Finding someone special has never been an easy task. But it’s even more stressful for people who are looking for their better half these days. After all, in addition to the old problems, they face new and frustrating challenges when it comes to relating. Living in the age of the Internet and social media is not as easy and interesting as it sounds, as the huge variety of partner options, the perfect life posted on social media and the difficulty of communicating make things much more complicated.
O awesome.club gathered 12 issues present in the lives of all couples today.
1. Spending a lot of time together
Spending time together is not the same as putting someone at the center of your universe and forgetting about your own needs. But the constant messages and the fear of being alone (or alone) stimulate excess tension in the relationship. When we get annoyed with our partner for no reason and we start to feel that feeling of boredom, it’s a sign that it’s time to give each other more space.
2. Lack of understanding of text messages
Some things never change: we get the most important information through non-verbal communication—the tone of voice and body language. But thanks to smartphones, people spend a lot of time trying to interpret each other’s intentions with a single emoji or a one-word answer. When it comes to talking about more serious issues, texting just gets in the way; therefore, topics of this nature need to be discussed over the phone or in person.
3. Anxiety about not being with the “right” partner
Dating apps make it hard not to think about the hundreds of potential relationships that could be waiting for you out there. it creates doubts about current partner (whether it’s good enough), if you made the right choice and wouldn’t it be better to keep looking for the better half. Psychologists suggest redirecting that energy by trying to be the kind of person you would like to have as a companion.
4. Fear of making decisions
There is always the temptation to shy away from a more serious conversation. Instead of facing up to and taking responsibility, we usually we choose to simply stop responding. As a result, lovers today feel helpless in the face of serious problems. And that’s even when making a decision is crucial to maintaining the relationship.
5. Nosy relatives
The problem of skill in making a decision makes people seek advice from relatives, allowing them to enter the couple’s life and gain a lot of authority in the relationship. It is important to remember that parents and friends will never know our partners better than we do. So getting off the phone and making our own mistakes is the best decision.
6. Making things too public on social media
Social media users tend to exaggerate their posts to show their relationship in the best possible light. But that can kill intimacy. When feeling jealous of other people’s lives, it’s best to remember that every relationship is unique. And it will never be possible to know what is hidden behind the scenes of the “perfect” love stories on Instagram.
7. The habit of manipulating
We are often afraid of the wounds caused by a relationship. So instead of expressing the true feelingswe basically think about how to create a text response that doesn’t reveal everything and doesn’t let our partner know how much we really are involved and we care about him. But this, in the end, ends up creating a distance and making the situation more complicated. Perhaps the best choice is sincerity about our real intentions.
8. Lack of courage to embrace conflict
In the Age of Social Media, we share a series of thoughts and messages, for example through WhatsApp. Nonetheless, the most important things are often left unsaid—especially those that can lead to confrontation. People are more likely to distance themselves from their partners rather than start a risky conversation, even if it means the end of the relationship.
9. Jealousy caused by social media
Dozens of apps offer simple ways to cheat your partner. Furthermore, stalk partner’s social networks, checking every like from strangers, can disturb us deeply. All of this cultivates jealousy in a relationship and fear of betrayal.🇧🇷 Unless we are pretty sure our partner is cheating on us, a good solution is to simply stop paying attention to their social media.
10. Talking about ex
Nobody wants to constantly hear about ex-partners, but still this topic takes up a lot of space in our lives: it can be hard not to accidentally find an ex-boyfriend’s profile and not remember our previous relationship. So couples can find yourself constantly arguing about your ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends instead of simply enjoying the current relationship.
11. Distorted Image of Love
Social media are responsible for our exaggerated visions of love and distorted images of ourselves: there is always pressure to publish perfect photos on our feed🇧🇷 People come to believe that a love story is only worth surrendering to those cute and unforgettable photos that appear on our timeline on Facebook and Instagram.
12. Constant search for emotions
Film and pop culture have taught that love is never-ending excitement and a feeling of constant euphoria. While this is common at the beginning of a relationship, it is normal and expected that over time things will calm down. Despite this, modern couples tend to lose patience and faith in a relationship once the emotion subsides.
What are the most complicated relationship problems you’ve ever faced? Have many of your friends gone through the same problems? Please leave your opinion in the comments.
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