11 Major Obstacles Soulmates Face

Much is said about how wonderful it can be to find your soul mate.

But the truth is that soulmates also face certain obstacles, and when your connection with a person is so deep, these obstacles can seem even more difficult to overcome.

On a general level, all relationships require work, the special thing about soulmates is that it is a relationship different from all the others, from the beginning.

The connection you experience with your soul mate is one of complete comfort and trust. So, if you are feeling that your partner is irritating you or arousing very negative emotions in you, it might not really be your soul mate and actually something else.

Here we will look at the obstacles that soulmates face and in which cases it could be that your partner is not actually your soulmate.

6 obstacles that can arise in the relationship of soulmates

Starting from the supposed case that you have been lucky enough to find your soul mate, here I mention some of the most frequent obstacles:

1) Unrealistic expectations

There is a widespread idea in the collective unconscious that romanticizes love and soul mates excessively.

As if it were a magical bond in which things always flow as they should and there are no problems.

And while there is some truth to this belief, it is also true that even if it is your soul mate, there are problems that can arise along the way.

So believing that everything will be rosy could generate false expectations that will be quickly demolished.

A soul mate will also accompany you on your path of personal growth, so sometimes it could show you aspects of yourself that you still have to work on.

2) The soul mate does NOT complete you

Another hurdle that could arise is when people expect their soulmate to complete them and all their problems to be fixed.

This inconvenience is mainly caused by culture and the idea that souls are only a half that is only complete if they unite.

When in reality the opposite of this idea is correct: only when you manage to feel whole and complete, can you join your soul mate, who will find himself in a similar state in his own life.

So if you are looking for someone to complete you, you already have the answer to the obstacle that prevents you from being with your soul mate.

3) Most people avoid conflict

It could also happen in a soul mate relationship, that they fail to put their cards on the table for fear of generating conflicts and decide to ignore them.

We are all imperfect, and that is a fact.

Usually people believe that the other will resolve or evaluate the conflict in the same way as them, and this is not the case.

Detecting that your soul mate is also a totally different human being from you, can generate obstacles.

It is important at this point not to evade and learn to work your differences. See them as a tool for your connection to evolve, along with you.

4) Believing that your soulmate will read your mind

And in the same vein, you might believe that because it is your soul mate, it should be able to guess your emotions, opinions and anticipate your actions.

This unrealistic expectation puts a lot of pressure on your partner.

For this reason, effective communication is as necessary for soul mates as it is for any other relationship.

It is true that soul mates accept each other as they are, but for this to happen, you first have to openly show yourself to the other.

5) The illusion that it is easier to escape when the going gets tough

If you’re like me, a person over 30, chances are you’re clear about how relationships have transformed over the years.

And soulmates are not exempt from this reality.

I feel a bit dated bringing this up, but there’s a pervasive ideology in relationships that it’s better (or easier) to jump ship, when the waters get rough, rather than stay, face the hurdles, and keep rowing.

Sometimes the idea that there is always a new opportunity just around the corner, could make you or your soul mate throw in the towel, not to face the challenges that your relationship represents.

The reality is, your wounds are within you and will continue to show up with anyone you choose to be around. Believe me, there is no one better than your soul mate to accompany you on this path.

6) There are differences between soul mates that will never be resolved

I know this can be a little hard to take in, but if you think about it, it can also be a relief.

In most relationships there are conflicts and differences and it can be especially upsetting to think that you will have them with your soul mate. But there will be. Thinking of a relationship without differences is almost a utopia.

The concept of “perennial problems” in relationships has been developed by John Gottman, who has done a large number of studies on happily married couples.

In this way, he has come to the conclusion that there are solvable problems and others that will never be solved.

Therefore, the challenge for each couple is actually learning to live with these differences and accept them.

But don’t worry, his studies have shown that the happiest couples have persistent unresolved problems.

He therefore affirms that it is a misconception to think that couples must resolve 100% of their conflicts.

