What does a man think when you apply zero contact to him?

Surely you have had very good reasons for having reached the decision to apply zero contact to a boy.

But probably during this time you are wondering what he is thinking. If he thinks about you or has completely forgotten about you and moved on, while you maybe can’t stop thinking about him.

Let me reassure you that zero contact was not a mistake. It was the best way to act, even if he decided not to continue with you.

But first let’s clarify your doubt and see what things he could be thinking when you apply zero contact.

What is a man thinking about during the absence of contact with his partner?

1) He is confused

Did he expect you to text and harass him on social media?

He was waiting for you to come, knocking on his door and demanding explanations.

I expected sad Facebook posts and Instagram stories with emotionally painful quotes.

But the reality is that he only got silence.

This can leave you confused, but in a good way. He’s thinking about you, all the hows and whys, and what happened that changed you so much.

He’s afraid you’ve given up on him so soon and he can’t believe it. The less he knows about you, the more he will wonder about you.

This is a great indicator that the zero contact app works with it.

2) He regrets his actions

After you’ve had a chance to experience life for yourself, you’ll start to miss everything you had.

You will start to think that you made a mistake. He will start to miss you and all those moments you shared.

He has taken everything for granted. The distance made him see that what they had was unique and wonderful. If he doesn’t make an effort right away, you’ll slip through his fingers.

Sometimes you don’t know what you have until you lose it, and that’s often the way with men. After a breakup, they are usually sad, but not broken.

They don’t immediately think about all the things they’ve lost.

It’s only after a while, when they’re done having fun and living out their single dreams, that they realize they miss everything they had with you.

3) He wonders if you miss him at all

What are you thinking during the zero contact application?

He’s used to hearing from you and seeing you often, but now all of a sudden that’s gone.

You can’t help but wonder why. You seemed devastated when you broke up, but you’re not responding to his late-night texts and possible attempts at a friendly call.

You left him thinking:

“Where is that woman who responded instantly whenever her name appeared on her screen?” “Where is that woman who couldn’t wait to see me?” “Why is she ignoring me?” “Why can’t I stop thinking about her and she doesn’t even care?” “Is she in a new relationship?”

She decided that she didn’t want to pretend that you guys could be friends after a break up, because you were hurting her.

She decided to give you some time, to come to your senses and see that she’s amazing and that you had something great, before she messed it up.

He’s sticking to the no contact rule until you’re ready to get involved. She is tired of receiving only crumbs.

4) He thinks he’s “going to win this breakup”

One of the things the men might think about during no contact is how they are going to win.

We all know that men are competitive creatures. So why would this no contact thing be any different?

How does a person win the breakup according to men?

He thinks that if he refuses to contact you first, he will win and become a legitimate quitter. Which will make you a waif.

He is waiting for you to contact him first, because if you do, it will mean that he won. Ridiculous, I know.

If you want to get your ex back, don’t fall for this trick. Stay away despite all the love you still have for him.

If he really cares about you, he’ll contact you first and won’t bother thinking about winning a break up or other stupid things.

5) You’re Fighting the Fear of Commitment

His feelings are divided. He loves you, but at the same time, he is deeply afraid of commitment.

It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him just not being ready to do anything long term.

You will probably get over these fears at some point, but the question is will you keep waiting.

The truth is that commitment phobia can last a long time and he is the only one who can fix it.

There will come a point where he will have to face his fears or he will lose you forever.

His love for you has to be stronger than his biggest fear. Otherwise, it’s not worth the wait and it’s not the one for you.

6) He wonders if you’ve moved on

Will you be dating someone else?

He has not had contact with you and does not know if there are other men in your life. This is killing him.

He’s afraid that breaking up with you has sent you into someone else’s arms.

Someone else may be taking your place and taking what you thought would always be yours.

You won’t have to do anything to make him think that, just his masculine mind will create all kinds of scenarios.

The no contact period will arouse his jealousy and make him realize what he is missing.

7) He thinks he has lost you forever

Why is my ex silent after a breakup?

What are you thinking during the zero contact application?

Another thing he might think about is that he’s lost you forever.

