8 signs that indicate your emotional growth

The fact of adding more and more candles to the birthday cake is not an indicator that our maturity increases.. Nor about having greater emotional growth or having gained skill with those things that make us lose our balance.

Most of us have a tendency to punish ourselves for the mistakes we make., rather than congratulate ourselves for the achievements we have achieved. Being very hard on ourselves (more than on anyone else) and focusing only on the failures and not the successes.

This may be due to the society we live in or the century we have been given. We tend to get demotivated quickly when something doesn’t go as expected. We don’t value what we do well. We don’t have enough patience to move forward and we don’t pay attention to small changes.

From time to time it is worth stopping in the whirlwind of everyday life to make a list of everything we have achieved. Not to be arrogant, but to realize how much we have grown emotionally.

Signs that we have matured emotionally

Emotional growth is sometimes difficult to measure, however there are some signs we can pay attention to. Signs that tell us that we can add candles to the birthday cake you mental are the following.

1. You let go of what makes you bad

It is very important to learn to remove from our lives what harms us., which does not help us move forward or ties us to the past. This skill is key to achieving success in anything we undertake. Recognizing toxic people is already a big step.

2. You learn from mistakes

Who said that making mistakes has to become a scourge for all eternity? We can learn many lessons from failures.. There is no point in always aspiring to obsessive perfectionism. It is good to make mistakes and know what things not to repeat again.

This completely changes our perspectives and helps us undertake new projects; this time, more successful and ambitious. Because? Because experience guides us.

3. You avoid complaints

This is undoubtedly one of the most prominent signs of having grown emotionally. People who spend all day criticizing because all they achieve is increasing the negativity and pessimism around them.

Learning to “not cry over spilled milk” makes a person mature. If you act or resolve more and complain or cry less, it is because you are growing.

4. You celebrate other people’s successes

Applauding and being truly happy when others do well is synonymous with maturity.. This means that you don’t envy him, that you understand that he has put in a lot of effort, and that you are able to recognize the work of others.

5. You have less conflictive relationships

It doesn’t mean that everything will be “love and peace” but it does mean that you won’t spend it fighting and arguing.. That stage of wanting to take the world ahead of you at any cost has already passed.

You have learned to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, to try to reach an agreement before confronting, that fights are a waste of time and that it is better to find a solution together. Furthermore, you have realized that it is better to have peace of mind than reason.

6. You are not afraid to ask for help

Until a while ago (when you had not yet grown emotionally), you considered that asking for help was a way of showing weakness and that you could not allow it. However, now you have understood that it is a sign of trust in the other, for example. You can’t always do everything on your own, it’s good to be humble and recognize that you don’t know something or you need help..

7. You know what you want

The uncertainty of the future is no longer a rule, but the exception. You are more aware of what you want to achieve in your life and even when. By being more sure of yourself, you establish the rules of your destiny and you know for sure what you expect from tomorrow.

8. You don’t care what others say

What they will say has many times kept you awake, but now you are in another stage. You are only interested in the opinions of those who want to help you and want to see you well.. That is, the “constructive criticism” from those around you (because you have also already distanced yourself from toxic people).

We can all enjoy healthy, powerful, motivating emotional growth that allows us to mature and grow as people. Don’t worry if there are some signs that you haven’t yet been able to resolve in the best way. Life is a journey in which we never stop learning. Continue with a firm step and do not let yourself be frightened by fears.

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