What’s more, soul mates’ obstacles can be functional and positive: they teach them to love better, and to take perspective on the “problem” and better understand their partner.

They learn how to work with change in their relationships as they evolve. It reminds them why they choose their soulmate and allows them to renew that relationship over time.

Other soulmate obstacles

On the other hand, beyond the obstacles within the relationship itself, external or accessory difficulties may arise that could prevent two soulmates from being together. We mention them below along with some solution ideas.

1) Distance relationship

You never know how the meeting of soul mates will happen and therefore it would not be strange for it to happen in particular circumstances. Perhaps you are on a trip to Australia or on a business trip, when a man who dazzled you sat next to you on the plane.

Be that as it may, it could happen that your soul mate lives in another geographical location, which prevents, at least at that time, from deepening your relationship. Or it could also happen that due to life circumstances they need to get away for a while.

How to handle it:

The truth is that if it really is your soul mate, it is expected that they feel a strong impulse to be together.

So it might be a good idea to start working on a plan to get together eventually. In the meantime, they could make frequent visits and begin to think about possibilities of mobilization.

Setting a tentative date for your meeting will help you regulate anxiety.

2) Different cultures

And hand in hand with the previous point, you could find your soul mate by chance, and they belong to very different cultures. This could bring several obstacles in the relationship due to structural differences in how they see life, what their families expect and their expectations about relationships.

How to handle it:

It is important that both of you learn to keep an open mind, and that you show a willingness to learn and accept your partner’s culture.

Talking often and honestly about your differences and agreements and finding common ground that you both can live with is vital to the health of your relationship.

3) Large age differences

Soulmates do not make a difference in age, but the truth is that there could be.

And even if they feel that they are for each other, this could be a great obstacle, from different interests, different life problems, even legal problems if it were a minor person.

How to handle it:

Beyond the age differences they may have, as long as they are within the legal parameters, the important thing is to focus on everything they have in common.

It will help you find interests and hobbies that you can enjoy and share together.

It is also important to have open and honest communication about your differences and concerns. It is not a good idea to ignore what is happening, it is always better to make visible and talk about everything that is necessary about it.

4) Emotional or psychological problems

Your soul mate could suffer from trauma, depression, anxiety, or other conditions that create obstacles in your relationship. At the end of the day, your connection goes beyond this physical plane and its particularities.

How to handle it:

If the emotional or psychological obstacles you are facing are too challenging, it might be a good idea to seek professional help.

Accompanying each other as soul mates will be a key factor in getting ahead and overcoming obstacles.

5) Fear of commitment

While soul mates have a unique and spiritual connection, they may also experience fears, such as commitment or being vulnerable in a relationship. This can make your relationship difficult.

How to handle it:

I never tire of repeating it, communication plays a key role here.

They should talk together about their fears and find the best way to overcome them.

It is important that you work together to set goals together and support each other in the process. Little by little, when the relationship is consolidated, the commitment will become something less threatening.

Ultimately, although soulmates may face obstacles in their relationship, if their connection is true and authentic, they can overcome these obstacles together and further strengthen their relationship.

As you will see, we have covered both particular obstacles to the soulmate relationship, as well as other more general obstacles. The truth is that soulmates can actually be susceptible to problems like any other couple.

The biggest inconvenience appears when, knowing that you have a soulmate connection, you expect everything to be perfect and the moment obstacles arise everything seems to fall apart.

It is important that you understand that sharing with your soul mate does not imply that everything is perfect. At the end of the day, in addition to being your soul mate, your partner is a different person from you, with their own concerns, experiences, and points of view.

The good thing about this is that when it comes to your soul mate, conflicts are likely to be softened by those deep feelings that you share for each other.

It is also possible that the fact that there are too many frictions and obstacles in your relationship makes you doubt that it is really your soul mate.

In that case we are going to see some aspects that could corroborate that you are not really in a relationship with your better half.

5 main traits that could confirm that your partner is NOT your soul mate:

When you are with your soul mate everything feels natural and…