Consequences of being with someone who doesn’t love you

In many love movies the plot is based on the story of a couple in which one of the two is not in love, or he doesn’t know how to love well, or he doesn’t dare because he’s scared to death, or he’s lazy to feel vulnerable and show himself as he is.

Generally, the emotionally disabled person was a very sensitive guy who lost his ability to love and be loved by some traumatic event (his girlfriend leaves him for another or he dies in a fatal accident), and although he finds love again some time later, he cannot turn himself in because he is armored from head to toe.

The role of the protagonist is usually to try to soften her heart and warm up that ice armor so that it falls apart, and this role is always fulfilled kind, innocent, loyal, faithful, generous women, and sensitive who love without asking for anything in return, and who they endure everything for love.

We must not love at any cost

It is the story of the Beast and Beauty: he is an ogre but inside of him there is a prince charming, a frightened little boy who he needs a lot of love and doesn’t know how to ask for it.

She loves him unconditionally and bear their ill-treatment: her love will save him from the spell, and give him the reward he deserves for enduring so long, and for waiting so long for the arrival of the romantic miracle.

In real life, let’s face it, there are no movie-style happy endings.

In real life, millions of Women waste their lives loving men who never fall in love with them. They don’t know how to love them, they don’t treat them well.

They waste time and energy dreaming of the romantic miracle, and while it arrives, they assume their role as a submissive woman thinking that they will love them more that way.

unrequited love is not love

Love is a trap, especially when there is no love, or only love on our part. Our self-esteem is very damaged when we are in relationships in which we do not feel desired, loved and cared for.

Even if our partner treats us well, it is always painful to be with someone who does not correspond to you.

And somehow, we don’t give up trying to make the other love us one day, but while that happens, we don’t feel attractive enough, pretty, or good people: we wonder where we are failing, what we lack or what we have in excess, what we could improve to become loved.

And the question is not in us, but in the other person’s ability to connect, to undress, to show himself as he is, to share himself, to express his emotions, to enjoy love.

Love is given, or it is not given.

And if it does not happen, it is difficult for it to happen, and there is no point in waiting for such a miracle to happen. Because we have to take care of ourselves: suffering for love is not free, it has a very high cost.

In relationships where there is no reciprocity, the person who is in love is the one who has everything to lose. Because most likely, you try to be complacent to get the love you are looking for in your beloved, and you live waiting to fall in love with you in order to reach romantic paradise.

Let’s stop begging to be loved

When we are with someone who does not love us, we feel permanently insecure, and it is very difficult for us to value ourselves. We are more aware of the other than of ourselves and our happiness, and we take care of the relationship more than ourselves.

When they don’t love you, it’s easier to fall into emotional dependence, and end up demanding or begging for love.

That is why it is so important to pay attention to the signs, be realistic, be awake, and evaluate whether or not a relationship without reciprocity compensates us.

We have to think above all how our self-esteem can be damaged, how we are feeling in an unbalanced relationship in which only you feel and give love. If it’s good for you, if it’s going to destroy you inside.

We should not wait too long: from the beginning one feels if a relationship is going to work or not.

And if there are no conditions, it is better to cut it as soon as possible, and part amicably, before inequality in feelings make us both suffer, or one of the two.

Taking care of yourself is the most important thing, and one of the keys to self-care is surround yourself only with people who love you very much, and know how to love you well, so don’t get stuck in relationships in which you don’t feel loved and cared for: they don’t do you good, and what we want is precisely to be well.