Every beginning has an end

Work ends, love ends, existence comes to an end, because everything, sooner or later, ends definitively. Everything in this life is temporary and the resistance to making these things something “eternal” generally causes us great frustrations. difficult to overcome.

It is sensible and emotionally healthy to know how to put an end to, when things or aspects of life no longer work. Forcing these situations to survive, being almost dying or already dead, is like crying over spilled milk.

Nothing lasts forever, everything has an end

What happens with the major spheres of life (dreams, intellect, love, etc.), is also reflected in the minor spheres (material goods, beauty, fame) which also have an end. Both the big and the small come to an end, because everything in this life “is borrowed.” and it has an end.

Even these material objects, when they complete their cycle, often generate discouragement and even anger., contrary to what they produce when they are new and recently purchased. This, perhaps, happens because we give them an imperishable character. With certain items even the quality of essentials, as if they were part of our own life or another organ of our body.

When we have plastic surgery to hide our old age or do long days of exercise, not for health reasons, but to maintain a youthful figure, we fall into the fantasy of immortalized flowers and the reality of impossible dreams, impossible desires, the useless causes.

Because in exchange for trying to improve our physical appearance (which in some cases is possible), what we basically do is deteriorate our dignity and even our condition as human beings. Something like becoming a product for sale, commerce and marketing to satisfy others.

If something has the opportunity to be more lasting, but not eternal, it is those intangible and profound realities.. Traces such as the good and bad teachings or the memories that we leave imprinted in the lives of other people: what we write day by day in the book of our lives and in the book of the lives of others.

“No one knows what He has, until He loses it”

Many times we complain and even deny a person or some situations, until these people are no longer around, or even die, or until those situations, initially negative, become much worse. It is the comparison that gives us a real perspective of what makes us suffer. and places the intensity of our suffering on a scale.

For example, When you complain all the time about your partner and when you are alone again you begin to value even the smallest detail of that person. Or when you go from living in a humble house full of warmth to a more beautiful place, but without that family atmosphere. Also when you deny a simple flu, as if it were a tragedy, until you get sick with something more serious and realize that it was nonsense.

When it all begins, most of the time, it has an aura of novelty and is full of hopeful promises. But As time goes by, we begin to see more defects than virtues, both in objects, people and situations. Thus, when these realities end or disappear the opposite happens: we focus more on the virtues and minimize the defects. This almost always happens when there is nothing more to do, when the end is approaching…

The great merit of accepting things as they are

To the extent that we accept and assume that everything that begins must end, we will avoid more than one problem. It is not about plunging into despair, nor about falling into cynicism. It’s about knowing that there is always a time when we will have to say goodbye, put an end and face a duel.

Know how to live through duels will allow us to heal the wounds left by a loss. Avoiding them or experiencing them poorly leaves the wound open and even enlarges and infects it. Because, as in the case of love, “one nail does not pull out another nail.” That is, one person is not replaced by another overnight. TAll the debts that we leave unpaid have to be paid at some point.

Loss and grief are a constant in our lives.. Throughout our entire existence we will have to say goodbye many times to loved people, situations or objects. Everything is temporary, nothing lasts forever, not even our own life. We all know it and yet we design the same fantasy of eternity over and over again.

Not knowing how to let go, not knowing how to say goodbye or decide to end something can be quite problematic. Same as the opposite: not getting involved with anything closely for fear of losing it. Maybe If we learn to see more naturally the fact that everything ends, we will be able to enjoy more of what surrounds us here and now.instead of longing for all that when it’s gone.

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