Why does he look at me and when I look at him he quickly looks away? (Complete guide)

You feel that someone is looking at you, you see it. He is there.

His gaze is fixed, riveted on you. The second you try to make eye contact, he averts it. confused? I wouldn’t be surprised if that was the case.

What does it mean when you catch a man looking at you and then quickly looking away?

Yes, I know, you are desperately looking for this answer.

And believe me, I understand you. I have been in this situation more than once.

Therefore, in this article I will try to solve your doubts.

Not only will I give you options to understand why he avoids your gaze, but we will also evaluate his gestures and what his way of looking at you could mean.

But, first things first:

What is behind your way of looking?

We know well the saying “the eyes are the mirror of the soul”, and it is used for a reason.

The eyes reflect our feelings involuntarily.

Thanks to them, we can show emotions without using words.

That is why it is so important to identify what eye contact is like with the person we are interested in.

According to Changing Minds, led by psychology coach David Straker:

Eye contact between two people is a powerful act of communication and can show interest or affection.

Possibly, there is something in you that interests him, but:

what does it mean when he looks at me and looks away quickly?

The gaze body language can easily express desire or romance.

Therefore, evaluating his gaze could determine different intentions.

1) He avoids you out of shyness

If you catch him looking at you and when you meet his eyes, he turns his head to avoid you, he may feel embarrassed.

That is, you can not do what you really want.

Changing Minds explains:

Looking at a person can indicate a desire to talk to them.

So, there’s a chance that his look is a way of telling you:

“I want to talk to you, but I still don’t feel like it.”

2) He looks away but then looks back at you

If, on the other hand, he looks away and after a few seconds he looks at you again, his interest in you is confirmed.

Regarding this, Changing Minds clarifies:

“Looking at a person, breaking eye contact, and then immediately looking at them is a classic flirtatious action, particularly with your head bashfully lowered, as if in submission.”

So it may be because he is attracted to you.

If his will is great and his shyness or fear does not stop him, he will make a subtle gesture to show you why he pays attention to you.

Maybe start a conversation or find an excuse to talk to you.

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3) He looks at you and looks away repeatedly

This would already be like a game that you are definitely invited to participate in.

He may not be able to contain looking at you, and unconsciously seeks to speak to you, even if he does not dare.

Perhaps, by doing it repeatedly, he is trying to get your attention or curiosity.

Why don’t you take that first step to see his reaction?

Look back at him repeatedly, just like he looks at you, to see what’s going on.

You dare?

Why does he look away?

Changing Minds explains:

“When a person makes too little eye contact, they can feel insecure.

But this is just one option, you can look away for various reasons.”

1) He pushes her away out of nerves or discomfort

As I already clarified before, perhaps this insecurity is due to nervousness or shyness.

Or maybe they feel uncomfortable with your presence.

This does not mean that your presence displeases him, quite the contrary.

The fact that you are there can make him uncomfortable because he is still not sure how to interact with you.

2) You are forbidden to him

Another option would be that he is not allowed to look at you, obviously within his morality.

Maybe you are his best friend’s girlfriend or he knows you have a partner.

Or maybe he’s married, and he can’t help but look at you because he’s attracted to you.

But he doesn’t want to go beyond this.

The fact that he does not want you to realize that he is interested in you would be making him act this way.

The context of your gaze matters

The look is the oldest means of communication and the one that unites everyone equally.

Have you noticed how your pet can change your mind with just one look?

It is that the power of eye contact is in transmitting without speaking. And hence its importance.

Meeting each other’s gaze, at least for a microsecond, generates intense emotion. And it can say many things.

In fact, there are people who do not tolerate this type of contact because it demands, at a certain point, intimacy.

Whether it’s anger, fear, surprise or infatuation.

We all know that a look can betray an emotion that, perhaps, one does not have the courage to communicate yet.

For this reason, in order to decode a look, it is important to take into account who generates it, what link they have with you and the context in which they are.

If he looks at you repeatedly at a party, he probably wants to talk to you or something else.

If he looks at you while you’re presenting a project at work, he may just be paying attention.

You must be attentive to what is happening around you or in what situation they are.

