Discover the magic of love in introverts

Do you know what love is like for introverts? The ability of those who are introverts to connect emotionally with their partner will surprise you.

The brains of introverts work differently. For this reason, their emotional relationships tend to be more delicate: with many fewer words, but with more sincere and profound “I love you.” They are personalities capable of connecting with the loved one in a much more intense, almost magical way.

We could safely say that the introverted personality is much better understood today. Thanks to the great diversity of studies and books published, such as The power of introverts, by Susan Cain, we already know such important aspects as that the introvert is not shy. That They are selective, observant, sensitive and even good leaders in work environments.

“The bias against introversion leads to a colossal loss of talent, energy and happiness”

-Susan Cain-

Introversion and relationships

Now, when it comes to love, It is common for introverted people to have to face difficulties characteristic of this personality trait.. Adolescence or early youth may come to think that they have nothing to do with the brilliance and dazzling spark of extroverts.

For a time, they live in those silent corners of the back rows from where they can observe the world in calm and discretion. The introverted teenager usually loves secretly.

He does not dare to take the step in a context that, at first glance, seems to be made for the bold, for lovers of hustle and bustle and large groups of friends where everyone talks and no one listens. Although little by little, the introvert “wakes up” and realizes all his qualities…

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The psychologist Laurie Helgoe states that introverts like to think before responding Therefore, “interactions in which there is space to reflect can be very pleasant for them; while conversations between extroverts can be like tennis matches.”

When the need for solitude becomes a problem

They say that simplicity consists of leaving aside the obvious to stay with what is significant. This idea, this approach is what undoubtedly characterizes introverts. They do not like artifices, talking just for the sake of talking, attracting attention or invest time and energy in aspects that are not in tune with your authentic essence, with your soul, with your personality.

Perhaps for this reason, It is not exactly easy for them to initiate tasks such as flirting, go to parties to socialize or start a conversation with the person they are attracted to if they are in a large group of people. Their brains are different.

We cannot forget that, as neurologists explain to us, Introverts suffer greater neuronal fatigue when communicating and socializing. They therefore need long moments of solitude “to recharge their batteries.”

Carl Gustav Jung also addressed the topic of introversion with interest. For him, Introverted people put all their attention at the center of subjective and psychological processes. Of There, they tend to move away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life to inhale the much-needed oxygen of solitude.

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Introverted people and love

Today, what is now known as “Quiet Revolution” has been launched.. This approach seeks several purposes. On the one hand, demolish false ideas: introversion and extroversion are not watertight categories. They are two extremes of a continuum, where each one usually presents different degrees.

“We forget that no one is ever more active than when they do nothing, they are never less alone than when they are with themselves”

-Cato-

The introvert does not hate socializing. He doesn’t even lack social skills, quite the opposite.. We are facing someone who has conquered his own freedom. In a hyperactive society that forces us to be aware of the outside world due to the amount of information it puts at our disposal, the introvert has found refuge within himself to be more creative, sensitive, original, analytical and a good emotional manager.

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Sometimes, you don’t have to go to a party to find a partner. This personality profile knows what contexts to move in and how to connect with others. He is a seducer of short distances, of face-to-face conversations, of moments of simple and magical complicity.

Introverts know how to move perfectly in different environments. They know perfectly well their limitations, but also their virtues. They are aware that their way of being will prevent them from meeting someone in a nightclub, where people allow themselves to be carried away by superficiality. However, In a quiet and relaxed place the introvert knows he is in the right environment, one where he can talk.

Characteristics of the introverted couple

Another myth that we must put aside is the idea that introverts only make good partners with those who have the same personality as them. It is not like this. Introverts and extroverts also form excellent relationships where to enrich each other. Let’s now look at the traits that usually define them:

The introverted person enjoys sharing moments of solitude with their partner. They focus all their attention and energy on that person. Likewise, they are magical architects when it comes to connecting with our deepest emotions, building a firm and authentic commitment. On the other hand, and this is important, The introvert profile knows how to give space to the loved one. He does it, because he or she also needs those moments in solitude to process the environment, to enjoy himself. Something that we must also understand is that We should never force the introvert to be or do something that does not suit him.. They are reluctant to change their habits, to go against their values, essences or customs. They do not understand tricks nor will they “socialize more” just because their partner asks them to.Being quiet does not mean you are thinking “something bad.” Having an introverted partner sometimes means sharing many moments of silence. Just because this is the case does not mean that you are getting bored, that you don’t know what to say, or that you are uncomfortable. There is no need to bombard him with the classic “what are you thinking?

Because If there is something that introverts appreciate, it is sharing those moments of silence.. It is allowing yourself to be yourself without pressure, it is delighting in that authentic simplicity, linking your own inner world with that of your loved one in simple complicity. Can there be anything better?