small misfortunes that make it easier for us to value our great fortunes.

At the red light, like on the cold stormy day, we can find an opportunity. That of closing our eyes and breathing, that of intuiting the stories of the people who have had to wait with us.

In this sense, if they are not going to give us back the time we spend waiting, why not find a way to take advantage of it, even enjoy it?

Emotions that find food

Something similar happens with emotions (gray clouds), those that we consider negative and undesirable. We talk about sadness, anger or fear. From envy, hatred, disgust or resentment. Those that no one wants for themselves or for the people they love.

However, and here another of our great contradictions comes to our wreck. Are emotions that we do not want, but which we often feedguaranteeing their survival, or we do makeup, thus enhancing their leading role.

Why do we do it if we call those gray clouds undesirable? Many times we do it because they bring us large “secondary profits”.

We discover that when we are sad we receive more attention or that when we get angry those around us take much more care in the way they treat us. Let’s see: attention, careful treatment, preference, who doesn’t find this series of privileges seductive?

On the other hand, what child has not ever pretended to be sick to avoid going to school? Well, who among us has not ever simulated an emotion to obtain one of these secondary gains?

We may not have done it consciously and premeditatedly (most of the time we do it that way), of course no one is so twisted (I apologize for the irony) to do it any other way.

The fact is that, unlike what happens when we try to avoid a morning of boring lessons, Emotions tend to be truly born when we simulate them.

Born or maintained. In many cases this simulation appears once the original emotion has disappeared..

Let’s imagine that grandmother who has been widowed and with whom her relatives have gone out of their way to facilitate and alleviate their grief. Our dear grandmother may feel that if she stops showing others that she is sad, others will withdraw the attention and care they give her.

In this sense, it is not unusual for it to begin to simulate the emotion to some degree, without realizing it perpetuating the emotion itself… because as we have said, emotions can hardly be simulated without falling into their traps.

Energy and information, the great power of gray clouds

In this sense, a healthy exercise of introspection can show us that we are in a dynamic similar to the one our dear grandmother has begun.

However, This does not mean that we try to immediately remove from ourselves any negative emotion that we feel.. That is to say, many times it is true that we feel sad and that we need that love. It’s okay to receive it, it will help us, we are not and will not be weaker for accepting it.

This is one of the true adaptive meanings of negative emotions. The other has to do with information and energy. Every emotion has these two elements. For example, anger warns us that someone or something may have harmed us and the energy allows us to act if we think it is necessary to intervene.

In case we do not consider it necessary (and this is where good emotional management makes the difference), We will have to find a way to dissipate that energy that moves us inside. A way that does not harm anyone, starting with ourselves.

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