9 Signs That Your Relationship Is Worn

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It’s much easier to end a relationship when your boyfriend is being toxic. But breaking up with someone you love isn’t easy.

Often, it’s the little nuances of a relationship deep in your intuition that make you question whether or not you should break up. Things are happening that you cannot define – something feels “strange”.

Sometimes when you feel this way, you question the relationship and ask yourself, “Am I getting everything I want in a relationship?” You might also start thinking, “Does he/she fit in with me? Is he/she suitable for me?” You might start asking questions about how maybe this relationship isn’t what you thought it was after all.

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To help you figure it out, here are the signs that you might be in a strained relationship — and the signs that you should probably break up.

1. You give up your values.

You start to rethink your values ​​and what is important to you to maintain the relationship. You forgot the values ​​you grew up by, just to keep that person in your life.

Unfortunately, many people do this. However, your resentment towards that person is getting through.

2. You keep justifying your partner’s behavior.

You find that you justify your partner’s behaviors by saying “yes, but…” a lot. When he/she is doing something that bothers you, you justify it by saying something he/she is doing as if it’s right. You do this even though you know what he/she is doing bothers you. You ignore what is exposed to everyone’s view.

3. You expect him/her to change.

We all expect the other person to change so that we don’t have to end the relationship. Possibly, with a little encouragement and persuasion, you think he or she will see your side and make the changes you want them to make so they are “perfect” for you.

But that doesn’t happen.

4. You ignore red alerts.

The red alerts are waving in front of you – but you turn a blind eye to them. You don’t want to recognize them, much less see and act on them. We lose ourselves and abandon our happiness when we ignore what is often right in front of us.

In the end, ignoring them will only do one thing – they will come back to haunt you and continually cause trouble because deep down you know the truth.

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5. You are afraid of being alone.

Your fear of being alone outweighs any wrongdoing your partner has. Your fear of being alone makes you feel trapped in a relationship that deep down you know is frayed.

Being alone is not a bad thing, but what is important if this is your fear, ask yourself: “Why do I feel this way? What thoughts and feelings arise when I am alone?” This is the key to preventing you from settling down in the future.

6. You alone do all the heavy lifting.

You’re doing most of the work in the relationship, but you justify your behaviors on X, Y, or Z reasons. This goes back to your fear of being alone.

When we fear being alone, we tolerate much more than we should. And truth be told, we know that. We have become the doormat of the situation. We become the person we never wanted to be, but because we fear being alone, we allow it to continue.

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7. You don’t want to deal with another relationship.

You’d love to move on, but the idea of ​​starting all over again – finding someone new, introducing them to friends and family – seems downright tiring. So why bother?

If you have that attitude, you won’t find someone who is better for you. You’ve resigned yourself to the fact that it’s just not worth it. You put your feelings of being exhausted and dating again as a lot of work, way ahead of your happiness and having a healthy relationship.

8. You don’t feel important.

You “settled” with someone because that person is good enough, even though they are not the person you really want in your life.

Self-respect and self-love start at home. If you don’t feel good about yourself then you will choose someone who is in the same place as you and you will find that that person is the best person you can find and you certainly don’t deserve someone better (although – somewhere – you feel that yea).

I say that like attracts like. If you’re not doing well in your life and you don’t feel good about yourself, you attract and end up with someone who is just like you.

9. You ignore other people’s advice.

Love is blind. When your friends and family start to disagree, it’s all too easy to ignore what they’re saying. If you pay attention to what your friends or family say about your relationship, chances are you know deep down that they are right because you feel the same way.

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