10 attitudes that destroy our energy

There are attitudes that destroy our energy, that exhaust us mentally and physically. In fact, sometimes we get to do things, sometimes without realizing it, or we have attitudes that steal our energy, diverting it towards worries and negative states that make us feel bad.

It should be noted that all human beings are energy entities, which is the engine that allows us to work with motivation and make the most of all the opportunities that are presented to us in life.

Energy is that which drives us to do what we like and carry out actions successfully. “Energy is essential to satisfy our most basic needs,” says the World Health Organization.

Do you feel out of energy, mentally exhausted, unmotivated, and constantly worried? Maybe you are carrying out some attitudes that destroy your energy.. Below we highlight some of those that we consider most relevant.

1. Living anchored in the past

Living anchored in the past means continually reliving what has already happened, what has already happened, it is the longing for a past time that we would like to recover. Unfortunately for many, The past cannot be changed, what has already happened cannot be modified..

On the contrary, the present and the future are in our hands. Living anchored in what cannot be changed instead of living in the present, here and now, saps our energy and exhausts us mentally. Well, Wouldn’t it be healthier to spend energy on what can be modified, on what is in our hands at the present? Instead of spending all that energy remembering past situations?

2. Feeling guilty

In reference to the previous section, Patti Brietman, in her work How to say no without feeling guilty states that guilt steals our energy. Therefore, accept what has happened and free yourself from guilt that you carry on your shoulders and that does not allow you to see the future or live today.

3. Lack of assertiveness

Why is it so hard for us to say NO? There are many people used to giving in, to doing things to please. People who are often afraid to say “no” so as not to contradict them or to seem selfish.

In this sense, constantly saying “yes” causes us to have time for everyone, but not for ourselves. So we forget about ourselves to please others. Not saying “no” exhausts us, it destroys our energy, as it forces us to be very busy doing things for others, leaving our needs and desires in the background.

4. Difficulty asking for help

We all know someone, perhaps the person reading these lines, who prefers to use a good amount of resources to solve a problem rather than ask for help. Surely we know someone who would rather fail than allow someone else to join the project to move it forward.

Regulating our resources intelligently means knowing how to delegate, ask or demand help or advice. in those situations where counting others can turn a mountain into a small mountain. This is especially so in the world in which we move; We have left aside the subsistence economy: each one specializes in the provision of a service, leaving the rest for others.

5. Worry too much

Many of our worries are about events that we anticipate . Thus, we cannot help but ask ourselves a question: does it make sense to anguish over what has not yet happened?

People for whom worrying is a habit spend a good part of their strength dealing with these illusions. Therefore, Worry steals much of your energy, spending a lot of time thinking about what will happen when it hasn’t happened yet.

6. Live in complaint

The psychologist Joan Garriga affirms that “Complaining lowers people’s vitality.” Therefore, continually complaining about what happens to us is one of the attitudes that drain our energy.

The continuous spiral of complaints takes us nowhere, but, on the contrary, it paralyzes us.

7. Projecting into the future what we don’t like

Sometimes, we postpone plans or obligations because we are lazy. In this way, our agenda is filled with pending tasks. Frequently leaving for tomorrow the tasks that we least want is like carrying a cloud, preparing a storm of unpredictable negative consequences..

8. See the negative side of things constantly

If you think on the negative side of things, if you believe that something bad is going to happen, constantly thinking that something is going to go wrong, something can probably go wrong by having a negative attitude about it.

This is what is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sociologist Robert K. Merton states: “The self-fulfilling prophecy is, at first, a false definition of the situation that awakens new behavior that makes the original false conception of the situation become true.”. Therefore, following the author’s thinking, If I think something bad is going to go wrong, it probably will.

9. Trying to control everything

Trying to control everything around us is exhausting. and it is one of the attitudes that destroy our energy. It is a wasted effort that turns you into a factory of frustration and anxiety by never reaching that desired control.

In this sense, thinking at all times about placing each piece on your life board in its place is really complicated when you are not the only person playing the game. Can we control everything around us?

10. Not allowing yourself to stop and disconnect

Sit on the couch, take a relaxing bath when you get home, watch a movie with your partner, read a book or maybe call that friend you like to chat with so much. There are countless ways to stop and disconnect and here we highlight its importance, then, as indicated Maslow in his pyramid on the hierarchy of human needs, Resting is a fundamental part of balance.

To conclude, remember that The life that travels along the path of worry ends up being a journey of little value and much suffering. Hence laugh, cry, love, feel. Wasting much of our time worrying, thinking about what could have been or complaining causes us to forget about the present, the here and now, and enjoying every sensation.

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