He thinks that he is now officially your ex-boyfriend and that they will never get back together. He is convinced that you either moved on for good or are already in a new relationship.

Men are also good at overthinking and the only difference is that they need more time to get into that phase.

If he thinks he’s lost you forever, that’s a good thing. He will make him anxious and make him miss you.

8) He does not think of you at all, because he only thinks of himself

If you have had the misfortune of meeting someone who is narcissistic, self-absorbed and manipulative, rest assured, he only has one thought on his mind and that is himself.

He’s the kind of guy you zero contact with to get over it, not get it back.

The pain after the breakup will be excruciating regardless of your rationalization and the fact that you are better.

However, applying zero contact will help you in your healing process, because the worst thing you can do is risk falling back into that toxic relationship.

The recovery process will be long and hard, but it will be worth it.

You’ve been missing out on life, taking care of its needs, and it’s time you start thinking about yourself and rebuild your life from scratch.

Keep it as far away from you as possible. Let it go. Don’t let it destroy your life.

How do you know if he misses you during non-contact?

If he seems depressed, changes his lifestyle, or if his posts sound like he’s referring to you, then you know he misses you.

There are also other signs that he misses you and can’t stop thinking about you. Pay close attention to all of them!

1) He changes his appearance

Have you noticed that we women have a tendency to change our appearance, due to some important events in our lives?

For example, when I went through my last breakup, I changed my hairstyle, because I subconsciously wanted to cut through the pain.

Fortunately, this helped me feel like I was a new person, being reborn, and slowly but surely healing myself.

Well, this also applies to men.

If he changes his appearance, for example his hairstyle or beard, it means that he is fighting his feelings for you.

He can’t get you out of his head and hopes that changing his appearance will provide some relief from his sadness.

2) Seems anxious and depressed

It’s really hard to figure out what’s going on in a guy’s mind, because they’re so good at hiding their emotions.

Even though he is hurt, he may behave as if nothing is bothering him.

So how do you know if you’re feeling anxious or depressed?

Just go through his social media posts and look for sad songs, heartbreaking quotes, or anything else that might indicate he’s still thinking about you.

Also, he might post things that indicate he’s having a lot of fun, just to hide his true feelings.

If you’re not sure what’s going on inside her head, you can always ask your mutual friends. But you should know that he will probably find out that you have asked about him.

3) He changes his lifestyle

He’s never been a gym junkie, but now he’s become one.

He has never been into games, but now that is his main hobby.

If a man changes his lifestyle, this is a legitimate sign that he is trying to distract himself from his thoughts about you, because he obviously misses you.

Also, he might be trying to impress you with his new lifestyle. This is especially true if you post your new gym-ribbed body on social media.

4) His friends tell you that he misses you

What is your boy thinking when you apply zero contact?

If a man is injured, he will most likely lock himself in his own cave.

He will hide from everyone around him, including himself, and “wait for better days.”

But sometimes, men decide to talk about their feelings with their friends. Maybe they first enter the man cave area and then decide to share their feelings with their closest friends.

If his friends tell you that he misses you, then you know that he has been talking about you with them.

5) He is acting confused and mysterious

This could be a good and a bad sign.

It’s a good sign, because in most cases, it means that he still thinks about you.

It’s a bad sign, because it could confuse you too.

Last year I pushed my now ex boyfriend away for being demanding and needy.

I decided we should take some time. And then that period of distancing turned into zero contact.

I honestly expected him to text me the next day, but he didn’t.

He texted me a few weeks later, saying he had some mental health issues and needed some time to himself.

Since my feminine mind is wired to detect nonsense, I knew he was just trying to buy more time, because he wasn’t sure we’d ever get back together.

After a short time, I gave him the address of my new job and told him to contact me only if he really misses me. He did it. It took him a while, but he did it.

The bottom line is that men can sometimes act confusing, not just to themselves, but to their partner as well.

6) He stalks you on social media

If he likes all your posts, mainly the ones you posted a while ago, if he comments on your posts and looks at all your stories on Instagram, then you know he is stalking you on social media.

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