Wedding planner reveals the 13 most common mistakes made when planning the ceremony

“When I worked as a wedding planner, a month and a half after the ceremony I asked the bride and groom what aspects of the party they would have done differently. Some responded that they would keep it as it was, while others shared their regrets.

especially for the awesome.club, I will reveal the decisions that most recently provoked regrets in the newlyweds. Perhaps their experience will be useful if you are considering going through the trial by fire, also known as a wedding ceremony.

When drawing up the plan for the ceremony, the couple, with their eyes glazed over with so much tension, tries to remember everything that is necessary for the event: ordering the cake, the pigeons, preparing a dance, flowers, DJ, caipirinha table. .. and what else do you need to have? this is a incorrect posture, based on “how it should be”, not “how I want it to be”.

Respect for traditions is commendable and even interesting, but it is important not to go too far. Some of them, like the ban on the groom from seeing the bride before the wedding, lost their relevance a long time ago. Today, many young couples live together before making the relationship official, and looking for a place to spend the night apart is something that doesn’t make much sense. After the ceremony, many newlyweds regret not daring, preferring instead to follow the classical path to the letter.

Hiring a ceremonial, especially in ecumenical ceremonies, has been increasingly adopted at weddings. Many people have the impression that the more professional and better the conductor of the event, the more expensive his services will be. In fact, this is not always so. After all, you wouldn’t buy an expensive and beautiful dress, but it didn’t fit your body well, would you? the same thing happens with the ceremonial: there must be a mutual and absolute understanding of the bride and groom’s style. In general, with a meeting and some videos, it is possible to understand if that person is the most suitable for your case.

Once you have chosen the ceremony, you need to analyze the program in detail, to take into account all preferences and avoid misunderstandings. Each professional tries to perform the ceremony following a universal script, but in the end, each couple is different, and only the bride and groom know the guests well.

Doing a second day of the wedding ceremony is perhaps the most common regret, because of the money and time spent. The first day is already so full of emotions, surprises and stress that, the next morning, the newlyweds just want to relax and be alone, while some guests consider it their duty to cheer up the lovebirds. Although, in general, the second day is always less lively, and is hardly remembered by those who participated in the ceremony.

Holding the ceremony in an outdoor area or on a beach is always a more romantic and stylish option than in a ballroom or a registry office. The problem is that some couples choose to have their wedding in memorable and special places for them (parks, riverbanks, etc.), without taking into account that there can be a lot of people circulating. Passersby can end up appearing in the photos, watching everything, trying to make conversation with the guests and even ‘crashing’ in the middle of the group of guests (yes, this can really happen).

Avoid worries by choosing a location with controlled access.

A large number of toasts, speeches and message readings are tiring and take up a lot of time. To avoid letting your wedding turn into a “speech cycle” like a graduation ceremony, dedicate a set block of time to greetings and then don’t go back to them. This moment cannot become the focal point of your party.

Not to mention, if that distant relative takes over the mic, you might even have time to take a nap until he’s finished telling you all his childhood antics.

Almost all couples think that the wedding is still a long way off and that they will have time to organize everything. But this is an illusion. So as not to despair at the last minute and not be forced to give up what he had in mind, remember a rule: act here and now. Preparing for a wedding is like painting walls together: it requires effective planning and a division of responsibilities according to the bride and groom’s profile.

Save on time, not quality. It is better to take a few photos, but with a professional photographer, and record the important and especially emotional moments on video. Many of the images are repeated and meaningless, especially those taken during the celebration, when they seem incomprehensible and unnecessary, as they mainly show the guests eating and toasting. A good photographer is able to capture the atmosphere of the celebration, while a competent cameraman is able to capture the important moments in a video that will be pleasant to watch even after many years.

It is proven that the amount of alcohol on the tables greatly affects the atmosphere of the celebration. It only takes a single guest to cross the line to turn your wedding into an example of bad taste. To keep your party feeling romantic, fun, and familiar, limit your drinking.

Once, during a wedding ceremony, a 6-year-old girl came up to me and asked, ‘I think I’ve been here all day. When are we going to eat the cake and go home?’ I didn’t know how to explain that, in fact, the celebration had barely begun.

Children tend to get very tired at adult parties, this is normal. But some exaggerate crying and tantrums. If you want to do something different so that they can also enjoy the party, hire artists. Yes, this will be an additional expense, but it will save you a lot of inconvenience and possible incidents.

Some brides trust no one, preferring to control everything from the size of each flower in the bouquet to the decor of the party. I need to say that end up on the verge of a nervous breakdown🇧🇷 I always end the party by giving them a sedative and letting them cry on my shoulder.

For some reason, every couple is sure they’re going to have a good time on their wedding day. But nature always has its own plans. Wind or heat can ruin your look, bugs may want to join the party, and rain often insists on coming. Therefore, after the photo shoot and the wedding ceremony itself, it’s best to retreat to the comfort of a place within four walls.

Organizing a wedding takes a lot of time and nerves of steel. That’s why it’s always good, after the ceremony, to take a few days to rest and enjoy each other. Thus, the process of getting used to the new marital status and planning a future together becomes more enjoyable. The honeymoon exists for a reason, doesn’t it?

A wedding is probably one of those once-in-a-lifetime events. IT IS the moment of the bride and groom, and they must be the main characters, directors and screenwriters of that ‘film’🇧🇷 The emotions experienced during a wedding are incomparable.

Many are scared of the costs involved in a wedding, but you don’t have to pay for a luxury party. With the right planning, you’ll even see you’ve won at the end of the celebration.

It doesn’t matter how your wedding will be: whether for hundreds of people or just for the closest ones, whether with a 5-story cake or a modest buffet table, whether the clothes will be by famous designers or rented. It all depends on the tastes and preferences of each person. The important thing is to be clear about what you want, and not be afraid to make room for even the most daring ideas., without exaggerating by relying on parties given by other people. The celebration is entirely yours and your partner’s. Make it a unique and special moment.”

And you, are you planning to get married? If you’re already married, how was your party? Leave your comment with your impressions of what the ideal celebration would be like!