9 Psychological Tricks You Can Start Applying Right Now

In difficult situations, everyone would love to have a “magic button” that allows them to solve everything. Unfortunately, however, magic solutions have not yet been invented. However, some psychological techniques can be applied to help overcome difficulties, improve relationships with other people, and find peace of mind.

In this post, the awesome.club brings you some tips you can start applying to your everyday life today. With that, everything will be easier, you bet!

One day, the famous American inventor Benjamin Franklin decided to win the affections of a man he didn’t like, but who could influence his political career. This man owned a vast library. Franklin wrote a very polite letter, asking the man to do him the favor of lending him a rare book for several days. The work was sent immediately. Soon, the famous politician returned the book along with a thank-you note. And in a meeting that took place later, the two ended up getting closer and becoming friends.

As the politician wrote years later in his biography, “he who has done you a small kindness will be more willing to help you again than someone you helped yourself.” This is the essence of such an effect. But how to apply it in everyday life?

You can ask a small favor from someone you know little about. For example, borrow a pencil or pen. After that, the chances of that person answering another request, this one more important, will be much higher. Another example: if you don’t get along with a coworker, you can start building a better relationship by asking his opinion on an important issue.

You can find out if someone likes you without having to ask a direct question. Just choose a certain word and, appearing casual, agree and smile whenever your interlocutor repeats the same word or a synonym. If the person likes you, they will start using the chosen word more often.

According to scientific research, this habit significantly reduces the level of cortisol, a hormone associated with stress. Several explanations for this are possible. For example, pleasant associations, as eating, like chewing, gives us joy and a sense of calm.

Not to mention that chewing gum helps to distract yourself and avoid more harmful habits, such as eating to relieve stress or biting nails.

A great way to gain someone’s trust is to share a secret with them. Obviously, you shouldn’t reveal any personal secrets, especially if your goal is to build a relationship and not exactly open up. After all, the important thing is that you demonstrate that you trust the person and that you care about them. With this, your interlocutor will feel united with you in something important.

If you need someone to choose or do something you don’t really like, just ask the right question. Don’t ask a question to which the answer is yes or no. Instead, it’s better to offer two options.

For example, you need a report from your employee. Don’t ask if he will or won’t. It’s better to ask when he can deliver: tomorrow or three days from now.

Thus, the person feels important and believes in the illusion that he has control over the situation.

We strive to avoid mistakes. We are afraid of being laughed at or of losing the respect of others. However, making a small mistake makes you appear more attractive to other people. It makes you become a “simple mortal”, and it is a fact that no one likes “perfect” people.

Other people will not be afraid to make a mistake in your presence, contributing to an atmosphere of acceptance and relaxation. Revealing your own error will not cause you any suffering. First, because you did it intentionally. Second, it will allow you to earn the trust of others.

But it is important not to overdo it. Otherwise, people may doubt your competence.

Many people know the importance of more open body language for successful conversation. But in addition, revealing that you have similar opinions and interests with the interlocutor has an equally positive effect.

Remember, for example, how happy tourists are to meet their countrymen during a trip to a foreign country. Or how pleasant it is to find out that you went to the same school as someone else. That person immediately looks nicer in your eyes.

Get in the habit of praising someone every day, or simply saying nice words. Even if you’re having a difficult day, or that particular day doesn’t promise very exciting encounters.

Initially, it will be difficult. But over time, you’ll see the benefits of praising others, and the habit will become much more natural. You can be sure that your interlocutors will see you with good eyes.

To practice, you can give compliments not only to friends and acquaintances, but also to people who come across you during the day, such as salespeople, taxi drivers, etc. When addressed to relatives and friends, pleasant words improve not only someone else’s day, but also yours.

We tend to focus on ourselves. So when we feel good one morning, we think everyone on the street is noticing us. But the truth is not quite that.

This phenomenon is called the spotlight effect. We exaggerate the importance that our appearance and attitudes have for other people, as if all the lights are on us.

However, it is important to remember, for example, the vacation periods, when you travel to the beach or to a country house. You wear the most comfortable clothes, without having to spend an hour in front of the mirror every morning, and eat whatever you want. Other people continue to see you in the same way as in everyday life. With that, you end up transferring that experience and the feeling of relaxation to the reality of everyday life.

Do you use any psychological tricks? For what purpose? Comment!