11 Non-Obvious Signs You’re Becoming a Toxic Person

Sometimes circumstances affect us so much that even the sweetest people become unpleasant individuals. When someone doesn’t realize how their personality changes, others try to avoid contact with that person and problems arise in relationships with friends and family. Because of these changes, some suffer from depression, others feel lonely for life. How to recognize early signs that you are becoming a toxic person?

O awesome.club cautions: you should be concerned if you exhibit at least 4 of the behavioral quirks listed below.

You get the impression that people don’t appreciate your concern for them, don’t thank you, and don’t even try to adapt to your preferences. You are tired of giving advice that people rarely follow but still complain about their problems without understanding the reasons for their displeasure.

In fact: you don’t owe anyone anything, but other people don’t owe you anything either. Only help if someone asks you to and if you really want to help. But don’t expect thanks in return. And don’t forget that solving your own problems should come first in your life.

Who needs praise if they are more the adulation that people often turn to for some benefit? What are you going to tell your relatives about your love, if this is perfectly understandable by your actions?

In fact: you lose the ability to express emotions. It is important that people hear that they are loved and that compliments serve not only to assess the superficial, but that the result of someone’s efforts is a manifestation of their sincere concern for the other.

It is strange to observe when someone rejoices or seems happy for no good reason. After all, you know that life is a struggle, and if you relax a little it hits you hard. Therefore, you are trying to save your loved ones from seeing life rosy.

In fact: this attitude prevents him from being realistic. You lose the ability to share other people’s joy and happiness and appreciate the simple things and moments worth living for.

Helping in a difficult situation means a lot, but people often shy away from those who like to start supportive sentences with the words, “I told you so…” Perhaps you enjoy being an experienced fighter who knows life? Or does it help others to feel their own importance, or perhaps to remind the person that they are completely useless without your support?

You don’t want to hear the “opponent”, you don’t answer your calls and SMS. And you want the other person to go back to the subject in their head, guess how much they hurt you, and worry if something happened to you since nothing has been known about you for so long. Finally, she will understand how much you mean to her.

In fact: if he is a person very dear to you, don’t keep him confused, try to examine the situation together. Sometimes the situation calls for a pause, but you have to agree: take a deep breath to continue this conversation a little later, so that each one thinks about the situation on their own. The main thing is not to become an offended child and not make the other person nervous for no reason.

Why praise a person if they are already doing things well, especially if they are their responsibility? You are not like those who celebrate even the insignificant successes of another person, because you are sure that only constructive criticism makes perfect.

In fact: we praise people to highlight the importance of their work, especially when they do something for others. If a person understands that his work is appreciated, he does it even better.

But it’s important to be honest and know when to stop. You shouldn’t praise every insignificant act and do it all the time. But, for example, if your dog asks you out in the middle of the night, and your husband has offered to walk him, allowing you to stay asleep, then your act definitely deserves a compliment.

It’s a child thing. Why ask for forgiveness if the other party still sees the situation their way and is sure they are right? As a sign of reconciliation, you simply pretend that nothing happened.

In fact: with an apology, you are not acknowledging that you are wrong. This is a way of showing that despite the differences, it was not your intention to offend the other person with your words and behavior and that you are willing to continue the relationship, leaving the misunderstanding in the past.

You don’t like long conversations, nor can you bear it when a person behaves differently than you would like, using your weaknesses and affections to get what you want.

In fact: “Choose between me and your stupid job you’re never home for.” If you often resort to phrases like this, it means that you are trying to manipulate the person. Such methods are only suitable for ending a relationship.

If the relationship with another person means something to you, then both of you should try to find time to talk about the problem and find a solution that is satisfactory to both of you. They may have to make concessions, but this is not a humiliation, but an indication that they are a team.

You just asked “how are you?” to his friend and he hurried away. Or he made a phone call to someone, but the person took it as a personal insult. If these things usually happen, maybe it’s not because of what he said, but because of how he did it.

In fact: intonation tells the interlocutor about your attitude towards him, adds additional hidden meaning and can add unnecessary sarcasm to the sentence or joke, completely changing its meaning. So what you say and how you say it matters.

This is easy to prove, so record some of your conversations and listen to them. Unpleasant intonation is noticeable even when you speak as sweetly as possible (in your opinion) to someone in your family.

You get into arguments to criticize someone. After a few comments, he has already drawn a psychological portrait of this individual in his head and has not realized that it has become something personal. And he thinks he’s teaching a rude ignorant a good lesson, which even gives him a little pleasure.

In fact: Before diving into a dispute, think about whether it’s worth your time and energy. When you criticize a person, you will definitely not change their point of view, but you will not be showing your best self. So who do you want to prove something to? To yourself? However, the habit of criticizing others can get you involved and become an antisocial personality.

You are always in a good mood, unlike others. Apparently, his co-worker has problems, as he has few friends in his face, and in his opinion he has no respect. Now, because of his behavior, you are also upset, work is getting out of hand, and the day is ruined!

In fact: you must not project your thoughts onto other people, otherwise you will see and hear what has nothing to do with reality. It’s even worse to lose control of your emotions and blame someone else for it. Furthermore, if you put pressure on a person, forcing them to apologize for causing them discomfort, then the problem is almost certainly with you.

You are an adult and independent person, work requires a lot of time and effort. He doesn’t have time to visit his parents, he doesn’t feel like spending every weekend at family leisure. In your opinion, this is a valuable moment for your well-deserved rest.

In fact: when a person moves away from their family, it is a worrying sign. Our parents won’t always be around, children will grow up in the blink of an eye, and friends and relatives sometimes leave suddenly. That’s why every moment we spend together will be worth its weight in gold.

If you understand, but you don’t like communication with your loved ones and family members, it is possible that the problem is emotional exhaustion and that you need to deal with something internal. So, perhaps, it is easier to do this with the support of a good psychologist.

Have you had any opportunity to meet a toxic person? Tell us when you understood the situation.