Why those who chose to be a full-time mother and housewife should not feel guilty

According to a survey developed by Catho, about 53% of women have already taken a break from their professional lives to dedicate themselves to motherhood. Of these women, 2% chose to remain full-time mothers and housewives. A trend may be on the rise, but it can often cause guilt and lack of support from family and friends.

At the incredible.club you will understand why, despite receiving a lot of criticism, the woman who pauses or leaves her career to take care of the family, should not feel guilty about her decision.

Whether it’s a planned baby or a nice surprise, after the arrival of a child, it’s not easy to deal with the many hours of work, organizing the house and raising the child. Due to the difficulty of taking care of all this, many women — and men too — have chosen to take a break from their careers or take a job that can be done at home or with more flexible hours.

Studies point to the need for a support network, especially in early childhood, with specialists in education who focus on the importance of a service well done, so that mothers can work. Brazilian data show that the lack of availability of vacancies in day care centers or the high cost, ends up leading many mothers to leave the profession in the early years of the child.

Grandparents were, until some time ago, an option for those who needed to work and couldn’t or couldn’t get a daycare. But over time, realities have changed and grandparents are also taking on work outside the home, as labor laws today allow older people to remain in the workforce longer.

Not all mothers have the opportunity to see the first steps, the first word spoken, the first tooth erupting, the first smile. Therefore, those who have this option are not canceling themselves out or wasting their time or opportunity in the job market: they are making raising their children their priority at the moment. In addition, the “salary” is “paid” with memories, kisses, hugs and smiles.

Research has concluded that in recent years, people are prioritizing family more and less and less focusing on high wages and professional status. They show that parents in the US, for example, are even changing their bosses’ way of thinking, to conform to this “new model” of employee. In Brazil, even if timidly, informal jobs and home offices have shown this trend.

In our country, this change is still very subtle, but it has happened mainly in large centers. Unfortunately, there is still some difficulty for some men to understand that helping with childcare is unrelated to the loss of their masculinity. It is this kind of idea that often makes women “choose” to stay at home after the birth of their child or have a double shift if they decide to work outside the home.

Psychologist and educational consultant Rosely Sayão clarifies in an interview the need to respect the decision of working mothers and those who decide to stay and take care of their children, without preconceived judgments and ideologies, that only one opinion is right for all women . The expert also points out that the mother must also remember to be a woman and take care of herself.

As the educator Rosely Sayão wisely said, we will only know years later if one of our decisions was right or not. The important thing is to be firm in your choices and follow your heart. Stay-at-home mothers need to take care of their children and themselves, knowing that everything has a price and a gain, but that guilt should be a feeling these mothers shouldn’t have.

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