10 Girlfriend Advice You’re Best Ignore (If You Value Your Relationship With Your Partner)

One of the main rules of a happy relationship is according to the rule of O Fight Club: do not tell anyone about your partner. Even though happiness loves silence, we all keep talking to our friends about our love relationships and asking for wise advice. However, psychologist Jerry Heisler is certain that even the advice of friends who love you can destroy the strongest relationship, even if it is unintentionally.

O awesome.club gathered the worst advice from friends, much of which you’ve probably already
heard more than once. In fact, they can ruin a relationship, even if it isn’t already perfect.

Not talking about problems in a relationship leads to a breakup. You shouldn’t let it get to the point where your patience runs out and want to say everything at the same time. It is necessary to discuss problems or desires in person with your partner, not with your friends, awaiting your verdict or advice. A couple’s happiness largely depends on their ability to talk to each other.

Some girls believe that by making their boyfriend jealous, they will increase their importance in their eyes and get what they want. However, this is a dangerous idea.
Your partner may react negatively and propose separation. Remember that jealousy noIt has nothing to do with love. A person is jealous when he fears losing his partner and does not trust him. True feelings are based on trust.

We should start by saying that no one owes anyone anything in a relationship, be it loving or not. Each couple is unique and builds their own financial policy, it is impossible to have uniform rules at this point. In the age of feminism, more and more girls want to split the bill and feel independent. However, if financial problems bother you and cause doubts, then you need to learn to talk about money with your partner, like any other topic, and convey your thoughts in a simple and open way.

Don’t regard the end of unhappy relationships as a personal defeat.🇧🇷 “It doesn’t matter if he disrespects me and hits me, at least I’m not alone!” is one of the reasons why some women suffer and don’t end a relationship. Ask yourself a question: “What does the relationship with this person give me and how do I see the future with this person?”. Try to answer honestly. If you are sure that outside of this relationship you will be happier, then you should not avoid separation. It is worth mentioning that, if there is aggression, it is a crime, which
must be reported.

It is true that some men are not in a hurry to make a marriage proposal, and for many couples it is becoming customary to live without documents proving a marriage. According to some surveys, the number of registered marriages decreases every year.

However, there is still a large part of men who dream of having a happy family and children, sometimes even more than women. Sometimes a man delays asking a woman to marry him not because he doesn’t want to start a family, but because he’s not ready to take on such a responsibility. You must remember that it is you and your partner who must make such a decision, not your friends. Perhaps, sooner or later, you will have to talk to your partner about your plans if you feel like they can’t make the first move.

Due to their behavior, many women unconsciously make men unwilling to give gifts. It is necessary to learn to accept gifts in such a way that the partner perceives the importance of the gesture and receives the positive emotions of the giving process.🇧🇷 Since you don’t like bouquets of flowers, for example, your boyfriend may not want to buy you flowers. Try not to think so much about the gift itself (because sometimes it may not be exactly what you were hoping for), pay more attention to the person giving it, telling them how generous and thoughtful they were in buying it.

Sometimes men don’t give gifts (or don’t give gifts that don’t suit their partners) not because they’re mean, but because there was no custom of making surprises in their family and they weren’t taught to do so. It is in your power to teach a man not to come empty-handed, but simply accept each gift with pleasure and sincerity.

“Love sees no age.” We are all unique, each of us has an individual destiny and
there is no ideal age for a man you want to build a relationship with. If a woman is comfortable with a man younger than her, this is the key to success. Furthermore, age is not determined by year of birth, but by experience., as psychologist Vitaly Sonkin says. That is, a 25-year-old man may be more serious and responsible than a 45-year-old.

An older man can teach his younger partner a lot. Due to the age difference, the prejudice that there is interest in the relationship can always arise. At the same time, it is easier to find a common language with a person of the same age, and both will have to grow, develop a career and change together, with patience. Any age has its advantages and disadvantages, so you need to listen to yourself and not to the advice of others. Everyone knows what is best for them in any situation.

Psychologists keep repeating that spending time with just one person, even those we love, not only isolates you, it makes it difficult for you to communicate with other people. In relationships, it’s important to be yourself, not forgetting to enjoy your hobbies and be alone.

You don’t have to limit yourself to just one person, forgetting about friends, family and favorite things. It’s important to find a balance between self-development and spending time together.🇧🇷 Also, sometimes separation for a week or two, or even months, has a positive effect on the couple in love, making the relationship even more tender and stronger.

According to research by Professor Anne Kring, women have a much greater need to express their emotions. Generally, men do not like incomprehensible and complex manifestations of feelings because they find it more difficult to face them. Often they don’t know how to respond to women’s tears or firmer demands. It seems to them that the best option in such a situation is to go away, to leave them alone.

If a woman is always “wanting to talk” (i.e., discuss the relationship), measures her contribution to the relationship, demands more than she can give, tries to manipulate a man with tears and scandal, he is unlikely to want to find out what she is. wants or needs: it will simply be easier for him to run away. Instead of negative emotions, one must learn to give in and discuss situations in a calm and serene tone.

Often, a woman, with the intention of motivating her man to be better, compares him to an ideal man. But the great reality is that no one likes to be compared and your partner may experience feelings of pain and rejection. In addition, he may have feelings that he is not valued at all. In this way, the girl clearly demonstrates to her partner that she doesn’t need him or that she doesn’t like him the way he is. With each new comparison, a man in love loses the will to evolve, to be better, which is the opposite of what was intended at the beginning of this comparison.

You have to accept your partner as he is and not compare him to others. After a while, you will notice how your partner will strive to evolve on their own, because he is aware of how much you need him, appreciates and respects you.