9 Secrets About Men Wise Women Already Know

Are you sure that love is the most beautiful feeling in the world? And has it ever happened to you that in a romantic relationship, a bouquet of beautiful roses turned into roses with thorns without ever understanding why? It turns out that to always remain the nicest and most loved woman, you just need to have a little knowledge about male nature.

we, from awesome.club We prepared for you 9 secrets about men that every wise woman already knows. If you put them into practice, you will see in your partner both a person who loves you, your best friend and a life partner.

That phrase may be as old as the world and a trivial truth: a man can’t guess what you’re thinking. But even so, women obstinately try to convey, with meaningful glances, heavy sighs and complex metaphorical turns, their desires to the man.

Do you remember the beginning of the movie Gone Girl? The protagonist imagined opening his sweet wife’s skull, taking her brain and trying to understand what he was thinking and feeling. But all you need to do is talk. Be direct, honest and don’t dwell on ambiguities.

In relationships that are longer lasting, it is possible to notice that the protagonism is exercised by both partners. What happens next is the maternal instinct to speak louder and the women end up assuming the role of zealous mothers in the relationship, even treating their partners as if they were their children, an attitude that, in the end, can be harmful to the couple as it overloads the woman. and infantilizes the man who, sooner or later, ends up rebelling.

Men also like to lead relationships, to be heard and to have a place to speak so that their opinion is heard and validated by their partner. The issue involves building a solid and secure relationship, in which both the woman and the man are useful and indispensable in decision-making.

For many men, the fact that a woman earns a higher salary can mean insecurity and a doubt in their own abilities. It will then be up to the woman to lead the relationship in the healthiest way possible by planning the household budget together, asking for advice and exposing her points of view and seeking to share and debate issues that will affect both of them. What counts, in these moments, is to value each other and share the role of protagonists in the relationship.

A man will only ask for help if he is finally convinced he needs it: that is, when he is in a completely hopeless situation. For example: “Where is my black belt?”

But if he gets lost in an unfamiliar neighborhood, even with a GPS-navigator and Google Maps, and he hears from his partner the innocent question: “Are we lost?”, he can completely lose patience. Historically, men don’t like to admit that they may not know something and it’s even harder to ask for help or advice.

You also don’t need to tiptoe to avoid negative reactions to your words and actions. But try to present the criticism in a constructive and reasonable manner. And if you notice he’s nervous, try to stay calm. It’s a difficult exercise, but doable. Try to put yourself in his shoes and you will surely be able to say the right words. Praise him. Everyone likes to be praised, it stimulates self-esteem and security.

Imagine you had a busy day at work, you come home very tired, and over dinner you tell your husband how your boss completely criticized your project, a colleague put on so much perfume that it was impossible to breathe in the office, and the Marketing specialist tripped and dropped his cactus vase.

Naturally, your partner will offer you a thousand and one ways to solve your problems, from “get even with the marketing guy and drop his ficus” to “get out of this job.” But you probably love your job and just had a rough day.

If you just need to be heard, comforted, or just want your husband to have a little empathy for your bad day, that’s exactly what you should tell him. In the male understanding, complaints imply taking action, and your brain starts looking for more and more ways to solve the problems, which will make him surprised to realize that you haven’t applied them.

Our culture still preaches that a man is a kind of universal soldier who can fix plumbing, hang a picture, fetch bread, help an old woman cross the street, and, by the way, save the world. He can even do it all twice. People tend to overestimate their abilities and especially men.

We all agree that multitasking people, willing to perform feats on all fronts, anytime, day or night, are wonderful. And absolutely, unreal. A man is not the Terminator, but a person of flesh and blood: he can get tired, lazy, he may not know something or not understand, for example, how a Tok & Stok furniture is assembled.

Therefore, sometimes it is easier to delegate some tasks to specialists in a specific subject. The main thing is to coordinate this issue with the loved one, making it clear that it is not because he cannot or does not know how to do something that will be less useful.

Remember what grandmothers said? That the way to a man’s heart is in his stomach. Now we know that this path is not the only one, but we cannot forget that it is one of the main ones. Men love women who can cook, and they both admire partners (women or men) who strive to learn to cook better. After all, cooking demonstrates how much you care for your partner.

Sure, you can order food (secretly) from a restaurant, like Angelina Jolie’s heroine in the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith, but if you remember, Brad Pitt’s hero didn’t like the food. It seems to be true that a dish prepared with love tastes better.

Even if your talents are limited to masterfully crafting an herbal infusion and professionally cutting ham for sandwiches, try to expand your culinary horizons. In the beginning, just follow the recipes to the letter and don’t be afraid to ask for advice. Trust us, your partner will appreciate it.

You’re upset because on Tuesdays your partner traditionally goes out for a few beers with his friends at the bar, and on Sundays he disappears into the garage. If he wants to get together with his friends, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you more or that friends are more important to him than his family. Simply, for a man, it’s a way to relax, rest and regain strength.

But you also have your little girly secrets, right? And for sure, you should enjoy your time having a drink with your friends talking about things that only concern you. There is always a certain territory of inviolability. And it won’t be because we don’t trust our partner, but because we need that place where our “I” is clearly located.

Also, we all need to be alone from time to time. Imagine having your head full of daily worries, if, at your side, your partner demands and demands your attention just for him. People who respect individuality tend to be more loving and secure. So don’t get upset about your husband’s alone time and create a routine to have that time for you too. Surely the two will be happier.

Yes, it will be necessary to accept the fact that not a single man in his childhood played enough. And no matter how old he is, different games for him mean pure happiness at any age.

And if a man has become interested in an exciting video game, nothing will separate him from this hobby. It may happen that he only pretends to hear you as he carries out the attack on the enemy’s castle. Multitasking remains a female prerogative.

If you like games too, great. You can keep him company and it would be a pleasant surprise. If this hobby isn’t for you, accept the fact that each person struggles with stress and rests in their own way. Being a “big boy” sometimes is not bad when it comes to the desire to discover the world, learn new things, develop your logical and creative potential with the help of video games. Maybe you shouldn’t try?

Men are capable of feeling like women, but they don’t like to talk about their feelings, as they consider it unmanly. How, then, to understand what is happening to a man?

Pay attention, not to the words, but to the facts. If a man puts you first in the pyramid of priorities in his life and is always willing to come to the rescue to help you, that, better than any words, reveals his feelings.

Also, men love compliments. They, unlike women, rarely hear compliments from their friends or acquaintances, so a sincere compliment based on their looks, actions, achievements or abilities will be the best gift you can give them.

We hope these tips will help you understand your partner better. What other characteristics of male behavior would you add to this list?