10 steps to achieve not worry

“Worry birds flying over you is something you can’t help. But that they build nests in your head, it is something that you can preventsays a Chinese proverb. How to achieve it?

1 Accept it, not everything has a reason

In a symposium of intellectuals from many disciplines to agree on a truth that was indisputable, after a weekend debating they only managed to agree on a universal truth: things happen (Things happen).

Accept that “things happen”, many times without any special reasonhelps us to play down the events that take us out of our comfort zone.

2 Stop analyzing

An old saying goes: “If you want to be happy as you say, don’t analyze.” Unless you get paid to solve problemsif instead of dissecting and judging reality you simply dedicate yourself to living it, your existence will become much lighter and connected to good times.

3 Write it down (and better, by hand)

Writing in a notebook, the old-fashioned way, or on a computer will help you dilute what is at hand. Writing is very therapeutic for two reasons:

As the hand goes slower than the whirlwind of thoughts in our mind, forces us to sift through the essentials of the secondary; Once written on paper, the problem is outside of us and we can see it with another perspective.

4 Will it matter a year from now?

This was the question that the psychoanalyst Richard Carlson he did to his clients when they came to him full of worries. As they almost always answered negatively, he told them: “If it won’t matter a year from now, you can forget about it now.”

5 Free yourself with meditation

It is not a question of putting “the head in white”, but of dlet thoughts flow without judging them. No matter how terrible or threatening it seems what goes through our mind, we label as “thought” and let it pass like a cloud blown by the wind.

6 Stay in the moment

As well as it is not possible to be relaxed and tense at the same timethe best way for the mind not to go into the territory of worry is to anchor yourself in the now, as if nothing else existed.

Practice with the five senses: what are you seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting and smelling at this moment?

7 Put humor

Groucho Marx exposed this lucid formula: time + tragedy = comedy. All that seems to us now so terrible and worrying it will look very different when we can distance ourselves.

However, it is not necessary to let time pass to resort to laughter. Even if we are in a bind right now, if we know how to see the funny side of the situation, our anxiety level will drop immediately.

8 Take refuge in fiction

To get out of a mental scenario that causes us too much suffering, a remedy that has been used for centuries is to enter a history totally different from our own. An addictive novel or a fast-paced movie can make us forget our own battlefield for a few hours, that, after this time of healthy evasion, we will be able to see with other eyes.

9 Run away from garbage removers

There are people with a special talent for unearthing bad drinks that we had already managed to forget. People who enjoy conflict and they will ask you what you know about that friend with whom you had a fight, or how an episode that made you suffer happened. Avoid these scavenger profiles orIf it’s someone you have no choice but to treat, clearly explain what you do not want to talk about.

10 Everything (or almost everything) has a remedy

Faced with an unpleasant setback, we can block ourselves or make the problem even worse. Do not panic! After a few deep breaths, things will look different.

The author of this article lost all the text, when he was in his last revision, due to accidentally pressing a key. If we’ve gotten this far, it means he was able to rewrite it and It was fixed, like almost everything in life. And, as an oriental proverb said, what cannot be fixed is not worth worrying about.

If we know how to see the funny side of the situation, our anxiety level will drop.