9 Children’s Behaviors That Can Be a Result of Poor Homeschooling

How to determine if someone is rude? There are some obvious signs that can be noticed immediately from the first contact: the person not using the words “thank you” and “please”, not knowing how to behave at the table and being rude to other people. And yes, the first contact is enough to realize that this behavior is not just an “extravagant” way of being, but the simple and pure lack of education.

Psychologists claim that the process of upbringing is much more complex than it appears—it consists of the transmission of certain values ​​through parents, which may change, be subjective, or reflect a cultural context.

we, from awesome.club, we selected 9 signs that immediately reflect a failure of parents in the process of raising children, even if their acts are done behind good manners. Check out!

Admitting you’re wrong isn’t easy, and it’s even harder to do it in public in front of everyone. However, admitting guilt is easier for those who learned this in childhood. Bad education and bad example keep people stuck in a concept of the world that they think is always right and that will never change.

One time I was visiting my family and my uncle got mad at my cousin for something, but not long after that he apologized to him. I was shocked, absolutely amazed to have seen a father figure who actually admits when he’s wrong. This uncle of mine isn’t perfect, but he’s earned my respect, as well as jealousy, but not in a bad way, just a wish I’d had the same instead of the people who always blamed me. © 1D2D3D / Reddit

The habit of being disorganized can indicate that the person has a creative mind, as well as that he has certain psychological problems. However, when it is not about your personal space, but a public space, there is only one explanation: the person is so selfish that he does not think about others, and most likely he is used to being that way since childhood. Psychologists claim that parents who keep the house in order end up educating their children to be organized and to keep the environment clean, even if the child initially resists fulfilling their cleaning obligations. This is how future adults are educated with a sense of collective cleanliness.

I worked at a movie theater, and one of the cleaning girls told me that a little boy was picking up his trash when his grandmother stopped him and said, “No honey, they have people to do it for us,” looking directly at one of the kids. employees. © liquidbob / Reddit You invite your friends over for dinner, make them food, and they don’t wash a single plate or throw away even the napkins they used. That’s the biggest problem with one of my friends, it’s so unpleasant. And it’s happened that he’s come, brought his own food and drink, and left the trash in my room. © anonhoemas / Reddit I was walking yesterday and while waiting to cross a street, a car pulled up to the stop sign in front of me, opened the door and simply threw a garbage bag directly onto the street and drove away. © EditingDuck / Reddit

Not valuing the effort of the other means ignoring all the efforts that were made by us. The devaluation of the care and effort of the other can affect people we like, causing them psychological problems for not understanding why their efforts are never enough, as well as leading them to look for new ways to please you. Another consequence is that the child can become petty and not help other people. In addition, being too sincere can only hurt the other. It is the parent’s responsibility to teach the child to respect the efforts of others and to help others.

We went to visit some family members and stayed at their house. One of their sons, who is a college student, came to his parents and said, “I was thinking, I need a car. Give me one as a gift!” I was already expecting an argument, outbursts of anger and resentment. But the parents, as if with pride, commented to us, “Well done, son. He just asks for the right things, he just needs to get his driver’s license. We have even set aside some money for the course at driving school. As soon as he gets his driver’s license, he will get a car.” I kept looking at my relatives and thinking — they can barely pay the house bills, my grandmother even helps them with some of her pension and sends them some food that she grows in her garden. I honestly don’t understand why they were so proud of their son’s request. © Supervirus / Pikabu

There is no less or more important profession, so it is unnecessary to express unpleasant opinions about it. Most of the time, this attitude reflects family upbringing, since it is through the family that many social bonds are formed and consolidated.

When I was in college, I worked for a while in a stationery store. During the back-to-school season, a little girl came to the store with her mother. Then the daughter started being naughty and saying that she didn’t want to go back to school. Then her mom pointed at me and said, “If you don’t go back to school, you’re going to end up working at a stationery store like this guy.” This irritated me a lot and I replied: “Ma’am, I’m going to graduate in 3 months and I already have a job in a hospital. I hope your daughter ends up working in a stationery store or a restaurant. fast food so she can learn to respect other people, something you don’t teach her”. © GreatAndPowerfulNixy / Reddit When I was in elementary school, I made a comment like “Oh, but he’s just a janitor”, my father, who was an upper class person, scolded me and taught me not to look down on any profession. I always remember this and thank you for this teaching. © GlitteringRoyal1 / Reddit

I worked in a movie theater. One time, a guy accidentally spilled half a bucket of popcorn on the floor right in front of us. This made me angry, but he apologized and I calmed down. Then his wife came over and said, “Honey, don’t be sorry, it’s their job, when we make a mess, it makes sure they have a job.” I looked at her face and she just spilled the rest of the popcorn she had in the bucket at our feet. My boss was there and said, “It’s not you messing around that gives us a job, just your selfish and despicable presence here gets us the job.” © Always_A_LilConfused / Reddit

This is expressed in two different ways: a person saying nasty things or intentionally doing things knowing someone doesn’t like it or that it could harm them. This type of person is comfortable with pestering others, so it is advisable to avoid this toxic type. Such behavior is a consequence of the inability to perceive the feelings of others. Experts advise teaching children from an early age to listen to each other and to take their opinions into account in order to avoid this problem in the future.

Person 1: “I get angry when someone touches my hair”
Person 2: *touches my hair* “Hahaha…are you angry?” © flying_clock / Reddit I remember when I told some colleagues that I have a pollen allergy, the first thing they did was find some flower to throw in my face. It’s like you tell them it’s a magic trick and they want to see the result at all costs. © Tedrivs / Reddit

Maintaining relationships and even making friends thinking of benefiting from something is extremely selfish, while not caring about the feelings and desires of the friend or partner is cruel. This behavior does not arise spontaneously: a person does so according to the example set at home by the parents, either explicitly or implicitly.

I had a friend who kept asking me to do his homework for him, after I said “no”, he decided he didn’t like me anymore, sent a heavy message and blocked me. I wasn’t doing what he wanted me to do, so I wasn’t a good friend. Also, he wanted to copy a project of mine that was worth 60% of the grade. © matikray03 / Reddit I once began an abusive friendship with a medical student I met in the cafeteria. He worked as a lab technician on the same part of the campus as the medical school. We had a very friendly chat until he asked me how long I had been a teacher. I told him that I was not a teacher, and that I worked as a technician in a particular laboratory. He just got mad at me for “wasting his time”. © douche ********* / Reddit

Psychologists are unanimous on this point: parents should raise their children by example. If words differ from attitudes, then later children will become adults who set rules but don’t follow them.

My dad loved to say things like “Because I said so”, “I’ll explain later” or “Do as I say, not as I do”. And I hated hearing those phrases, it makes the child think, “I know I shouldn’t do this, but since no one is watching, I can”, instead of doing the right thing even when no one is watching. I’m not criticizing your parenting methods, but just showing the perspective of a child who has heard it many times, and that it can influence his character later on. © ma ******** / Reddit My mom used to tell me this a lot when I was little. The day I learned the word “hypocrisy” at school was especially interesting… © kerill333 / Reddit

For people who have good emotional intelligence, rejection serves as a life lesson, a reason to push your own limits and reconsider your stance. This behavior is directly linked to education and family values. However, rude people have a great deal of difficulty dealing with rejection.

I have a 5 year old daughter. I recently bought her a bike. From a young age I taught her not to take what belongs to others. So one time we went for a walk in the park and took the bike. She played a lot and, when she got tired, we decided to play with the toys in the park. She was sitting on the bench, while my daughter was in the litter box, when a mother arrived with her son. The boy was about 6 years old and…