‘Cause just loving will never be enough

Love is enought?

Last year I witnessed more breakups than any other year. Breakups I didn’t expect, breakups the couple involved didn’t expect. The common factor in most of these separations was that love was still very, very present, but it wasn’t enough to keep the relationship going.

I fought for the idea that love conquers all, that love makes everything work, even in the most difficult relationships. But then I realized that love alone is not enough. It’s the pillar you build the relationship on, but it’s not the fuel that keeps it going.

You can love someone who isn’t the right person for you.

You can really love someone, but they still won’t be the right person for you. You can be very similar.

The two of you can be too stubborn to admit it and even more stubborn to end the relationship. But loving someone who isn’t right for you is like a tug of war, you keep pulling and pulling until someone can’t take it anymore.

You can love someone, but the timing won’t be right.

You can do whatever it takes to make the relationship work, but one of you may not yet be ready to take the next step.

One of you might be tired of waiting for the next step. One of you might take a big shot at the dream job and drop everything else.

One of you may be starting graduate school and wants to focus exclusively on studies.

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You may love someone, but the parents may not be in favor of the relationship.

Although our generation is more independent than ever, parents will always have influence in one way or another. You may be in love with each other, but if her dad doesn’t like you or his mom isn’t a big fan of yours, the relationship is doomed.

A relationship that doesn’t have a parent’s blessing often doesn’t work out. You can kick and curse the stars and the entire universe, but it’s hard to fight the parental strength once it takes hold of you.

You can love someone who is really just in need of help.

You might be in love with someone who needs help, and I mean clinical help. We’re all crazy in our own way, but some people really need therapy, and until they get it right, you won’t be able to do anything to help.

You can try, you can support, you can be the most loving and caring person in the world, but you still won’t be the medicine they need.

And she may love you with everything she has, but most likely, for one reason or another, she will destroy the relationship along the way.

You can love someone you can’t handle.

You can love someone who is always working. You can love someone who is always on their phone and doesn’t pay attention to you. You can love someone who can’t open up about their feelings. You can love someone who changes his mind like he changes his clothes.

While you might think love can overcome all of the above, sometimes it can’t. Sometimes it is tiring to follow this person.

It’s exhausting when you can’t predict what kind of people you’re going to have to deal with. Love can start to feel like a burden—something you just can’t bear anymore, even if you love.

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You can love someone who makes you love yourself a little less.

It’s paradoxical, ironic and sadistic that someone can love you to the point where you love yourself less. You feel like you can’t move on without this person, but you know that this relationship is slowly killing you.

Some people love each other so much, but there is no understanding, there is no patience, there is no peace, there is no tolerance.

The truth is, love only works when it’s combined with a bunch of other factors to make it grow, like respect, sincerity, compassion, humility, compatibility, and commitment.

Relationships based solely on feelings of love fall apart, because love cannot sustain itself.

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