What would you say to your self from 10 years ago if you met him?

Only you know everything you have experienced, no one else. Sometimes ideas seem to get tangled in your head, eager for explanations, for meaning about everything your “past self” experienced. But no matter how much you try to give them them, you can’t find them, or the ones you can define throw up explanations that make you feel even sadder.

Each of us would have liked not to waste time on things that were not worth it. and do others that would have brought us much more security and enjoyment. Much younger, more naive, perhaps wasting some of the best years of our lives.

Our “self,” somewhat wiser and also less naive, would tell us that those are years to live. and not waste them on activities, people or places that in the long term bring zero benefit, an absolute waste of our valuable time.

What would you say to your “self” from 10 years ago?

“If I had known this 10 years ago”, “How much time I wasted crying for something that was not worth it”, “How many things I did not live out of fear and that I miss today”. “I miss memories of my past taken away by fear, laziness, sadness, insecurity.” I’m missing pieces of the past.

It would be advisable to specify something more, refine episodic and semantic memory and try to reconstruct those memories of your “I”. No longer to dream about what they could have been like, but to know if you still have time to live them. If I had that chance, I would say to that self:

Turn off the TV

Press the OFF button hard and very decisively. Let it stay like this as long as possible, you are not going to learn anything from that “dumb box”. Hold that button down, ’cause you have to save your energy for real experiences or to seek them out.

Buy a good computer and hire an internet connection, it is a good investment in the short, medium and long term if you know how to use it. Use social networks as a form of communication, but don’t expose too much of yourself in them. Don’t let them emotionally capture you.

move on

Do sports, walk in nature. I know you were very busy, my “I” has always been very busy but looking back, believe me, there is always time to contact nature, alone or in company. They are the kindest memories, those of nature and animals.

Struggle

You can doubt some aspects that concern you, but never forget what you want or where you want to see yourself in a few years. Do everything in your power to make it possible, Fears take away dreams or delay them too much.

Spend wisely

Manage your money on things that make you feel good, but that are also useful to you. What you have spent on vices you could have redeemed at times. Work as much as you can and gain perspective and experience, but without straying too far from the path that inertia marks your values.

Don’t make investments you’re not sure you can pay for.. Save what you can and don’t expose anything more than what you can afford to lose.

Assume the losses

Don’t fight for someone who doesn’t show that they want you to. Don’t force situations, don’t get anxious, don’t get depressed if you didn’t get someone to give you what you were looking for. Life takes many turns. If someone changes, he thinks carefully about whether he deserves that second chance based on everything he has experienced.

You are going to lose friends along the way, not because they hurt you, that too, but because you are going to change, and the others too. Breaking the routine brings new people, more in line with how you live and feel at that moment. Don’t make drama out of it. Try to maintain at least a cordial relationship because unresolved open wars bring bitter moments.

Love and love yourself

Love your loved ones and show it to them, even if you are tired, even if you don’t have time. Your family, friends and colleagues are going to need you.

Sometimes they will ask you and other times they will just show you. A friend who is there when you need her is a friend who is always remembered. A daughter who knows how to return to take care of her mother fills her soul with the greatest things in life. She tries to be present at the birth of the new part of your family.

Give more hugs, be more sincere but less combative. Do you know why many people become more affectionate over time? Because one day he feels chills of accumulated loneliness and learns that maintaining a distant attitude towards others has only caused distance, not respect.

Love yourself and take care of yourself. Take care of yourself, pamper yourself, try to feel better physically, but don’t forget that nothing dresses better and enhances features more than security and calm. Change only to feel more comfortable in your skin, never to please others.

What else would I say to my “I”?

Don’t worry so much about everything. You will realize the problems that have a solution and those that do not and you will know how to solve them. Most of the catastrophes of fearful minds only occur in their imagination.Don’t hesitate to want what you want. Many people will question your decisions or your way of life, but never regret or think too much about having done something you really wanted to do.Read and write. There is no feeling comparable to reading something we wrote years ago, an emotional snapshot of how we were at a moment in our lives.Stop being afraid and enjoy what you do more. Travel, do crazy things from time to time and surround yourself with people who are in the same boat as you, even if they are very different from you in appearance but not in values.

There is nothing you cannot overcome, no matter how strong it is.. Your 10-year-older self tells you this, still standing and breathing despite everything.

Yes indeed, set priorities, organize your time well and respect vacation and work times, so that they do not interfere with matters that can perfectly be postponed. The fruits of your future require a lot of concentration on your present.

The past that smells like the future

Nothing of the past can be changed, it is gone. On the other hand, think that the past is something that you should forget but from which you should learn. It’s in your head, in your spontaneous tears and in the path you chose, leaving aside other options.

Experiential exercises like this show us that We have learned much more than we think and that we are willing not to make these same mistakes again, at least try.

Our future “self” will then bring us new dreams and “advice” to carry them out. Do you think those that you had pending from the past can no longer be done? Don’t forget that the advice to your “past self” is the desires of your “present self.”

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