You know who speaks ill of other people’s happiness? Unhappy people!

You know who speaks ill of other people’s happiness? Unhappy people!

Including you who sometimes give a shit about the way the so-and-so dresses or laughs in public, in the relationship with her boyfriend, in that happiness that can only be faked with her husband, because no one is that happy! Come on, confess that you’ve thought that about someone else! And thought, do you know why? Because you most certainly weren’t having that kind of happiness in your life right now.

It’s not a criticism of you, no, life is like that, one day we laugh, the next we cry… .

If you don’t have sex and you hear a chat at the gym from a husband who doesn’t give you peace, then you think “ah, I doubt it, this must be a lie, this one is talking just to show off”. If you don’t live an overwhelming love, those with smiles that make you even envy, when you see someone living you say “I doubt they are always happy like this”.

Anyway, when we are not well, we always point out the defects that perhaps exist, or perhaps we have invented for the comfort of our unhappiness. It’s not even because we want to see others unhappy, but because in our unhappy mind and heart, we end up projecting a certain envy of other people’s happiness.

We see the defects and we are incapable of twisting. Especially if the person who is happy has hurt us somewhere along the way, then voluntarily or involuntarily we make an organized cheer for the misfortune of the other. We were waiting for the fall and stuffed our mouths to say “I knew it”.

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We ended up creating an ideal of what it is to be happy. This will always be humanity’s problem, idealizing too much, projecting too many expectations and not assimilating reality as it is. In real life, that person you see immensely happy, riding around in an old car, without a home of his own, she is happy because her happiness is not in having, but in being. In place of her own home, she acquired self-love and traded her new car for what money gives her in homeopathic doses of daily happiness.

That person you see lavishing love and happiness next to someone whose stereotype has nothing to do with what you imagine is ideal for them, doesn’t care about appearances and much less about what you, João or Mary think about it. Because inside her there is a much greater feeling and that at the height of her bitterness, you won’t even be able to understand and she won’t even need to explain why while you waste time throbbing, she gains time living.

Happy people look at a homeless couple hugging on the sidewalk and think “this is real love”. Bitter people look at the same scenario and think “poor people, what love survives this? They must be drugged.”

Happy people look at those who don’t have anything material to show, but exude happiness through their eyes and mouth and think “she’s really happy, you can see it in her eyes”. But bitter people might think “but she’s really dazzled, she has nowhere to drop dead and pretend she’s happy”.

Happiness is a matter of being. Self love is a matter of having. And sometimes the heart gets a little dark, we doubt the good things in life, we unconsciously hope for everything to go wrong because then we have that feeling that we’re not crazy. When you read around that everything is energy, everything is energy. Believe it! And perhaps the reason why everything always seems so dark inside you is not because you are in an astral hell, but because you are embracing the gray clouds with such conviction that you forget that behind them the sky is always blue.

You’re the one who thinks the guy next door needs to have a job like this, a car roast, dress like that and do this and that in life. You are the one who thinks that Bernadette can only be happy if, in addition to all the love she earns, she has a car, money, a house. You’re the one who thinks a person needs sex every day, or once a week. Everything is you. What your mind created is what you think, but hey, let your mind know that everyone has their own life and how the other lives their life is their problem. Is he happy? Is not? It’s not your problem. Worry about being happy yourself and when that happens, you will never look at others with those critical eyes and that bitter heart again.

You’re the one who dies of working a whole month and you work like hell to pay the bills that you don’t understand why that guy who lives free, light and loose seems to be happy. You will always think that there is something wrong in the lives of people who do not live within your standards, you will always have the recipe for how they should live their lives, but look, just worry about asking: are you happy? It doesn’t matter if you don’t understand or accept other people’s happiness, respect the way the person chose to be happy and who knows, copy the formula!

Let the wind carry the heavy clouds, let people dazzle with happiness, or be madly happy. Why… You are less alive now than when you started reading this text, so how much time are you going to waste having this bitter view of life? Be dazzled! go crazy! Be happy! It all starts with you and from you, all the people around you will live the energy you transmit.

Be happy!

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Luciana Marques