A mother’s report on the differences in raising her son and daughter

Adults, no matter how serious their features and attire, will still remain children in the eyes of their parents. Some moms will always recognize their grown children as babies, who just yesterday were learning to tie their shoelaces or braid their hair.

Especially for the awesome.clubZhenya Borisova shared her views on the difference in upbringing between her daughter and her son.

I gave birth to Sophia at the age of 23 and suddenly became an adult. After all, Sophia was a restless girl. She would dive headlong into deep pools and ride fast carousels. On playgrounds, she easily climbed where I was afraid to even look. But that made my excessive worry lessen.

Then the growth phase began: a visit to the school psychologist revealed “tendencies to bad habits” in the 6th grade! It was important to show how much affection and love are needed in a family, as well as to teach them not to give in to trifles and mean people. And also not to be easily hurt and, at the same time, understand that she had the right to make mistakes. Parents of teenagers will likely understand. Over time, Sophia remained the same polite and cheerful child, with whom you can have a dialogue. She was an excellent student, took dance classes and attended art school. Added to these talents was the gift of making friends. As Sophia grew and formed her personality, I also matured with her.

Sophia, 2 years old, was already speaking clearly and perfectly, surprising everyone. She was independent: in kindergarten and training, she dressed and undressed herself. From the age of 5 she walked in the yard alone. At age 7, she started going to the grocery store by herself, learned to fry eggs and cook pasta. I’m not saying they’re super abilities, but they’ve always amazed those around her.

At the time, I saw boys being completely dressed and undressed by their mothers and grandmothers in kindergarten and even at school! There was a boy, in 2nd grade, the same as my daughter, whose parents would take him to school and every morning would tell him, “Remember, your washcloth is here. Do not be late for the classes. Here’s the water and the sandwich. And now we’re leaving.” After much observation, I came to the conclusion that there is a much greater concern for boys than for girls.

My second child is a boy. And, of course, I thought mine would be different. But as Sergio grew up, I noticed that he began to speak later than Sophia, and not as well as she did. He also took longer to get used to the potty and started dressing himself much later. Without realizing it, I spoiled him more than my daughter did when she was his age. My husband who controlled me not to overly spoil our son.

From my own experience, I’ve learned that boys are usually much more affectionate than girls in childhood. And I also observed the same in the children of friends. Boys are usually more defenseless and sensitive, they seem to be born without the armor girls have. Boys can be more naive, much simpler and open to the world. I can say that through my son I fell in love with all the little boys in the world. I began to be more tender with awkward teenagers, because I now see them as the kind, sincere children they probably once were. Now, this is how I see the difference between the universe of boys and girls.

Do you agree with the opinion of the author of the text? Who do you think is easier to raise: boys or girls?