We do not know what we have until we lose it

Often after a while we realize what we lost and did not know how to value at the time. It is a very unpleasant feeling. In this article we will learn how to prevent this from happening again.

A star means nothing until it’s taken away. It’s sad but that’s how it is, it’s hard for us to value every detail and every presence. We do not know the value of what we have and belongs to everyday life and, since we believe we have it secure, we neglect it. Hence the great importance of giving thanks and valuing what you have..

Then, when we least want it, we are forced to look at that door that was closed, waiting for it to remain ajar and to give us time to recover something of what is behind it. It may happen that it is already too late and that the pain of loss makes us cry inconsolably at what is over.

If we stop to think, sometimes we are unable to recognize what is essential in our lives and what we really need and want to maintain. We fix our minds on an idea of fictitious permanence through which we try to justify our carelessness towards others.

But no, we are not made of the same stuff as eternity and if someone does not value our presence, we end up offering them our absence. We have all gotten tired of insisting or remaining unvalued, so it is important that we pay attention to the signs.

Silence speaks louder than words for those who know how to listen to it

Problems don’t usually arise overnight., but are preceded by certain games of silences, anger and disagreements. Thus, these behaviors are nothing more than a faithful reflection that something is drowning inside us and that it needs to breathe.

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It is difficult to resolve difficulties when we treat relevant conflicts in a cold and distant manner, when there is no longer any desire to argue, when we believe that all is lost and when we let love freeze.

In other words, problems are not resolved immediately, we have to make an effort to listen to everything, even the silences to which we subject our ideas and feelings.

Accepting is one of the ways to value what you have

An argument has to confront and find people because otherwise it is of no use. In the same way, silences also have to flow with strangeness, with time and with mystery. They have the function of approximating postures in slow motion and calmly; not in order for the parties involved to give in, but to anchor the blunders and recover understanding.

Silences and discussions bring us closer if we know how to understand them, if we approach and recognize its existence, with its anger, with its hostility or with each of the ingredients that compose it.

As long as disagreements lead us to meet, we can enjoy the pleasure of seeing people who were moving away approach us, without having to have to say goodbye.

Don’t say goodbye if you still want to try

Never say goodbye if you still want to try, never give up if you feel like you can keep fighting, never tell a person that you don’t love them anymore if you can’t let them go. Never say goodbye like that, because saying goodbye means disappearing and disappearing means forgetting.

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We have the ugly habit of not appreciating what we have in the present moment, as well as appreciating it too late. When we realize that we have let a beautiful part of our life go, we suffer.

This can happen at the final moment when things break or much later, but what is clear is that the pain will come out sooner or later.

Value what you have

We do not know what we have until we lose it And we don’t know what we’ve been missing until we find it. Remember that love is made every day with details, with attention, with worries and even with anger.

Making love means waking up every day with only one person on your mind, making them happy, taking care of them, bringing them to tears of laughter and happiness, talking to them beautifully and giving them priority. Love cannot be left for tomorrow.