13 Shows Toxic Friendships That Can Hurt You

In general, we tend to think that a long friendship means a good friendship, but this is not always true.

As difficult as it may seem, distancing yourself from old friends is sometimes necessary. A strong friendship can lose strength over the years, making it very bad for your health.

O awesome.club gathered clear symptoms of toxic friendships. If you notice that something similar is happening to you, stay tuned and assess whether it is worth continuing to be with that person.

If you mention something about your successes to a ‘toxic’ friend, she’ll probably change the subject or lament her bad luck: “You, all happy, and I have nothing.” She has no interest in her success, but on the other hand, she is always willing to ‘comfort’ you after her failures.

What does it cause? A friend’s negative reaction to your success can cause feelings of guilt and a desire to change the situation, or even a strong desire to help her, as if it were your responsibility. Often, your ‘friend’ receives this help on the defensive, adding to her weight on her conscience.

A ‘toxic’ friend won’t be happy to find out you’ve been with someone other than her. She may frown or make a fuss, demanding inclusion in all her plans. The most obvious manifestation is to follow their social networks and send provocative messages, such as ‘Did you go out again and didn’t call me?’

What does it cause? You can even be patient and take on the role of a teacher, explaining the correct way to behave. But psychologists believe that this behavior is very difficult to change. Scandals are becoming more and more frequent. How long do you think you can resist?

We often don’t realize that after talking to someone we feel weak, tired and have a headache. Psychologist Susan Heitler, a doctor from New York University, believes that this is psychosomatic, that is, emotional discomfort causes physical discomfort.

What does it cause? When you notice a feeling of discomfort after a conversation with a friend, ask yourself if this happens all the time. If the answer is yes, consider whether it’s worth continuing to date her, or whether it’s better to take a break.

A change in your interests, a negative experience, or just an inexplicable feeling can cause you to stop telling your friend a few things, even if you told her everything before.

What does it cause? If you stop talking about your feelings, experiences, and events, you’ll soon realize that there’s no point in maintaining your friendship anymore.

Of course, we all need support from time to time, but a ‘toxic’ friend often abuses that right. She calls super late or super early and demands you listen to her, and she gets really offended when you don’t do what she wants. Support is important for a relationship, but a friend doesn’t have to be an eternal psychologist.

What does it cause? By ignoring your obsession you give her the green light to keep doing it, or worse, she may start demanding more and more attention.

She seems strong, self-assured and critical of everyone around her, including you. One of her favorite quotes is “But I…”. In fact, this is how her low self-esteem manifests itself.

What does it cause? Beside her, you will feel more and more indecisive and complex.

She may do this on purpose or unintentionally. In general, everything happens for a reason: she wants to be just like you. Imitation manifests itself in different ways, such as in behavior, in the way of speaking, dressing, and putting on makeup. Your friend might even look for a boyfriend who looks like hers.

What can this cause? You are a source of strength and inspiration for your friend and she is not able to invent anything on her own, due to lack of personality or envy. If you can stand imitation, then friendship, according to New York psychologist Peggy Drexler, might even hold.

Is she always complaining that everything goes wrong in her life? Is she always negative? Psychologists believe that distrust and a desire to see the negative aspects of life can be symptoms of neurosis.

What does it cause? In an attempt to support your friend and choose only topics that interest her, you can ‘contaminate yourself’ with this habit of just looking at the bad side of things, forgetting that life is also made of good times.

Just say that you found shoes on offer and she replies that she found Gucci shoes, also on offer, but that yours are also good. For everything you say, she’ll have some better news to add.

What does it cause? An eternal competition in which she always has to be the winner. You become a kind of little sister, who always needs to learn from the older one.

This feature appears in the most different forms of ordering. She might ask you to take her somewhere, lend her money, lend her your phone number, or ask your boyfriend to help you fix something in her apartment.

What does it cause? The more you help, the more she will ask. To prevent this from happening, it’s important that you learn to say ‘no’, and not feel ashamed about it.

If she’s always criticizing your style, your makeup and your tired face, maybe she’s not in a bad mood, but she just wants to criticize you. Psychologists say this is an attempt by a fragile person to show that they are important too.

What does it cause? Sensible comments always help us to improve. But when someone seems to want to strengthen themselves by belittling us, our self-esteem ends up suffering.

“Stay away from him, he doesn’t do you any good”. A ‘toxic’ friend will always react superficially when you bring up a problem, showing that she is jealous of you.

What does it cause? According to experts, this advice can come on a day when you are feeling sensitive, and you risk falling into the trap.

A ‘toxic’ friend forgets about everyone else when a new boyfriend enters the picture. She doesn’t respond to messages and always finds an excuse not to go out with you. But as soon as she breaks up with him, she calls you and spends hours telling the story of a failed love.

What does it cause? If you’re honest, she’ll get angry, claiming you’re jealous. The only way out is to have patience, but remember: it is not infinite.

Do you think you’ve experienced any of these situations with your friends?