What does it mean to be in love?

When someone thinks they would like to be in love, they sometimes face many obstacles. Obstacles to taking the actions that allow love to flow freely through your relationships.

On the other hand, we feel that the concept should be closely connected with the meaning and fullness of life, so it is important for each of us to define love as a verb, an action or series of actions that we can perform to get closer. more to the people we value. In a romantic context, Some essential characteristics that fit the description of a loving relationship include:

Expressions of affection, both physical and emotional; desire to offer pleasure and satisfaction to another. Tenderness, compassion and sensitivity to the needs of another.Desire of share activities and an adequate level of distribution of one’s possessions. Constant and honest exchange of personal feelings. Concern for the aspirations and desires of the other.

Thus, Love includes the feeling that concern for the other goes beyond any selfishness or interest, so it has a positive effect on each person’s self-esteem and sense of well-being.

“A relationship doesn’t need promises, terms or conditions, it just needs two people willing to love each other above all else.”

-Anonymous-

But do we really comply with this in our romantic relationships? Do we feel that the other is in line with this? Do we act thinking about making the other person feel good and helping them achieve their goals?

Am I really in love?

Many times we face love as something passive that arises, like a state we can’t fight against, like something we fall into, something that catches us. We easily fall into routine, into consensual relationships in which one tolerates the presence of the other, into a coexistence that forgets the most obvious, which is the respect and appreciation of the other.

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Too often we see others as a part of ourselves., which gives us a false sense of security, of not being alone. But this makes us lose our individuality, and makes the other also lose their own identity. And an illusion of fusion is created, of being one, nourished by the fantasy of being in love, and not by true affections and feelings of attraction.

We forget about the other as such, since they are already part of ourselves. Or so we think. And we let the other forget, because we are part of it. Or so we feel

In this way, relationships tend to decline., because we stop looking for what the other needs and start thinking about what we need. Many of the actions we take are aimed at satisfying our needs, and not those of others.

Being in love is seeing the other person

Love should never be an act of manipulation. It is not a mark of ownership over the other, but quite the opposite. Love must show true appreciation for the other as a separate individual.

When we see a person this way we allow ourselves to fully value them for who they are and the happiness they bring to our lives. And it prompts us to be generous with that person, to show compassion and kindness in a way that everyone would consider valid.

Of course, There are many barriers that we put up that prevent us from finding this type of relationship.. We find many of these reasons in experiences from our past or that we have seen in other people.

“Being in love is not about how many times you tell someone you love them, but about how many times you show it to them.”

-Anonymous-

However, By reflecting on the behaviors experienced or observed, we learn a lot, not just about how we harm our feelings toward others, but about the negative ways we feel about ourselves. It is difficult to express love towards another when we do not feel love towards ourselves. Now you know what it is to be truly in love.