“Deactivate” the ego to love fully and without attachments

The ego usually has a very limited vision of reality, and only accepts its point of view, his way of understanding the world, and even of loving. Few dimensions can be as harmful and destructive as selfishness in any of its areas, whether at the level of friendship, at work or within a couple.

The ego likes things to be as one wishes, that the world is ordered millimetrically according to your perspectives, your personal conception of what is good and what is bad. He does not like the unexpected, nor the spontaneous, the reactions that are beyond his control and that express his own will.

What hides the mask of the ego

It is very common for us to start relationships with people who show initially admirable virtues. Almost resplendent. Aspects such as personal security, poise, firm self-confidence and even that inclination to protect can “dazzle” us at first.

However, Over time, to that initial security is added the need for control and the obsession that things must conform to one’s own schemes. That is to say, what we initially confused with “security” is actually a very clear fear that “we will escape their control”, and that we will reveal their vulnerabilities.

In reality, it is not easy to deactivate the ego of the person we love. Once we discover this dimension, that is, once we realize that his virtues are actually double-edged swords, and that he uses his ego to create expectations in you and submit you, be clear that the only thing he intends is to fulfill his own needs. empty through domination, through an unhealthy attachment with which to cover their immaturity.

The ego usually has many masks, and we are sure that you already know some:

Use victimizationSeek to be recognized in everything they do, say and express, without ever taking others into account Putting burdens on yourself to unload “their ego”Always look for culprits in any problem or situation that he or she generates does not allow spontaneity, new things, getting out of the routine and even less so, that you enjoy your own hobbies. of your spaces… They put walls to your personal growth. Beneath an apparent “high self-esteem” are hidden tendencies towards narcissism, selfishness and tyranny. Your own desires are put before the needs of others.

Learn to deactivate the ego

It is necessary that we understand that The ego is a way to completely “disconnect” from the axes that move conscious love, mature love that offers itself in freedom and fullness to the other to form a couple, to have a common project, always respecting the personal growth of each one.

And we cannot forget that we are the main thing in our lives, but each one is the main thing in their own. We cannot expect the other to abandon or betray themselves to please us.

We need to start enunciate to do things as our ego wants and enjoy how they happen. It is then that our true consciousness of love will awaken, that which stops fighting to give way to the spontaneity of everyday life, to a freedom where there are no attachments and where each one is master of himself, and in turn, part of a common project.

He who deactivates the ego but builds self-esteem is capable of valuing himself for what he is, without fear of recognizing their mistakes and opening their mind, without the need to belittle or manipulate the other. He loves himself, but does not feel superior, so he can love his partner in his essence.

We cannot forget that many of us, somehow, We are a little selfish in emotional matters. However, each thing has its right balance, but if we let ourselves be carried away by the ego in all its intensity, we will never see the reality of things, but our own needs and the negative sensations that this generates. You have to consider this.

Image Courtesy: Benjamin Lacombe, Toon Herlz

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