Why can some people never find a partner?

As much as social networks have facilitated interaction between people in the last decade, we can say that loneliness has practically turned into a major epidemic in modern times. Half of all adults experience difficulties in finding a partner. We decided to research the reasons and found some reasons that often prevent us from building a harmonious and happy relationship.

Today the awesome.club will tell you what are the six most common reasons that lead to loneliness with examples of famous movies.

We all have our ideal relationship: some people are inspired by popular melodramas, others by cult films, but most people’s big dream is just one: to turn movie scripts into reality.

Example: unfortunately, illusions break when we face reality, as happens with the protagonist of the melodrama Bridget Jones’ Diary🇧🇷 There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, just as there are absolutely ideal people.

What to do: is better understand the other person from the beginning, without making up stories that simply don’t exist. Draw conclusions based on actions, not promises.

Respecting yourself and others is the foundation of any relationship, even a romantic one. Is it possible to sincerely love a person who does not respect himself? Perhaps this attachment is based on guilt and does not bring anything good for either of you.

Example: the heroine played by Kate Winslet in the film Love Doesn’t Take a Vacation falls into the traps of unrequited love for a person who takes advantage of his fidelity and his talent. Everything changes when she finally decides to get rid of her dependence on love, changes her environment, her social circle, finds new interests and a new love.

What to do: to begin, you have to find your inner strength, to face moments of sadness. It can be achievements from the past, interests, knowledge, anything that makes you feel good. The most important thing is not to let people take over your strength.

There is the idea that the manipulation technique helps to establish a relationship. However, none of us like to feel manipulated or that someone tries to change us.

Example: The movie heroine Gone Girl, played by Rosamund Pike, wanted to punish her husband so much for his betrayal that she manipulated him a lot, inventing new evidence every time. When they decide to get back together, she finds his trust and love for her gone.

What to do: in any relationship, we need to act within our borders. They end where the borders of others begin. If you don’t like the other person’s behavior and they, even knowing that, do nothing to change it, you have the right to choose whether to stay with them or not. It is impossible to transform a person if he is not willing to change.

Most people make mistakes and most likely you are not an exception. But sometimes, when making a mistake, a person stops trusting himself, even when he is sure that the same mistake will not happen again. We are often very critical of other people; however, if we are to blame, we usually manage to find justifications.

Example: on the Serie Friends, Rachel can’t forgive Ross’ betrayal. In every season, they are attracted to each other, but only at the end of the series, almost 10 years later, do they forgive each other and end up together.

What to do: you don’t have to go against your will, or pretend to believe in what you don’t even believe, but you don’t have to be so rigid either. If your feelings are stronger than grudges, give the person who made the mistake an opportunity to apologize and let time resolve the problems.

We are used to treating love as a joy and a great pleasure. However, sometimes people are concerned first with solving urgent matters and then with actually starting a relationship.

Example: this is one of the ideas of the movie Free, based on the autobiography of author Cheryl Strayed. She walked 1,800 km alone to recover after the divorce and loss of her mother so she could understand what was happening to her feelings. After some time, she got married in the same place where the route ended.

What to do: sometimes, it takes being alone to solve our internal problems and reach a state of joy to start a relationship. That might even be better than getting someone else’s support. In this way, we create the habit of ceasing to depend on others.

Selfishness is considered one of the main reasons for breakups. If the person in a relationship thinks only of himself and his needs, love is quickly destroyed. In these cases, in general, the selfish person thinks he is thinking about the other, which is a lie.

Example: the protagonist’s behavior in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days it’s really interesting. She is writing an article in which she tells what must be done to lose a man in 10 days, and she does her best to make it happen. However, when she forgets for a few moments to be that annoying woman that she is in the beginning and starts to be open to others and the world, her guy falls in love.

What to do: selfish people often cannot control themselves. But the fact is, they need to understand that other people can be the same too.

From your point of view, what prevents people from getting a partner?