Give yourself time to love, be, enjoy, think, feel…

The best moment of your life is always now. Yesterday has already happened and the future does not yet exist, so take a breath, breathe and open that gaze located right in the center of your heart. Give yourself time to love and love yourself as you deserve, time to think and feel the warm caress of this present that will never be repeated again.

William James, famous philosopher and mental health psychologist, wrote about time perception in one of his books: “Psychology: The Briefer Course.” In it, he explained a fact that many will be familiar with: As we get older we have the clear feeling that time passes much faster. It’s almost like a fleeting flicker, something peculiar and even terrifying.

According to James, this is primarily due to the fact that when we get older, events no longer happen as memorable as in those years of youth where everything is new (that first love, that trip, that job, a new house, a new child…). Besides, Life, sometimes, whether we like it or not, becomes a little more routine. Our daily lives are part of a slow and repetitive moviola where we see, do and experience the same things, the same events.

Little by little The brain, lacking significant stimuli, enters a destructive spiral where our neurochemistry changes, where memory begins to fail and awareness of time becomes imprecise. Something that could undoubtedly be easily avoided if we were able to give new approaches to the movie of our lives.

It would just be about breaking routines, getting out of that existential fog to cling to the present and nourish it with significant events.. It’s easier than it seems: we suggest you reflect on it.

Your brain has a strange conception of time

We have all heard of mindfulness. This approach has been successfully applied to clinical psychology for a few years, with the aim of self-regulating attention, accepting what is in the present, and in turn, expanding our fields of action to be able to act in a more creative way. in harmony with our values.

Now, there is one aspect that is interesting to know about this topic: it does not work for everyone and it is not as easy to apply as it seems at first. Beyond the clinical setting, There are many people who want to get started in Mindfulness, realizing after a while that it is of no use to them.which fail to integrate these methods or enhance this vital approach.

This is because our brain has a strange conception of time, or rather, of the present. Bob Nease is a social scientist and systems engineer with a deep interest in the human mind. With his book“The Power of Fifty Bits” He explained to us that our brain is not designed to maintain attention on a specific aspect, on a single focus of interest. Our senses, our instincts, do not understand present, future or past time, they understand survival.

The human mind lives suspended on autopilot with a tendency to focus on multiple stimuli at the same time to process risks.It is good to train our mind to convince it of “that everything is fine”, of “that everything is calm”.

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Learn to “synchronize” yourself with the present

We are sure that you have heard the classic phrase many times “Stop your watch, get out of your routine and dare to live in the here and now.” This classic phrase from a self-help manual, as we already know, has nuances. We cannot escape our routines, we are all obliged to comply with schedulesto carry out activities that are part of that engine that drives and shapes our lives.

Now, it would be more about making these routines meaningful, about learning to synchronize with the present in a more authentic, fuller way. The sociologist Zygmunt Bauman, for example, describes today’s society as a liquid entity where nothing lasts, where everything is discarded or changed. However, More than a liquid universe, we have become a country of multifaceted people.

Multitasking, doing an activity thinking about three things at the same time, or our need to please others before attending to our own being, turn us into erratic creatures who have forgotten where that point of perfect balance is: the here and now. , our present.

Let us therefore learn to synchronize obligations with needs, leisure with duties to gradually shape a happiness free of fear, a present without the bitterness of the past and free of the anguish of the future. Let’s give the one we love most that tribute that can neither be sold nor bought: TIME.

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