20 Signs You’re Dating an Asshole

Never know or always know?

There are those who say that whoever gets involved with an imbecile usually “deserves it” or is a bit of an imbecile too. I don’t think it’s there. Love/infatuation/infatuation/horniness often blinds people, and they, in fact, take time to realize the hole they were getting themselves into. Some never realise.

This text is not mine alone. He started 4 hands when a friend went to dinner at home and we were once again discussing why a friend of ours is dating a complete asshole. (I can already see that I’m going to get screwed with this text, but I think it’s a public utility — and I remember well the principle of the supremacy of the public interest over the private, in administrative law classes). Then other friends — male and female — contributed to the list, thinking of other friends — male and female — who date assholes.

There are some things that are obvious to an imbecile and therefore need not be mentioned. We take it for granted: people who don’t treat you well, people who yell at you, people who have already threatened to be violent, people who throw garbage in the street. If you’re dating someone along those lines, you have an obligation to know that you’re dating an asshole without the help of any text.

But other characteristics are not usually so evident, so we made this small-big list as if to say MIGA PRESTENÇÃO THAT YOU’RE GETTING INTO A HUGE COLD.

Come on. Signs you’re dating an asshole:

(they are in the masculine – but they are equally valid for the feminine)

(Oh, and you don’t have to fill in the 20 to see he’s an asshole, okay? In fact, 3 or 4 on this list are enough — believe me, if you’re dating/married someone nice, this list is completely bullshit).

1) If dear people, who have always wanted you well, have moved away from you little by little since you started to have a relationship with him;

two) If you spend a lot of time highlighting good things about him to try to persuade his friends to think he’s cool. Seriously, if he was nice you wouldn’t have to convince anyone of that.

3) If you’re afraid of the opinions he might express in public like “I think it’s necessary, these days there are straight pride groups, because we’re in a gay dictatorship.” Oh friend. Get out, please.

4) If you’ve heard many times, from different people, the following question “But are you sure you’re happy with him”?

5) If when he’s with his friends or family, one of two: either he doesn’t even interact with people or he interacts and gives shit (gets out, is rude, says what he shouldn’t)

6) If you tolerate things in this person that you wouldn’t tolerate in anyone else, like “he hates kids, but it’s because he had a childhood trauma with a mean kid” (no friend, that’s not love, that’s bullshit)

7) If you “lost” a little contact with people you’ve always liked, because you think they “don’t match” very much with his style

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8) If you ever find out that his family or friends have a secret nickname to refer to him (nicknames are fine as long as they don’t need to be hidden)

9) If he scolds you in front of others (enough with the beer for today love / no, no, this story is not good / another pastel?!)

10) If his behavior is very different when he is with his friends or his family and when he is with his friends or family. Nice people are often the same, invariably.

11) If more than once he asked you “Wow, why are you friends with the guy?”. Affection should never be questioned – not for him, not for anyone else.

12) If you started living his life more than he lived yours, and if you didn’t build a life together (you just migrated to his life, with his people, his programs, his places)

13) If he’s the type of person who feels threatened or intimidated by your accomplishments, rather than cheering you on for them (“the bigger her wings, the farther she can fly” X “the bigger their wings, farther we can fly together”)

14) If you realize that people close to you are not free to tell you everything they think about him (“ah friend, he is sometimes a little… ahn… how to say… a little, like… like…”)

15) If you know the name/history/job/spouse of all his friends and he refers to his friends as “The one with the glasses? The one with the curly hair? The little guy who is a dentist?”

16) If he is unable to understand that your past has made you who you are, and that your past, like his, will always walk with you – whether he likes it or not.

17) If he often inserts derogatory adjectives before the names of his friends or family like “your cousin’s slacker” (unless he’s already so close to your cousin that he finds him, slaps his ass, and says “and there, you lazy bastard?!” – I don’t think that’s the case)

18) If, thinking about a possible breakup, you find yourself being more afraid of being single than of being without him (be careful, in this case he can be an imbecile, but so are you)

19) If he thinks hanging out with your friends and family is a favor he does you, and not lucky to be included with the people you care about.

20) If he tries to change a lot about you – if he hasn’t already.

And, come to think of it, you’d also like to change things about it. Several things, by the way. Many things perhaps. Maybe almost everything… Maybe because… He’s not the right person, right friend? ♥

SEE TOO:

• QUIZ: Find out how well you know your boyfriend (husband/wife)

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