Find excuses to contact an ex again: 10 reasons not to do it

Often, when a love relationship ends, we find it very difficult not to call or visit our ex-partner again. Because? Because not speaking to him again means continuing on our way without knowing how he feels or if he misses us or if he continues to desire us, without getting an explanation or an apology that we believe we deserve, or without saying our last word before closing him down forever.

Thus, It is common that, after the breakup, we try to contact our ex or our ex alleging any excuse: “I have to return a precious handkerchief that was left in my house”, “I should return that book that I loved with all my soul” or “I need a USB cable that was left and it was mine and I don’t feel like buy me another.”

We often try to convince ourselves that it is essential to retrieve or return an item. But the reality is different: we know very well that the object does not matter and that we are using this as an excuse to call our ex.

Maybe you are in this process right now. But, before calling or going out looking for your ex, I invite you to meet What reasons do you have for not going back to meet him?

Why you don’t need to come back after ending a relationship

You don’t need to check if your ex still loves you or wants you. Love is something that does not die, but is transformed, and every process of heartbreak takes time. Do not break that process that you both need to be able to separate.You don’t need to be right. Your ego always wants to win the last battle, and is looking forward to having one last conversation so that he apologizes or shows regret or sadness. It’s not worth it: you will most likely have the same battle as last time.You don’t need to visit him to feel important. Of course you’re important, you’re his ex. But you have to humbly accept that your ex is making his life. And you have to accept with joy that you are also doing yours.

And if you are not doing it, what are you waiting for to get out of the duel?

You shouldn’t keep believing that something magical could happen. Do not get hooked on the idea that when you see each other again something magical will happen and you will realize how much you love each other. That only happens in the movies.It’s not generous that you don’t let me forget you. If your ex can’t get over you, be firm: it’s best to keep zero contact so your ex can distance himself and let go.You’re not going to find out after seeing him that you don’t really care anymore. Don’t fool yourself with the excuse that you need to see your ex to see that they are no longer important to you. It is, and that is why it is best to have zero contact.Do not think that if you do not go now you will never see him again. If zero contact has been agreed, be respectful and don’t break it. Perhaps you will be able to contact each other again when enough time has passed to heal the wounds and rebuild your lives, with or without a new partner.

Don’t make the excuse that you want to know how he is. Do not break zero contact with the excuse that you have dreamed of your ex and you want to know if he is okay. Of course it’s fine, otherwise you would have found out right away.You don’t need another conversation to close the relationship. You don’t have to have the penultimate conversation to close the story once more: if you want to really close, you can do it within yourself, celebrating a little farewell ritual forever. The closure is always with yourself, within you.You don’t need to connect with your ex: actually who you need to connect with is yourself.