Don’t beg for anyone’s attention, much less love.

A toxic relationship is not only one in which negative words abound, but also one in which lack of empathy and indifference play their part. In this article we explain why you should not beg for attention or love.

Don’t beg for love from those who don’t have time for you, from those who only think about themselves. Don’t ever do it. He who makes you feel invisible and insignificant with his indifference does not deserve you. You deserve someone who makes you feel important and present with his attention.

Love should be shown, but it should never be begged. The fact of having to do it is the most faithful reflection of emotional injustice, of the imbalance experienced by the feeling that cements a relationship.

You deserve the one who says less but does more. You are not deserved by someone who only looks for you when he needs you, but by someone who is by your side when you need him and not only when his interest allows it. You deserve someone who, without expecting anything, takes you inside, feels you and makes you feel important in their life.

In the end it is simple, the person who deserves you is the one who, having the freedom to choose, approaches you, appreciates you and dedicates time and thoughts to you.

There is no lack of time, there is a lack of interest.

They say that there is no lack of time, that there is a lack of interest, because when people really want, the early morning becomes day, Tuesday becomes Saturday and a moment becomes opportunity.

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They also say that who expects much, is disappointed and suffers. So we have to review our expectations and get it into our heads that “don’t expect anything from anyone, expect everything from yourself.”

Because hopes and expectations are many times (if not all), the basis of emotional fiascos and, therefore, of perceiving the attitudes of others as a lack of interest.

When we perceive what others do or say as a fraud, we really feel pain. An emotional pain that behaves at the brain level in the same way as physical pain.

In this sense, an important note is worth making and that is that we must give psychological discomfort the importance it has. We wouldn’t think of ignoring strong pangs in the stomach or a tremendous constant headache.

So, why should we ignore emotional pain? We cannot simply let time cure it, we have to work on it and extract the lessons it offers us in the same way that we would stop drinking chocolate if we discovered that it was the cause of our upset stomach.

This is very important because socially There is a false belief that psychological discomfort is a sign of weakness. and that, at the same time, time will heal the wounds without the need to “disinfect” them or apply bandages or patches to prevent bleeding.

Value yourself, love yourself well

Dedicate time to people who deserve it and who make you feel good. Don’t beg for anyone’s attention, friendship or love. Whoever loves you, shows it to you sooner or later. That’s why, If you live in a situation of such alarming emotional injustice, remember:

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Whoever doesn’t call you and doesn’t answer your calls, don’t call them. Don’t look for someone who doesn’t miss you. Don’t miss those who don’t look for you. Don’t write, don’t subject yourself to the punishment of indifference demonstrated by ignored messages or unfounded silences.

Don’t wait for those who don’t wait for you, value yourself and stop begging and begging for love. Because, as we have said, love must be shown and felt, but never begged. Your affection should be for those who love you and understand you without judging you.

And above all do not forget the value of your smile in the mirror, love yourself and value yourself for everything you are and not because of what someone who doesn’t deserve you makes you understand. Love yourself well and realize that just because someone neglects you doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t do everything possible to surround yourself with people who love you in their life.