emotional freedom

Freedom is one of the fundamental rights of every human being. Most of us rebel when, from outside, they try to impose obligations on us or control our decisions. Why don’t we react in the same way when what is being violated is our emotional freedom?

Being master of your own emotional state is a privilege that few people achieve, when in reality it should be a common practice. to which we were all accustomed. From a young age we should be taught to take control over our emotions and not allow anything external to control them. Well, that’s what true freedom consists of: having the choice to decide how to feel.

How do you lose your emotional freedom?

In our daily life We experience many situations in which we lose our emotional freedom and give power to external events.. Let’s look at some examples:

I send a good morning message to my partner and he doesn’t respond. I spend all day on my mobile phone and feeling restless, distressed or angry at the lack of response. I have left my mood in the hands of another. I choose my clothes with great enthusiasm and leave the house feeling very comfortable in my outfit. When I arrive at the office a colleague makes a sarcastic or negative comment about my appearance. From that moment on I began to feel embarrassed and uncomfortable and I never risked my clothes again. because of this experience. I am at a meeting with friends having a pleasant time and listening to other people’s anecdotes. Suddenly one of them scolds me saying: “You can talk, we’re not going to eat you.” My nature is introverted and I prefer to stay in the background rather than be the center of attention. It’s completely valid and I feel comfortable relating that way. But, Because of this comment, I feel humiliated and, instead of enjoying the pleasant evening, I just wish I could go home as soon as possible..

All of these situations reflect our inability to be our own emotional center. We are left at the expense of the actions and words of others: something we cannot control. Therefore we cede power over our well-being to third parties.

Build a safe place within yourself

The key to regaining control of our own being is to establish within ourselves a safe and impassable place.. Let’s build well-being from within instead of looking for it outside. We cannot control what others do but we can choose what we do. If we decide to build our self-esteem and develop a habit of positive and motivating thinking, we will have protected ourselves from external vagaries.

Start by making friends with yourself. Know yourself in depth and accept yourself with your virtues and your defects. This way no other people’s comments can hurt you. because you will be fully aware of who you are and you will love yourself that way. Convince yourself that the only important opinion is your own. The only validation, approval and support you need is your own.

This way when someone expresses displeasure with your outfit, you will still feel calm and confident because you won’t need to please anyone. In the same way, if someone tries to ridicule you for an aspect of your personality, you will not feel affected by their opinion, since you have already established that that trait is completely valid for you.

You are valid for yourself

Additionally, Stop measuring your worth by the treatment that others offer you and remind yourself every day that you are valuable and important for yourself.. Take care of yourself, respect yourself and provide yourself with the love and attention you need. This way, you won’t find yourself begging for it before anyone else. When you become your own emotional center, you don’t anxiously wait for anyone’s response, you continue with your life knowing you deserve the best.

You respect the times and spaces of others because you have learned to enjoy your own. And, additionally, you know how to set limits when someone tries to manipulate you. You are so in touch and in power with your emotions that you easily detect when someone tries to steal your controller.

Finally, remember that the actions of others speak about them and not about you. If someone treats you badly, they are portraying their rudeness and lack of empathy, but they are not talking about your value as a person.. When you understand this, it is much easier to distance yourself from other people’s behavior and direct your emotions from within.

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