Why men suddenly disappear: the real 9 reasons

What happens when you’re dating a guy, everything’s going great, you start to think he might be someone special, and suddenly…disappears …?

I think we’ve all been through this once or even many times.

You are invaded by that horrible feeling of emptiness, bewilderment and uncertainty. You don’t understand anything that’s going on.

The days begin to pass and you do not receive any messages and you fear the worst.

I’m sure this sounds familiar to you.

I imagine that it is a topic that is part of the conversation that 90% of the girls have when they get together with their friends.

When a guy gets cold with youyou just want to know why.

It’s not even about whether you’re in love or not. It is about understanding something that in your mind (so far) has no explanation.

You want to know what it is you’ve done that has caused such a promising relationship to go wrong, and you’re not ready to let it go just yet.

In this article, we are going to talk on why guys suddenly get cold feet.

so you can decide how to act or if it is best to move on.

Why do men suddenly disappear?

worst when a boy who from one day to the next gets cold with you it’s that you never know why it’s happening.

It’s hard not to blame yourself and think that you must have done something “wrong.”

And it is even worse when this has already happened to you several times. Trust me, I know from my own experience.

There are many reasons why a guy who was once hotter than hot has turned cold.

Most of the time, it has nothing to do with you. A lot has to do with your own feelings, goals, and (sometimes) your own shortcomings.

1) I just wanted sex

When you start dating someone, a lot of the time it’s all about the sex. And it’s great that it is.

They are genuinely into each other and are desperate to tear each other’s clothes off any chance they get.

But there comes a time when you want to go beyond sex.

Maybe they’ve been seeing each other for a few months.

They may have started to spend more time together and feel more like a “couple.”

It seems that everything happens naturally.

This is the point where some guys get cold feet.

Because they really don’t want that evolution.

They were content that it was just sex, and once they feel like you want more, they end up running away.

This is not always deliberate or premeditated.

They may have been quite happy just seeing where things were going. But now that it’s starting to become clear that they’re heading into more serious territory, they’re running away.

2) Has trouble engaging emotionally

We all know that some men are uncomfortable with “feelings.”

This is very frustrating, because you often think that this guy you’ve met could be a caring and emotionally available partner. But he suddenly he walks away from you.

He was very happy to spend a lot of time with you when you didn’t make any emotional demands on him.

But as soon as you want to talk about how you feel or get to know him on a deeper level, he is no longer interested in spending time together.

He is scared by the closeness that you need and want.

These boys were often raised by an emotionally distant father and have unconsciously absorbed the message that men don’t show their feelings.

When they feel that they are getting closer to a girl, they instinctively move away from her.

They just can’t cope with their feelings getting stronger.

3) He is adjusting to the idea of ​​a long-term relationship

If a guy pulls back a bit, but still seems to enjoy your company, then this could be the reason.

Let’s say he still wants to stay and loves the time he spends with you, but he doesn’t text or call like he used to.

Or maybe he just doesn’t seem concerned with fancy restaurants and cocktail bars and seems happy to stay home in jogging pants.

It can be a bit frustrating since you love the fun and excitement of dating. We would all like that phase to last forever.

You don’t want to accept that your relationship is now just about snuggling on the couch!

It’s understandable, but remember that this isn’t necessarily a bad sign for the future.

It could simply be that he is adjusting to a relationship pattern rather than a dating pattern.

Maybe you are ready for the next stage.

Talk to him and see if you can make that happen while still having fun (and if you want to tell him to ditch the jogging pants, no one will blame you).

4) Something happens in your life that you don’t know about

A lot of guys aren’t good at talking.

Yes, it’s a stereotype, but it’s often true.

It’s not a deliberate choice, but something that may be ingrained in some boys from childhood.

This means that if he retiresit is possible that he has something that he has not shared with you.

It could be job stress, something going on in your family, or even a health issue.

Don’t assume that a guy will always tell you if something is going on.

In the early stages of dating, many men feel that they shouldn’t be a burden on their partner.

Many have to live up to some kind of masculine ideal in which they never look weak.

Be nice to him and try to get him to open up without pressure.

5) Your feelings have changed

This is a difficult point.

If a boy has disappearedit may just be the explanation you are fearing: their feelings are not like yours.

This is heartbreaking, especially if he has given clear signs of wanting more from you.

If you had gestures like breakfast in bed, gifts, flowers, and expensive dates, maybe you got carried away.

And now he’s starting to wonder if you’re really the one for him.

It’s very hard to accept, but it’s important to remember that if he doesn’t think it’s right, it probably isn’t right for you either.

Look for a relationship with someone who loves you, 100%.

6) Is there someone else

This is another headache.

It could be that he turned his head on a night out and is now reconsidering being with you.

Sometimes it might not be that you’re looking for someone else, but rather an ex you never quite got over somehow reappears in your life.

This hurts, but if you suspect someone else is involved, set the record straight and move on.

Remember that you almost certainly had a lucky escape.

A guy who isn’t over his ex is never relationship material.

Neither is a man whose attention is so easily drawn elsewhere.

7) He is not ready to make you his priority

Some men (even women) have a very full life.

It may be that this boy is living his perfect life. He works what he likes. He has a very active social life. He does sports.

Suddenly they met and there were sparks. You feel like they really understand each other.

But the truth is that he is not willing to sacrifice anything in his life to be with you and that is why He disappears and reappears when he wants to.

So, even if he seems like the ideal guy, it’s a matter of bad timing. Right now he doesn’t want to commit to you.

Life is now, don’t waste time with what “could be”.

8) He has no courage

We are not going to go too deeply into this point. If a boy you were dating has completely disappeared. In the end, you must accept that he is choosing not to talk to you.

Whatever the reason. There is something that is certain and it is that he does not have the courage to talk to you face to face.

Maybe he doesn’t want to hurt you because he thinks you have feelings for him.

You probably don’t like awkward conversations.

So he decides to run the well-known “ghosting” and disappears without further explanation.

Let me tell you, someone who can’t face a simple adult conversation to express their feelings is not worth your time.

9) You have intimidated him

This is something that is redefining the bonds between men and women.

Women are becoming more independent and determined. They don’t need the hero to bail them out.

But the truth is that they still need to be your hero. It is something that is engraved in their biology.

They want to be someone who can give you what no one else can and who can be there for you.

If he felt that he has nothing to offer you because you alone can handle everything, he may have been intimidated. He may have concluded that they have nothing to do together.

The truth is that strong women need men who can deal with us.

If you want to give him a chance let him help you with something, ask him for assistance. If even after that it keeps disappearing, it’s time to move on.

let your instinct guide you

And here I am going to appeal to your own criteria, which I know you have.

If you are meeting someone who has disappeared and you wonder what to do, then take a minute to reflect.

If there was no opportunity to build anything, don’t go crazy looking for reasons or strategies to recover something that never existed.

Keep going, you will meet someone better for sure.

If you think there might be a deeper reason and that there is an opportunity, give it time. And when you think it’s appropriate, talk to him.

One last try is always good and only two things can happen:

Clarify their feelings and reconnect more deeply You state that they have no real interest and give closure

Either way you can go ahead and go for what is really for you.