What you think about me are just that: thoughts

Receiving criticism positively is a matter of attitude and self-confidence. We show you how to do it…

To be a strong person on an emotional level you have to have something very clear and internalized and that is that things and Thoughts will affect us to the extent that we give them that power.

That is to say, Neither people nor events have the capacity to harm us, because there is no direct relationship between external events and my emotions. If I am good or bad emotionally it is always because of what I am telling myself at that moment.

In the same way, When someone criticizes me, judges me or thinks something negative about me, they are simply exercising their right to think.evaluate or value, but that does not mean that it defines me.

“Whoever gets angry because of criticism recognizes that they deserved it”

-Tacit-

The thoughts of others do not offend you, you offend yourself.

The thoughts of others are those of others,

Therefore, It is I, through my self-dialogue about reality, that causes suffering, It is not others who offend me with their thoughts, I am offended and I choose what others think about me as the occasion for it.

This principle is very important to know how to accept criticism calmly, as it gives us the key to escape from the prison of suffering or discomfort.

We cannot control or change what happens outside, but We can always modify the way we interpret things. There I do have the power and, therefore, I can say that I am the owner of my emotions. I control them and they are not the ones who control me.

AND Many of you will think: but that is just settling!, it is unfair to be criticized for something you are not or have not done! And I welcome you to the world and to life, both unfair by definition, but with many other beautiful things to contribute.

What keys can I follow to respond well to a criticism?

The first and most important thing is know you, love you and accept you unconditionally. If you know who you are, no matter how much others think, it is impossible for you to care in the slightest, because it will not make you doubt yourself: you are already sure about yourself, you accept yourself as you are.

You must understand that the otheryou have the right to give your opinion

Don’t forget that you have no control to influence the other or make them change their way of thinkingTherefore, it is useless to have a negative and disproportionate reaction that can only lead to the other criticizing you even more.

Serenity in the face of criticism

You have to be open to listening to everyone. Criticism can sometimes teach me lessons and help me grow.

“Criticism may not be pleasant, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. “It draws attention to an unhealthy state of things.”

-Winston Churchill-

When responding to criticism, be calm, both verbally and non-verbally. It is not worth responding with sarcasm, with airs of superiority or with strange faces. That only shows that the criticism has mattered and affected you and you send the other the message: what you think about me matters more to me than what I think about myself.

Look the other person in the eyes calmly, but without challenging them, maintain a relaxed and confident posture and express to them that they have the right to think about you the way they do, even if you disagree and you have a different opinion. The key is not to start arguing, but to accept without sharing, which is very different
Easy? Not at all. We have not been taught to be rational, nor to accept ourselves regardless of what others think. We are influenced to be affected by “what people will say” and to act contrary to what we want so that we are not judged.

In any case, we can manage to accept criticism in a calm way if we practice hard what is stated here, until the day comes when you are able to tell yourself the reality: What others think of me are just that, thoughts.