8 Reasons That Usually Embarrass Us, But Shouldn’t

Certainly, during childhood, everyone has heard or ended up learning that certain behaviors and attitudes are shameful, and this happens so often that it ends up creating a “culture of shame”, forcing people to follow certain unwritten rules. Like, for example, keeping the house always in perfect order, wearing new and fashionable clothes, and even reading the classics. However, the opposite is also perfectly normal.

The wording of awesome.club researched and carefully studied articles by psychologists and other experts and found eight reasons why people are most embarrassed. Follow!

The belief that only a single man’s home can be disorganized is still very common, while a house headed by a woman must necessarily shine all the time. The fact is that, regardless of gender, for some, cleaning the floor and washing dishes is a kind of therapy, and for others — real torture.

In some cases, the shame for the lack of organization borders on the absurd. Some people, when hiring a cleaning professional, try to organize the house beforehand so as not to give a “bad impression”, and others do a real and long cleaning operation before receiving guests.

On this topic, a study conducted in England found that more than half of respondents feel very embarrassed by the state of organization of their homes. And a third of them also said that they usually refuse visits for the same reason.

In other words, it makes no sense to be ashamed of the state of your home in front of people who are also ashamed of the organization of their own. Do you agree?

The stereotypes that a crying woman is hysterical and that a man who cries in front of others is a weakling should have long since fallen by the wayside. Of course, on certain occasions, containing emotions is indeed commendable, but not everyone manages to contain them.

It is worth remembering that there will always be someone to provide support in times of greater fragility, even if it is a stranger. After all, we are all human.

Psychological help is still a taboo. If someone visits the psychologist, many automatically assume that something is wrong with the person’s mind, making most prefer to hide the fact from even their closest friends. However, when we open up and have a frank conversation, we end up discovering that practically many people experience the same problems, and the only difference is that they don’t go to the psychologist, because they feel ashamed.

In a world where classical art (literature, painting, cinema, among others) is highly valued, it is difficult to be someone who is only interested in contemporary artistic manifestations. Many will certainly react negatively if you say that you don’t like to read Machado de Assis, Tolstoy, Victor Hugo, among other classic authors. However, nowadays, literature is no longer exclusively a source of knowledge, but a means of entertainment, and, in this sense, many are not adept at reading the classics – which is absolutely no reason to be ashamed.

In fact, it’s purely a matter of personal taste: if you’re a fan of 2000s rap or Stephenie Meyer, that’s really up to you. Of course, it is quite useful to know the classics, as a form of personal development, but no one is obliged to read and admire them.

When you’re at a big event or party and you’re introduced to a lot of people, it’s common after a few minutes to forget the names of some. This is absolutely normal, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Our brain simply does not expend energy trying to learn the names of others, because it considers such an attitude of minor importance. In other words, pretty much everyone faces the same problem when it comes to new names, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Sometimes everyone gets confused in speech: we mix up words, confuse syllables, swallow endings, and so on. Of course, it is still embarrassing and not at all pleasant if it happens, for example, at an important meeting, but there is nothing wrong with that. The best way to get around embarrassment is to acknowledge out loud that you’re nervous and laugh a little at your confusions. That way, you defuse the situation in your favor and everything will be easier.

Gossip, in the opinion of most people, is unacceptable. However, things are not quite like that. Sociologists believe that the desire to gossip is a useful social skill, which in the past helped people to share information, know who had resources, contacts, and so on.

Gossip, therefore, should not be considered a shameful action, but a way to keep in touch with other people and a possibility to express your opinion on some topic or individual.

Clothing has always been considered an expression of a person’s success, and that hasn’t changed much in recent times. Imagine the situation: you went to the theater wearing jeans while everyone else wore elegant dresses and tuxedo🇧🇷 Of course, your natural reaction is to feel embarrassed. However, it’s okay not to follow fashion, dress outside the label, or second-hand clothes. Wearing the same shoes for a few years is also normal. No one should feel self-conscious about not being able to afford brand name clothing or simply not wanting to wear it.

How do you deal with the situations described in the post? Do you agree that there is nothing to be ashamed of? Tell us in the comments section.