Whatever you ultimately decide to do, make sure it makes you happy.

No matter how old you are, your life takes place in an exciting time. We often think that being happier is something complicated, but… what if you could do something very simple to feel better, would you do it? We all have sorrows, things we feel we have done and not done, unfulfilled desires, people…

So what distinguishes people who seem to be happier from others? The key is the attention we pay to the good things that happen to us and the not so good ones.. As Elsa Punset conveys in this video, the focus of attention is important.

So, whatever happens to you, be emotionally intelligent to keep more positive memories in your memory than negative ones, even if it takes more work. If you have several options to move forward, make sure you choose the one that you know will not make you sad in the end.. And, ultimately, whatever you do, let it make you happy.

May the goal always be “to be happy”

The focus of attention, the ultimate objective, is one’s physical and emotional well-being: no one wants to be in life and not enjoy it. Everyone wants to touch it, taste it and squeeze it to the maximum until it fills us inside with peace.

For that reason, it is always good to detect those little things that make us feel good and direct ourselves towards them. In this sense, Remember that it can go wrong, but if you don’t know what you want or what you are looking for it will be much more difficult for it to go well.

It is about the emotional strength that exists in being clear about where you want to go so that, little by little, you discover how you are going to get there. Happiness is encountered along the way, but it is also an ultimate goal that comes from taking care of ourselves.

The key is to find a correct path

It is totally logical that if we dedicate ourselves to doing actions that we like and that comfort us, we find sources of positive energy. Happiness will be there waiting for you, at the right time and on the right path for you. So, what is the correct path? An individual one, based on small habits that make us feel better every day.

There is no egalitarian method by which you and I can be happy: each one is happy in a special and determined way.. For example, I am able to erase sadness by writing or having coffee with friends, but it is possible that you can do it by playing sports.

The same goes for less trivial issues in our lives. It is true that in these you are not able to predict what is going to happen in the future, but you are able to visualize that some decision is going to hurt you and that you can avoid it. Use that emotional intelligence that we talked about at the beginning and allow yourself more caresses than wounds.

Happiness has soulmates

In whatever circumstance we find ourselves in now, we are surrounded by other people, many of them soul mates who empathize with the way we are in the world. It’s more, Not only are you the generator of your happiness, the social circle with which you live also influences it.

Acts that reflect feelings of generosity, solidarity or affection increase levels of inner satisfaction. On the contrary, envy or guilt can reduce them. Along these lines, it is not a question that one’s happiness depends on others, but it is good to be aware that it has a lot of influence on it and that it is intelligent people to put this influence in our favor.

In short, don’t wait to be happy for someone, but if someone makes you happier, enjoy it. Don’t wait for happiness to come to you without moving, but don’t let it pass you by either: remember your focuses of attention and act according to them. Keep in mind that there is room for the bad and the good, but you decide when to end the first and how long to make the second last.

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Illustrations courtesy of: Pascal Campion