12 smart tips to follow if you have a colorful friendship

A relationship based on “Are you free today?” “Yea!” “So let’s go”: this is the colorful friendship, that old “partnership” in which you and a friend decide to have sporadic sexual relations without any other type of commitment.

If you don’t have anything better to do, the sex is good and you’re both happy with the situation, great! However, to prevent one of the two of you from starting to confuse things and suffering a big disappointment, it is important to follow some tips:

1. Be honest with your “friend” and with yourself

For a colorful friendship to work without anyone getting hurt, you need to be honest about your feelings. If you want nothing more than a few nights, this needs to be clear. Likewise, if your expectations change, you should also be honest with your friend and yourself – deluding yourself is never a good deal.

2. Make sure you know how to separate sex and love

Many people, whether men or women, associate sex with an emotional connection, and that’s not necessarily wrong. However, entering into a colorful friendship without being able to separate things will certainly result in a lot of heartache in the near future. Before embarking on this, make sure you are emotionally mature enough to understand that this is a physical “relationship”.

3. Talk about your preferences behind four walls

A colorful friendship means that you have a partner with whom you have sex without romantic involvement and without commitments, right? Thus, if sex is not satisfactory, this friendship is meaningless; therefore, you must be clear about your preferences for these moments.

4. Escape from sloppiness

It’s okay that you already have a good intimacy with your friend or friend of color, but that doesn’t mean it’s appropriate to show up on a date with the shower half-expired. In the same way, you also deserve to have relationships only with people who care about hygiene.

5. Demand condom use

If not even a marriage is a guarantee of monogamy, then imagine a colorful friendship! As much as you trust your colored friend’s judgment about who else he hangs out with, many STDs are invisible, especially at first. Therefore, condoms are essential.

6. Keep Your Colored Friend “Secret”

If your family and friends (the “normal ones”) still don’t know your colored friend, it’s best to leave things as they are. After all, they’ll soon realize that you’re always seeing this person, and they may start asking probing questions about your relationship.

7. Avoid sleeping at your colorful friend’s house and vice versa

After the meeting, the best thing to do is for everyone to go home. Spending the night together is a very intimate thing that can put you at serious risk of mixing things up and becoming emotionally involved.

8. Don’t cuddle sleep

Even worse than spending the whole night together is you cuddling. Be very clear that colorful friendship is all about sex, and while there is (a lot!) physical contact, cuddles like this can spark an emotional connection that one of you doesn’t want.

9. Don’t wait and don’t practice dating habits

So that you can enjoy a colorful friendship without anyone getting hurt, you should not expect or practice typical dating attitudes. Special dinners, gifts and cute little surprises shouldn’t be part of this type of relationship. Remember that this is just casual sex and nothing more.

10. Avoid any kind of “territory marking”

Leaving a toothbrush or a change of clothes at your colorful friend’s house (or accepting that he leaves it at yours) is something quite outside the proposal of this type of relationship. Likewise, there should be no demands between you for attention or frequency of meetings. If one of you can’t or doesn’t feel like it that day, go ahead!

11. Stay open to new relationships

Closing your eyes and your heart to other relationships while you are in a colorful friendship is not a good idea – especially if you would like to have a partner or partner for a more serious commitment. Enjoy the good times with your colorful friend, but be sure to observe the world around you.

12. Don’t feel betrayed if he meets someone else

There is no commitment between you, so you shouldn’t feel betrayed if your colored friend is interested in someone else. Likewise, it is unacceptable for him to be annoyed or irritated because you have an active Tinder profile, added someone on Facebook or maintain other colorful friendships.

But what if even following all this you discover that you would like to have something more than sex? In this case, you have to be honest: if your colored friend feels the same way, maybe you can invest a little more in this relationship. If not, remember that the deal between you was just casual relationships, so it’s best to walk away so you don’t hurt yourself further.