You can forget pride, dignity is not lost by anyone

We can say goodbye to our pride, but We must not lose our dignity for anything or anyone. If we did, we would also lose ourselves, thus damaging our self-love and our integrity.

Although each person has to assert his or her own esteem, this value is not valid if it is at the expense of others. So we have to know how to discern those actions by those who damage our image and violate our dignity.

Although it is neither the presence nor the absence of dignity that guarantees achieving true love or friendships, what is true is that those relationships based on dignity will be more authentic. Thus, one of the lessons that Albert Ellis, cognitive psychotherapist, left us is that we must always try to be assertive and take care of our relationships.

Neither love nor affection are begged

¿Have you ever felt like you were begging for crumbs of attention? and affection from someone who only showed you selfishness and indifference? The answer to this question is almost certainly yes.

The point is that depending on who we relate to or what moment in life we ​​find ourselves in, we will be more likely to become victims of those people who need to belittle in order to deceive their self-esteem.

Thus, studies such as the one carried out by the behavioral psychologist B. F Skinner in the 70s remind us that Taking care of our dignity and self-esteem is a way of investing in personal freedom. The moment we neglect these dimensions we become subordinate to others, to the need to receive approval, affection, recognition.

Dignity and pride, two coins with different faces

The message we want to convey is “don’t lose someone because of pride, but don’t lose your dignity for someone either.””. However, the line between pride and dignity is really blurry.

For this we have to keep the ego in check, since it will be an excess of it that turns dignity into pride, an empty, intolerant, harmful and unjustified feeling of superiority.

It is dignity that reflects the ability to behave in a fair and balanced manner with oneself without paying attention to pretexts or blackmail that subjugates us.

That is to say, being worthy means respecting ourselves and our neighbors while maintaining a safe distance that allows us to balance the scales.

The importance of taking care of self-love so as not to hurt others

People who love themselves tend to be more consistent and kind. Furthermore, they do not hesitate to use assertiveness, to establish limits to take care of their own dignity. However, they do all this with respect without violating others, without causing harm.

The act of thinking “I have behaved immorally with this person” it distorts our identity so much “good and positive people for others” that we will explicitly commit to resolving this situation and preventing something similar from happening again.

This explains the reason why People who tend to take advantage of others and undermine the dignity of others almost always do so shamelessly. In this sense we can say that there really is something that is not working as it should within them.

The skin grows over the wound, although the important thing is that it heals from the inside.

Dignity makes us strong

Dignity will not make us escape any harm unscathed. Nevertheless, Thanks to it we remain strong in our identity to better handle any event. Abandonments, disappointments, losses, deceptions… We will face everything in a better way.

A person of integrity and authenticity will be a worthy person who Even though events hurt him, he will continue walking, looking straight ahead and with his head held high. because you know yourself and know what you are worth even though negative events or people want you to believe otherwise.

Let’s say that although we will never be the same again, these types of painful situations invite us to strengthen our dignity and our personal identity. We are not going to be less affected or hurt, but our way out of the hole will entail less collateral damage.

In any case, generally when we are forced to decide between our dignity or the lack thereof, the bells of goodbye or change must begin to ring in our head; among other things because, as we have said, We cannot give up our emotional health for anything or anyone.

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