20 secrets of every elegant woman

Elegance is far from being related to social class or how much money a person has. Everyone in life has known rich and elegant people, rich and rude people, poor elegant people and poor rude people. Money tells you what you can buy, but it doesn’t limit your attitude.

As Coco Chanel supposedly said, “A girl should be two things: elegant and fabulous.” And by that, she probably meant that, it’s chic to adopt a stylish personality and feel fabulous.

And elegance is something very abstract. It is not possible to measure it or separate it into rules, like a mathematical formula. It is a set of attitudes that are believed to be polite, polite and kind to others around and to yourself.

Even though it’s a human art and not an engineering one, you can follow some secrets to bring more elegance to your behavior. Check out the list below and see what you can do right now to be a better person.

The elegant woman…

1. Treats well those who provide services to her, such as waiters and salespeople. After all, she knows that no one is better than anyone else. Saying good morning to the doorman, saying “thank you” when receiving a dish at the restaurant and looking into the eyes of the salesperson who serves you are elegant attitudes.

2. Knows how to talk about a variety of subjects, such as politics and travel. She reads, gets information about everyday life, learns more about her hobbies and interests and tries to be a person who has content to talk about.

3. Understands the importance of knowing how to change a shower head or a tire. Or other everyday things that we don’t have to wait for someone else to do. But you also know that it’s OK to ask for help when you can’t do something. Humility is everything!

4. Don’t try to step over anyone to get ahead in life. It doesn’t create gossip in the work environment, it doesn’t try to damage the image of other employees, it doesn’t try to guess where its opinion doesn’t fit. Respect is part of a professional and elegant posture.

5. She respects differences and is always looking to learn more about people. It is elegant to have a notion of basic concepts to respect minorities, different religions, different cultures. Start by not making fun of people’s race, sexual orientation, religion, or physical aspects, and try to cut down on disrespectful comments when you see someone else doing so.

6. While talking to someone, look them in the eye and don’t stay on your phone all the time. Show real interest in a conversation or leave politely. Talking on the cell phone at the same time is not elegant. Avoid.

7. Use reason, be fair and not harsh when criticizing. Knowing how to criticize (and receive criticism) is an art that needs constant practice and care. Think carefully about the words you are going to use and focus on the problem and not the person. Attitudes can be criticized, mistakes can be criticized, but try not to hurt the other with rudeness.

8. Knows how to recognize something good in those or what they don’t like. Not everything is 100% bad or 100% good. It’s important to recognize and separate what you don’t like about someone or something, from the good part that everything can have. You may, for example, dislike a certain singer’s attitudes, but enjoy his music nonetheless.

9. Practice the proverb that says “Speech is silver, but silence is gold”. Knowing when to be silent and just listening and knowing when your opinion is not needed in a situation is elegant, very elegant!

10. Listens and knows how to appreciate the things that others like, even if they are things that you don’t like or agree with. For example, you may like bossa nova, but you have to respect those who enjoy other musical styles, such as sertanejo or funk. Never think that only what you like is good, respect the taste and culture of others.

11. Knows how to recognize his mistakes, tries to fix them and is not shy about apologizing. Recognizing your faults and doing something about them isn’t humiliating, it’s elegant and humble. It is something that must be practiced every day.

12. Never speak ill of others. As difficult as it is and we are often tempted to do this, it is good to avoid it. Speaking ill of others shows more about your character than theirs. If you don’t like someone, walk away instead of gossiping behind their back.

13. Knows how to maintain control even in the most chaotic situations. When something bad happens, there’s no need to scream, panic, swear, and use heavy words. Keep Calm. Aggression won’t do anything if it resolves faster or better.

14. Try not to judge people by their appearance and avoid stereotyping them. It is very important to know how to silence that “inner voice” that is mentally judging people while we observe a person on the street or in a circle of friends. Try to delete everything you think the image of the person is giving you and try to really get to know them.

15. Speaks in a medium tone, not too low and not shouting. The elegant woman speaks at a volume that allows everyone to hear her clearly, but doesn’t scream either, as she knows it’s not necessary. It is also nice to try to improve the diction to be well understood. Knowing how to speak well is very elegant.

16. Enjoy and exercise a healthy sense of humor. There’s nothing worse than someone who doesn’t laugh at anything, doesn’t play games and doesn’t have fun with life. To be someone nice to be around, don’t be frowning.

17. Knows how to say no without being rude. In life we ​​need to say a lot of “no”, but that doesn’t mean we need to be rude. Unless the situation itself is already rude. In that case, use your judgment and act as you see fit.

18. Practice gratitude, giving thanks whenever possible. Thank your mother for the unexpected call, your coworker for a kindness, your mailman for putting the magazine in a dry and safe place, your child’s teacher for warning you about your behavior, a friend for that ride that saved you the day, the cashier at the market for the change you so desperately needed. Thank you more. For simple things, for things not so simple. But thank.

19. Cultivate friendships from a variety of backgrounds, cultures and groups. Those who live only with people from a similar group end up not knowing what life is like outside this bubble. Meet people of different ages, races, cultures, religions and countries. People from different backgrounds add rich stories and friendships to their lives, experiences that money can’t buy.

20. Values ​​and celebrates the achievements of other women. At this time when feminism is being talked about more than ever, practice it. Practice empathy for other women. Celebrate your friends’ achievements. Be a fan of female artists. Read books written by women. Vote for women. Don’t ignore women who are moving into territories that were once dominated only by men.

You’ll find that following these 20 elegant behavior secrets isn’t always easy, but it doesn’t hurt to try. Elegance is something that the more you practice it, the more natural it will be in your life. Do not hesitate to adopt these ideas.