Do you know who you are?

Without a doubt, you are a wonderful being, full of light, with more attributes than you ever considered, essential for several people, interesting, with good intentions, with hundreds of virtues. This is a little difficult to see with our own eyes, especially if we are sad or depressed.

However, You need to look at yourself from the perspective of another person, such as your partner, your mother, your best friend. They undoubtedly see you in a very different way. The most beautiful person in the world, the kindest, the one who is always present to listen, etc.

An excellent exercise you can do to strengthen your sense of being is to ask yourself, who do I think I am? Surely you have never thought about it. If you dare, ask the people around you, what am I? They will be able to tell you an infinite number of adjectives that describe you, from mother to tired, from religious to overprotective, student or French, etc. You will realize that there are many ways to identify yourself as an individual.

It will undoubtedly be a lesson that you will never forget. It is that your sense of self is what keeps you connected to the earth and determines what role you are assigned, what you are here for., etc. One of the first things that is lost when we have a lot of work or are stressed is that connection, we forget what is really important on the path of self-realization and we excessively increase the load on our backs.

Life doesn’t have to be like this, although it is true that mere mortals need to work, it is not the only thing that matters during our existence. It will give you more satisfaction to spend an afternoon with your children in the park than to be locked up in the office working overtime. They will appreciate it more.

Make a list of your attributes

Maybe you think that a small piece of paper will be enough for you to make a list of all your skills. That’s not true, at all. You have so many good things to write down that the sheet you have allocated for this exercise will not be enough.

Start the list as objectively as possible, don’t lie to yourself. Take into account your roles in society, your occupation, your religion, your nationality, your ethnic origin, your hobbies, your interests, your tastes, your activities, etc. Everything that defines you as a human being and that can be seen by others just by seeing you or talking to you for a while.

But also, This list should contain the “internal” virtues, what you and those around you know or often frequent. Something describes you doesn’t mean it defines you, don’t forget. If at this moment you have a job as a market cashier because the only thing that allows you to pay the bills, do not write it down on the list, because it is not defining you, but rather it is a circumstance. What does define you is your love for music or poetry, for example. Although you can also find something beyond your position, such as realizing that you like talking to people, asking them how they are or even making them smile with a compliment. That is a virtue.

You need to be honest with yourself on this list. No one has to see it, so don’t lie to yourself. Not everything you write has to be flattering or skillful. If you are very jealous, quarrelsome or nervous, write that down too. If you are overweight, too.

The thing is A part of this work is being able to fix or solve what can harm you, both you and your loved ones. or the next door neighbor. It is also necessary that you eliminate everything that does not contribute anything positive to your life, such as an addiction (to tobacco, alcohol, work, etc.).

Maybe you even find yourself at a point where you cannot express in words what defines you, but rather with some specific action.. It could be “I would never wear a yellow dress”, “I always get lost in the supermarket parking lot”, “I leave good tips at the restaurant”, “I like to help animals”, etc.

The right time to make this list is up to you to decide.. A good idea is for it to be during the weekend, on your vacation or on a free day you have. You don’t have to put it together at a certain time or for it to take any amount of time. Each one manages their emotions, their activities and their minutes in this life.

Once you’ve finished it (or so you think), save it somewhere where you can see it whenever you want, like on the nightstand or desk drawer. From time to time it is good to take a look at it to see what you have changed and if there is anything you can add. Surely you can remove some item (if you no longer smoke, if you stopped being so jealous with your partner, if you lost a few kilos, etc.).

Get to work as soon as possible with this list, which will allow you to change a lot as a person, be happier, return to the origins, connect with what really matters and have your feet firmly on the ground.