This way you will avoid mistakes.

You have been warned!

Only you can discern if the information I provide you fits your context or not.

Types of looks of a man

We already know that your eyes can show what you really feel.

According to an article from the Social Issues Research Center (SIRC), the eyes are the most important flirting tool. And there are different ways to communicate it.

6 ways a guy looks at you when he likes you

1) He looks at you with raised eyebrows, while smiling

We make this look when we see something we like, it is a common reflex.

Changing Minds states:

Looking sideways at a person with raised eyebrows can be a sign of attraction.

This facial gesture shows pleasure and attraction to you.

2) Smile with your eyes

Although he may accompany his gesture with a smile, his gaze does too.

Their eyes narrow at you as if they are smiling too.

This sign declares his happiness to see you.

No doubt that you are there has brightened his day.

3) He can’t stop looking at you

When a man is attracted to you, he can’t help but constantly look at you.

His attention is focused on you because he learns to know you and enjoys doing it.

4) He locates you with his gaze

If you’re in a public place, chances are you’ll feel his gaze searching for you.

It’s that their reason for being there may be partly because of you.

It’s only natural that he wants to know where you are.

5) Winks at you while smiling

It’s a lovely gesture, I won’t deny it.

And it is well known as a seduction lure. If so, it is likely that his intention with you is just to spend one night together.

It could also be a sensual gesture to greet you or show complicity.

Changing Minds clarifies:

“Winking can be a slightly suggestive greeting and is reminiscent of a small wave of the hand (Hello, beautiful!).”

Furthermore, he claims that

Closing one eye in a wink is a deliberate gesture that often suggests conspiracy (‘You and I understand, but others don’t’).

This complicity may mean: “I like you and you know it.”

6) He looks at you when he thinks you don’t notice

If in one way or another you notice that he is constantly looking at you. He likes you, it’s a fact.

Although, as I mentioned before, surely he does not dare to confess it.

It may be due to shyness or that he has unknown reasons for approaching you.

What does it mean when…?

1) He looks at me, but doesn’t say anything to me

Shyness or fear of not knowing what to say.

2) He looks at me because I look at him

Curiosity. He must be wondering if you are attracted to him.

3) He looks at me when I speak

Two options:

He may be genuinely interested in what you are saying and pays attention to you when you speak. If, on the other hand, look at your mouth while you talk to him or walk through your body. His desire is sexual.

According to a study conducted by the University of Chicago, the movement of his eyes towards different parts of your body indicates lust.

Looking at your mouth can be a sign that he wants to kiss you.

If his focus is on your breasts, and only that, he may be thinking about sex.

If so, pay attention to which part of your body it looks at, and you will know the answer.

4) He looks at me from afar and ignores me up close

Shame or cowardice. He probably feels intimidated having you around.

There are many men who suffer from not having the courage to break the ice with the woman they like and their attraction remains only in that: admiring you.

But, if you like this guy too much, there is a way to encourage him to go one step further. It’s about the hero instinct. It’s a new and exciting concept in relationship psychology. Something that you can activate in it.

Actually, men are more motivated by how you make them feel about themselves.

Above all else, men want to feel essential to the woman in their lives.

What that means is that you need to make him feel that he is providing you with something that no other man can do.

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Describe the things you can say or do to make him feel like your hero and not be able to conceive of being away from you.

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5) When a man looks into your eyes

According to Changing Minds, where the eyes go when looking is important.

If after looking at you for a few seconds, he continues to stare into your eyes, then it may be love.

In addition, he defines the “lover’s gaze” as mutual fixed gazes that are given more and more often between the two people. Always maintaining eye contact.

What other clues are there when he looks at you?

smiles or touches hair

If he smiles and touches his hair, it is a sign that he is attracted.

It means that he is curious and might have feelings for you.

he provokes you with his eyes

You notice that he looks at you repeatedly, but also, his looks are intense. Those that you feel in the distance and make you shudder.

Yes, you know what I mean. The penetrating glances.

The author of Sexual Intelligence, Sonsoles Fuentes, affirms that this gaze expresses desire.

She explains:

“Our brain is…