What does it mean to be autosexual?

We know the existence of different types of sexual orientation and, although we are accustomed to terms as transsexual, heterosexual or bisexual, specialists affirm that there are other sexual tendencies, such as: sapiosexual, demisexual, skolisexual, pansexual, autosexual, asexual, etc. Today we will deal with people with an autosexual orientation.

The sexual personality is established by a personal script, that is, the internal motivation that historically accompanies the individual through which he establishes his sexual orientation. Orientation is the ability to “feel attraction” to “sexual objects.” The interaction between the script and sexual desire awakens the relationship with “the other.”

The human “sexual objects” that arouse attraction in a person can be: herself (person-object) which defines autosexual orientation; a person of the same sex (homosexual orientation); a person of the other sex (heterosexual orientation) or either of the same or the other sex (bisexual orientation).

All of this forms a more or less structured or stable behavioral pattern (sexual behavior). Sexual behavior is the way that people express (implicitly or explicitly) sexuality.

Autosexual: I love myself, I like myself, I desire myself…

Far from seeming to be a simple masturbation, being autosexual is not based on providing us only pleasure, rather, what happens to us. An autosexual person is that he only feels pleasure with himself, he likes himself, You desire yourself, you love yourself, you feel in love with your person, with your self in itself.

People say that A person is autosexual when their source of attraction is focused on themselves. It’s like a way to feed self-love. In fact, we could even confuse it with narcissistic personality disorder, a disorder that includes symptoms such as: lack of empathy, incessant need for admiration, excessive sense of self-importance,… But being autosexual is something very different.

What’s more, some people claim that autosexuals are self-centered or lack empathy.. However, Jennifer McGowan, a doctor at University College London, denies this and explains: “autosexuals feel more sexually comfortable when they are in their own company, while narcissists crave attention. Autosexuality is also not associated with a lack of empathy or desire to please others (whether sexually or otherwise), but rather is a preference for private and personal sexual experiences.”

True story

Ghia Vitale, an autosexual and autoromantic who committed to herself in March 2017, she is set to get married soon, according to media reports. Ghia Vitale is a writer from Long Island in the United States, who embraces feminism and her fluid gender identity. At the age of seven she became aware of her sexuality. However, she was not able to explore her feelings until she arrived at university.

Now approaching 30 years old, Ghia Vitale wants to normalize his autosexuality. In fact, speaking to Metro.co.uk, has explained how she discovered her orientation and what it has meant for her. The first thing he did is unlearn all preconceived notions about relationships and the idea of ​​having to be with another person to be valid and happy.

“My definition of autosexuality is being attracted to yourself. I have been attracted to myself for as long as I have been aware of what attraction means.. My first memories of looking in the mirror and feeling attraction occurred around age seven. I didn’t learn the term “autosexual” until after I graduated from college in 2013.

My attraction to myself confused me at times, but once I learned about autosexuality, I was glad there was a word for my experience and I knew I didn’t have to be ashamed of it. I recognized myself as part of a relationship with myself since I was in college. “I don’t have the vocabulary to express my experiences,” she said in the interview.