6 tips to enjoy sex in depth

improve sex life positively affects well-being. there are many factors that affect to the experience of sexuality and that can modify it from one moment of life to another.

The physical and psychological health, beliefs, personal circumstances or the state of the couple’s relationship are some of them. In any case, we can fully enjoy sexuality when we achieve feel good about ourselves and open ourselves to pleasure and communication with another person.

To enhance sexuality it is essential to have a good contact with the body, both with the senses and with the emotions. as she said Fritz Perlscreator of Gestalt therapy, “you have to put your mind aside and connect with the senses“.

it suits open up to information that comes to us, especially from the look, touch and hearing. Must we relax, we allow to cultivate sensuality and begin to enjoy like this through the body. This way you can be more aware of what we like and what not Health psychologist Susanna Tres explains how to achieve it in this article:

1. Let go of emotions

It is also essential be attentive to emotions that we can live, and accept that sometimes we are happy and sometimes sad, angry or afraid.

When we do not accept certain emotions and repress them, we are eliminating important information about who we are and what we need. The conflicting emotions that are suppressed they can become anchored in the body and cause tensions and disturbed response patterns.

Undoubtedly, the more knowledge and acceptance of oneself, the healthier and more satisfying the sexual life will be.

One of the main difficulties to enjoy of sexuality lies in the wrong beliefs that they have about her. Although the situation has changed a lot in recent decades, there are still many negative messages about sex. Like, for example, that sexuality is something animal or dirty that must be tamed and hidden. Sexuality is opposed to values cultural or to the mind.

It is convenient to overcome this dualism that dissociates us and live the pleasure to the fullest that sexuality can bring. We are here to be happy and sexuality is a magnificent path to this happiness.

many people feel panic to let go, which can seriously interfere with the proper functioning of your sexuality. Them lack of sufficient personal security as to live spontaneously sexual activity.

The need for control what they feel limits your response to sexual stimuli. This problem is related to a fear of feeling pleasure and other feelings and emotions that have been repressed because they are painful or unacceptable.

2. Do not force yourself to anything

There are cases of people who doubt if they do it right in bed and wonder if the other will be satisfied enough. They are so eager to please their partner that they forget their own pleasure.

In these cases it is recommended be less altruistic. Each individual must be responsible for his own pleasure. Is about know what we need and take it.

At the other end are who only look out for themselves, completely ignoring what the other feels. Such a person can come to impose sexual practices with which the other member of the couple does not feel comfortable.

These attitudes also have negative consequences on the couple, which becomes resentful and inhibited. The sexual impulse is directed to gain closeness with another person.

At the beginning of a relationship sex is generally more frequent and intense than when this relationship stabilizes. There is no need to worry if part of the energy of the passion is used for the tasks of coexistence.

Rigid attitudes, such as those of people who impose themselves to follow a certain activity or sexual frequency, are counterproductive, since they sex cannot respond to an obligation but to desire. Although it is not necessary to allow that the sexual life sink into routine or neglect.

3. Stimulate desire

The loss of sexual desire is much more common than you think. When the loss of interest produces discomfort in the person or in the relationship we are faced with a problem.

This can manifest itself in various ways, from those who feel a lack of desire for sex but it is able to respond to stimuli of the couple, even those who lack interest in initiating sexual activity and also rejects sexual approaches of the other.

The couple’s reactions of those who suffer from lack of desire are very varied. Some couples interpret the problem as a questioning of their sexual and amatory capacityunderstanding it as a personal rejection.

In other cases, especially if it is the woman who experiences the inhibition of desire, man can come to consider it normal. Frequently, wrong information leads one to think that the woman is not able to enjoy with sex or that its function is to provide pleasure to the man. In none of these cases do we see an attitude favorable to find a solution.

Given the inhibition of the sexual response, the possibility of a decreased vitality due to illness or medication. But it is more common that this inhibition is due to stress and tirednesswhich also directly affect libido.

To guarantee the enjoyment of eroticism, it is essential to take care of physical and psychological health through diet, physical exercise and adequate rest. Practices such as yoga, tai chi or meditation favor the relaxation and mental calm necessary to be able to live a relaxed sexuality.

4. Work with sexual energies

The sexual energy forms part of life energy described by Wilhelm Reich and known centuries ago in the East under the name of chi (China) or prana (India).

this energy circulates throughout the body and it can cause illness if it stagnates or speeds up. Promote the proper functioning of this energy positively affects sexuality.

Alternative therapies based on this principle, such as acupuncture, ayurvedic massagetuina (Chinese massage) or shiatsu can also be of great help.

psychological conflicts such as low self-esteem, feelings of depression or insecurity are harmful to sexuality. From bioenergetics it has been observed that neurotic people had reduced “orgasm reflex”consisting of the involuntary, uncontrollable and repeated movement of the hip at the moment of sexual climax.

For this reason, when problems persist, an psychotherapeutic intervention. psychotherapy can help discover and heal the traumatic experiences that are causing the dysfunction.

wilhelm reich described how traumatic emotions are fixed in the muscles and thus the so-called body armor. The body becomes rigid Avoid difficult movements and feelings.

Over time a certain physic structure that corresponds to a certain character structure. If the body structure is very inflexibleit is not strange that they have sexual problems.

For this reason, for sexual problems, a psycho body therapysince it helps to soften the body armor and unlock traumatic emotions that have hidden in the muscles.

5. Seek support from a therapist or a sexologist

Very often the cause of sexual problems lies in unresolved conflicts of the couple. Certain situations may have generated feelings of resentment, distrust or estrangementwhich are manifested in the sexual sphere.

In these cases it is essential review the history of the couple, identify the affective difficulty and try to solve it. For this you have to talk about own feelings and express what each one needs. If the couple does not achieve effective communication, it is advisable see a couples therapist that can help clarify and solve the difficulty.

Sexual intercourse with another has the capacity to provide a strongfeeling of emotional intimacy, which when developed leads to trust and love. It allows us to open our hearts and makes us vulnerable; for that reason fears also arise. By opening up more to intimacy through sex we will see how the bond is strengthened and the relationship is enriched.

It is very important to enjoy the satisfying feelings that closeness provides while taking into account and sharing insecurities and fears.

6. Open up to the emotional

Some people seek or have access to a spiritual dimension of sexuality.

Sexuality embodies the possibility of transcendence in two ways: the reproduction of the species (we transcend the current life through the life of our children) and the possibility of transcend one’s own body uniting with another being to achieve unity, pleasure and peace.

The spiritual sense can be developed when we let the sensations take us beyond our limits. Orgasm can bring us closer to death (la petite death it is called in French), since it takes us beyond the ego. Identity dissolves and bodies and souls merge.

Human beings, being aware of their limitations, yearn for know more about themselves, grow and complete themselves. In short, they yearn lovewhich is the highest human potentiality.

Sexuality is a path that can lead us to this love. To walk on this path, one must cultivate openness to the sensual and emotionalas well as the willingness to face personal and interpersonal conflicts that appear.

Although it may have difficult stretches, deepening and enjoying sexuality is really worth it.

query readings

Love and orgasm; Alexander Lowen, Ed. KairosThe secrets of total sexuality; David and Ellen Ramsdale, Ed.Robinbook