20 Incredible readers revealed their reasons for not wanting to be mothers

In the past, women were destined, for the most part, to only take care of the house and children. But over time this culture has changed. Nowadays, some couples work outside and share the housework and, on the other hand, some people live alone without feeling the need for a partner, a companion or heirs… and that’s okay, it’s each individual’s choice. a.

We, from awesome.club, we like to bring you questions about people’s right to choose what is best for their lives. That’s why we selected 20 comments from some of our followers who opened their hearts and told why they decided not to have children.

Society has always demanded that from me… my husband and I decided not to have them because if it’s tight, just me and him, plus the dogs we have, having a child together would be more complicated. ©Amanda Ribeiro/Facebook

I’m 32 years old and I don’t have children, I don’t want to! My life goal and future plans do not include a child. But I always come across such questions: “Wow, give your mother a grandchild”, “You will soon not be old enough to have a child”, “You will only be complete after being a mother” (hi?). People need to accept that not everyone was born for such a thing. Not everyone puts a child as a life plan and goal. ©Pamela Duarte/Facebook

Children are legacies! I didn’t because my husband was barren. But I certainly wasn’t frustrated that I didn’t have one. I have beautiful nephews who love and respect me! ©Rogéria Reis/Facebook

I’ve wanted to have children, but now I don’t. Even though I’m not married, I’ve already been encouraged to be a single mother (adopting or having the conventional way), so that I would have someone to take care of me in old age and not have a lonely life. I always answer that children should not be a guarantee of a supported old age. ©Sueli Silvestre Novais Vilela/Facebook

Today I’m 49 years old and one of the decisions I don’t regret is not having children, I love children (other people’s), but I never saw myself as a mother and I was always sure that I never would be. This was my choice and no one has ever charged me for it, but if they did, I would tell the person to take care of their own business. ©Silvana Galvão/Facebook

I’m tired of hearing my family members, and my husband’s, practically demand that we have a child. I always thought that being a mother is not a priority in my life, I never wanted to be and I like my freedom. In case I happen to get pregnant “by chance”, I will certainly be a good mother because I like children, but it’s not something I want right now. ©Adelayde Regis Diniz/Facebook

I think it is very important for society to accept that there are people who were not born for motherhood! I know people who don’t want to have children and are constantly being criticized for it. It is necessary to promote the difference and accept, not all women were born to be mothers and there is no harm in that! ©Rute Alexandra/Facebook

Since I was a child, I already knew that I didn’t want to have children. I am the eldest of six siblings and I had to help take care of them from a young age through adolescence. I know well the work that children give, in addition to the financial expenses. I like to be alone, I love my peace, my silence, I can’t imagine my house with children and toys scattered around. ©Alzeni Lopes/Facebook

My husband and I chose not to have children. A lot of people question our decision saying we’ll miss it, but I can’t miss something I never had. People think that having children is the height of marital happiness, I totally disagree. We are happy with our furry “children” and that’s it!!! ©Isadora Carvalho Martins/Facebook

I also chose not to have children, I’m 50 years old and I don’t regret it. This requires a responsibility that I am not interested in, people need to understand that it is not because you are a woman that you have an obligation to have children. Being a mother is a choice, simple as that! ©Cristina Moraes/Facebook

I’m 30 years old and until today I chose not to be a mother, I have my reasons and I don’t think anyone is obliged to follow the standards required by society. I find it funny when people say to me: “Aren’t you going to have a child?”, “She’s been married for so long…” ©Paula Hass Araripe/Facebook

I greatly admire women who have decided not to have children. If you don’t want to, it’s better to take care of yourself and not let it come anyway. Many take place with nephews and friends’ children… you don’t necessarily need to be a mother to feel happy, happiness is within each one. ©Sheylla Sales/Facebook

I chose not to have children and I am very happy with my decision, I decided to adopt a 4-legged furry. Not that it’s the same, but I think a lot about the world we live in today, very different from the childhood I had, which was wonderful and which my son would never know. ©Raquel Carolina Bagio/Facebook

Society still demands a lot, they are small comments in the form of a joke like: “In a little while you won’t be able to do it anymore”, “It’s going to be difficult after 35 years”. I really admire the woman who dreams of being a mother, the one who gives up her career and stays at home dedicating herself to her child. But I also admire people who today reflect a lot before bringing a child into the world. Children are a blessing yes, I am one, you are one. I’m not a mother, but I believe what this world needs is more solutions for the children that already exist. ©Sandra Souza/Facebook

Do I need to give reasons? I never wanted it and I think it’s normal not to want it. What I don’t think is very normal is this romanticization of motherhood. Good thing we have the right to choose, right? ©Joice Cunha/Facebook

Nice to see that we have the freedom to choose to be or not to be a mother. No woman is less fulfilled for not having children. A happy and fulfilled person is one who knows what he wants, who lives his dreams, whether with children or not. ©Eliane Ramos/Facebook

I have a coworker who doesn’t accept my decision not to want children. I don’t want it, it’s not because I’m still young, I’ve always thought that way and for the moment I’m going to keep it. People have to understand that one’s dream may not be another’s dream and that’s okay, the world won’t end for that. ©Adriane Dalpiaz/Facebook

I support this decision not to be a mother. Today I am 42 years old and I have never had children. In fact, it is society, family and friends who end up demanding this from women, without letting them make their own decisions. ©Precyla Biavatti/Facebook

I never wanted to be a mother and I knew that would never change for me. People said that when I was older, my thinking would change and I would want to have children. I’m 36 years old and nothing has changed. ©Juliana Oliveira/Facebook

Since I was a teenager I always said I didn’t want to have a child. Today I’m 32 years old and I’ve been married for 11. I still have the same thought, I chose not to have them. ©Karoene Da Silva Cunha Lobato/Facebook

Do you have or know someone who thinks the same way? What is your opinion on this somewhat controversial topic? Tell us in the comments.