You have to let go of those who never did anything to stay

We must let go of those who never did anything to stay, those people with temporary feelings who made us invest time and hopes. Letting go requires courage, but far from accepting it as an end, we must see it as the beginning of something new.

Who has not been forced on some occasion to have to close a stage of their life? Sometimes they call it “closing circles.”

However, this idea of ​​circularity, rather than giving us the vision of something that closes with a beginning and an end, makes us visualize rather an entity that never ends, as a kind of ouroboros or eternal return. We must see these stages of our lives as a line through which we move forward, through which we flow as we grow.

And to grow, we let go of certain things, while gaining others. Life is an unstoppable advance that overwhelms us and takes our breath away, and there is no point in staying stuck in something or someone that sinks us down like a stone falling down a well.

Now, it may be hard for us to realize it, we may not want to see it for a while, but unhappiness is something that no one can hide. It hurts, it withers and it turns us off. So don’t allow it. In life there always comes a time when It is better to let go, let go…

We must let go of even those who abandoned us

Letting go, closing a stage of our life does not only refer to saying goodbye to those who share life with us, in an act of decision or courage. It is possible that you are not the one who abandons, you may actually have been the one abandoned. In this case, the idea of ​​letting go, of accepting that breakup and moving forward again, is something vital.

We must let go of those who have abandoned us, because if we don’t, we will continue clinging to endless negative emotions. that they are going to hurt us more every day. And the ones responsible, this time, will be ourselves. Closing that cycle of our life in which the heartbreaking pain of abandonment still exists requires time. Grief must be lived, cried, assumed and later, accepted what happened until we reach forgiveness. Once the wound has been cauterized and when we find ourselves free of burdens having been able to forgive, we will feel lighter. to let go with the maximum fullness. An abandonment is the breaking of a bond, and as such we must “return” to ourselves. Until not long ago said bond was nourished by love for that relationship. Now, broken the umbilical cord we must meet againtake care of ourselves, take care of ourselves to strengthen that link with our self-esteem to look forward again. Strengthened. Do not feed nostalgia, do not focus your gaze on yesterday because the past no longer exists, it is gone, it is not there… And remember above all that Those who live on nostalgia do nothing but feed suffering, and “hold on” while idealizing a past, letting your present be lost. Your chance to be happy “here and now”.

You have to let go without resentments

Whoever feeds anger, spite and resentment becomes a prisoner of the person who hurt him.. It’s that simple and that powerful. Whoever provokes your anger and focuses all your contempt makes you an eternal captive of your own negative emotions.

Forgiving is not easy. Sometimes we assume that forgiveness is a renunciation of ourselves, which is like giving up and seeing ourselves as victims. Nothing is further from reality.

To forgive you must regain confidence in yourself. No one is as strong as the person who is capable of granting forgiveness to the person who hurt him because it shows, in turn, that he has overcome fear, that he no longer fears the enemy and that he feels freer.

Letting go of resentments and anger returns us to our initial state, making it easier for us to let go. Our heart heals again and leaves aside those negative emotions. Only then does the act of “letting go” become something easier to achieve, as well as liberating.

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