8 Stages Of The Twin Flame – Are You Experiencing It? ⋆ Loner Wolf

The love between two reunited twin flames is like a wild animal.

It cannot be captured. It cannot be contained. It cannot be tamed. Instead it burns fiercely with an indelible form of intensity that is both intoxicating and awe-inspiring. The love experienced between twin flames is like sacred fire: it burns you to ashes, but it also shapes you into a new creature, like a phoenix emerging from the dust.

Although every Twin Flame relationship is unique and cannot be simplified, there is a general pattern that emerges in these connections. As a person who has undergone a Twin Flame Fusion, I know how overwhelming (and even terrifying) such an experience can be. I would have loved to read an article on common telltale twin flame signs when I was going through such a disorienting experience. But at the time, I knew nothing of twin flames or what they meant. So I want to provide you with what I was missing here: an overview map that can help guide you and pinpoint exactly where you are.

8 large twin flame levels

Twin flames are said to be beings that help our soul find fulfillment. The ancient Greek philosopher Plato first created the idea of ​​”divided” souls eternally longing to find their “other half.” We still carry around this idea of ​​“finding our other half” these days, but sadly we believe that’s absolutely the case imperative so we can find another person to be complete. Please remember that while twin flames help us experience unconditional love and grow tremendously as human beings, not all of us find our twin flames and not all of us must Twin flames to feel complete. Please read “7 Common Myths That Beautify Twin Flame Relationships” to learn more about them.

It also helps to remember that the extent to which you can experience harmony in your Twin Flame relationship depends on your level of spiritual maturity. For example, two old souls will find it much easier to “hold it all together” than two young souls. You can read more about Soul Age.

With this in mind, what are the eight major stages of twin flames you are likely to experience in your relationship?

Level one – longing for “the one”

In this preliminary stage you have spent your whole life longing for “the one” who does not yet exist in your life. You have this odd feeling that someone perfectly formed into you is “out there,” but you’re not sure exactly where or when they’re going to show up in your life. Although you long for your twin flame, you have a feeling that they will eventually appear to you.

This phase is also sometimes spent “preparing” on a subconscious level for the arrival of the twin flame. In my case, I had to learn to love myself before I knew mine. For others, this phase of preparation involves the development of self-awareness, discovery, and understanding.

Phase Two – A Look at “The One”

At some point you will catch a glimpse of your twin flame. Whether this happens through a dream signal or through a real encounter, suddenly the loved one can be felt. The result is profound. Amazement, joy, fear and intoxication set in quickly. For the cautious among us, the result is a sustained feeling of intense curiosity and a desire to get to know the person better. You don’t know what it is exactly, but this person is very special. Maybe you even feel like me that this person will play an immensely important role in your life – even before you really know them.

Stage Three – Falling in love

If you fall in love with this person, you will find it very, very difficult. You’ll fall harder than you’ve ever fallen into anyone – and the impact will take your breath away. The more you get to know your twin flame, the more you will fall in love with them. As a result, you will find it difficult to stand with two feet on the ground. You may feel disoriented, lovesick, and “different from yourself.” You may even try to resist attraction, but eventually you will accept the reality that you are deeply and madly in love.

Stage Four – The Fairy Tale Relationship

When the two of you finally share your feelings and start a relationship, life will feel like a fairy tale. Your relationship with them will be perfect in every way. It will seem like your twin flame fulfills every single need you have and everything you have ever wanted. This taste of “paradise” is what the matured twin flame relationship looks like after the next stages of turmoil.

Stage Five – Outer turmoil and inward purification

At this stage there is trouble in paradise. As the ecstasy of the first meeting wears off, egos begin to flare up. Differences of opinion, taste and personality suddenly arise, old core wounds emerge from the darkness. While our twin flames share and reflect our deepest needs, desires, and dreams, they also tend to mirror our shadow selves. For example, if you are an emotionally repressed person, your twin flame will likely be emotionally explosive. If you tend to be arrogant, your twin flame will most likely be insecure and calm. This is how our twin flames challenge us and fuel our insecurities. This can be annoying, devastating and very painful.

While all the bickering and fighting at this stage may seem disastrous, the truth is that it is necessary for our growth. Without being provoked, without seeing ourselves as we “really” are, we live in illusion and cannot grow spiritually. But that’s certainly hard to realize while you’re going through such turmoil in your relationship!

Stage Six – The runner and hunter

As tensions rise, it’s common for one partner (or sometimes both) to withdraw emotionally or physically and “run away,” with another chasing in a game of cat and mouse. Sometimes this involves emotional shutdowns and silent treatments. In other cases, it involves physical separation and, in extreme cases, the permanent termination of the relationship. In this phase twin flames experience a crucible. While some relationships endure and are strengthened, others fall to pieces. As I mentioned at the beginning, this all depends on the emotional maturity of each partner. Sometimes a partner leaves for many years and then returns, only to repeat the cycle all over again. The pursuer, on the other hand, tends to be the more mentally and emotionally mature partner of the two, trying to sort things out and make amends.

Stage Seven – Surrender and Dissolution

Once the shadow of your relationship has been uncovered, you may experience a period of devotion. After so much fear, suffering and provocation, you both start to open up about your wounds and insecurities. It is common at this stage to experience a great deal of ego dissolution and soulful expansion. As the ego relaxes, powerful lessons are learned about the nature of oneself and the nature of the “other.” As you begin to learn how to overcome your differences, the maturity of your relationship deepens and strengthens.

It’s common to go through stages six and seven many times during your relationship.

Level Eight – Unity

As the issues in your relationship become more and more manageable, you will enter a time of soul reunion. In phase eight, you both often find a common meaning, passion, or cause this brings you a mutual sense of accomplishment. As the ego continues to relax, virtues such as forgiveness, understanding, empathy and patience are learned. The more you both work vigilantly through each problem you encounter, the more you experience a sense of “oneness” or ego death.

This is a real miracle.

Need more help?

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Did you find your twin flame? Which of these twin flame phases have you experienced in life and what insights can you share? I would love to hear from you below.